Having let go feels AMAZING!

[LovePoisoned]

Letting go - the stage of universal capability of everything.

You've been there - fighting for your ex, loving them despite everything. We've seen "The Secret", we've been told to stay positive. And we do.
Yet there's always the missing piece of the puzzle - our former lovers.
Where are they? Why did they leave us? Why wouldn't they want us back? Where did we go wrong? What would have happened, if we had just...? Was there a chance to prevent the break-up? Was it our negativity that chased them away?

I loved him. I was cheated by him. I felt a painful inferiority complex, because he betrayed me, and I was immediately to think about what my fault was. Looks? Personality? Or maybe he still had feelings for his ex? Or that girl was really better than me? No, she wasn't!
What could I do? Most often I am told that I simply cannot manifest for somebody else. Yeah, but I did! The fear of losing him, the fear of him cheating on me with that girl totally ate me up! I both loved him, and was very emotionally dependent. These two terms do not mean the same thing, though they're actually synonyms, only a thin border away from one another.

Basically, letting go for me meant getting over EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY (which, as any other dependency, is negative and bad for you), but I kept the love in my heart! After all, love is something that doesn't happen in couples only, unlike the cruel dependency. Love is absolute, it can never be destroyed, it can only be multiplied and transformed from one form to other.

In the first 3 months after me and Andon were parted, I walked the roads with a poker face on, not realizing at all what was happening to me from the inside. Yes, I did experience a great upshift in a lot of aspects - school, studying, friends, sport, even looks. Gradually, I thought, subconsciously, that the emotional dependency was over. The Andon thing was over.
But a telepathic (really, it was!) dream encouraged me to win him back. I knew he loved me, I know he loves me now, too, as I am writing those words.
I watched "The Secret" on May 1st 2011, because I thought that would be the way to have him back. Yes, it is. But LOA is not something that could be described by just one 90-minute-long movie, or a few books.
At first, I came to the terrible realization that it was my fault we weren't together anymore. So much for anxiety, because being guilty actually means you're in control, because YOU did it, and you can UNDO it and repair it.
I still felt grudge, anger, jealousy, hatred, regret... and all other emotions that can easily kill potential success. Even the sense of DESIRE is one with a negative vibration, because when you desire, you are still dissatisfied, you need/want something, you're desperate and you DON'T HAVE IT.
I've seen Andon hold hands with a girl. But I didn't feel jealousy anymore then. I was astonished by myself! Because I knew that fact wasn't worth my attention, they would have never had the relationship me and him had. And they never did.
Currently, Andon and I have no contact. It has been 15 months since our breakup. You might wonder why nothing has happened so far? Why aren't we still together?
TRUTH IS, THESE QUESTIONS ARE NO LONGER PRESENT IN MY LIFE.
I had been struggling, using and misusing LOA.
I decided to let go, in fact, this forum introduced me to the idea.
Letting go is actually the way to have him back. Of course, that is not any kind of controversy, whatsoever. It is just like... I browse the Universe's catalogue, I pick Andon (the guy) and order him BACK... So the delivery is expected to arrive any time now, but meanwhile I will wash the dishes. ^^
My constant DESIRE only POSTPONED the delivery for later and later and later in the UNFORESEEABLE future!
I mean, the Universe is a delivery courier of a high reliability, so why should I demonstrate DISBELIEF AND DOUBT?
I have an amazing life!
Some weeks ago, my friend made me accept an amazing challenge - to list 500 000 (yes, five hundred thousands!) things I am grateful for. I took the plunge. I've only written 108 so far, but the list is growing each and every day. 2 weeks after I began listing those stuff, I decided to detach, to let go.
I admit it - it took me quite some time to come to this conclusion... But the time was worth it! Now I can do things I've never imagined, because I FEEL in the best way I've ever felt! I begin my day with a smile, I jump at chances, I kiss, hug and love everyone around me. I enjoy the company of my best friends, I love running... Oh my, I could rant like that for hours! ^^

MY ORDER IN DETAILS:
"Andon has, after more than a year now, realized the biggest truth in his life. He just couldn't stay away from me any longer. Our meeting took place in a café, and he was so sincere, open and sensible. I had been right all along that it is me he loves, me he longed for. We remember the good times we had with very warm feelings. And NOW we create many more sweet, loving and precious moments with each other. Every day begins with a smile and ends with a tender 'Nighty night and sweet dreams, love'; sex is awesome, me and Andon each develop amazingly in our own hobbies. We share this determination to succeed, we assist each other also. All the good stuff is just beginning."

A forum member modified it for me, so that we could get rid of ANY word with a sense of negativity.
Actually, I posted the draft of my order in a thread here - I just took advantage of some classes at school and my smartphone.
It didn't feel fanatic whatsoever. It felt REAL.
Now I feel higher than ever...

My recommendation: Work on the process step by step.
1. Fill yourself with a boundless feeling of gratitude. Truth is, you probably have at least three things, beside your lover, that make your life worth the living! He/she fell in love with your confident, loving, optimistic self, who loved everything around it! List at least 20-30 things in your life you're thankful for, and I guarantee you - it is life-transforming!
2. Do the things you enjoy most. Do not skip your fitness days. Do not spare too much money. Enjoy shopping. Go swimming. Go to a disco with friends - ALWAYS helps! Do something with your hair, or your style. Follow your progress, see it and feel it. You're now gradually moving to a higher level of your being!!!
3. Make the order. Even a single visualization involving your lover will do. It has been scientifically examined AND proven that a single thought has its effect and will never lose its way (it even works with electrones!!!).
4. Don't think about it. Set yourself a list of rules. Don't stalk your lover on Facebook. Don't ask mutual friends about him. Learn to love your life and emphasize on your favourite activities - this will make you so busy that you won't even have a single second for despair!
5. Calm down. Let go. Really, it's that easy. You're probably afraid that detachment and letting go is equal to giving up, but it is not. You just stop WORRYING and thinking about it all day - because it's wrong to do that. When your lover finally makes contact, which I'm sure will happen, you might be extra surprised about it. That's why it's so magical!

Good luck, blessings and love to all of you! I know that now I've shared this, your success stories are on their way to be published!

[belive88]

Absolutely amazing and what i wanted to read in a day like today! :-*THANK YOU

[tina_attract]

I am sure that you will receive exactly what you desire very soon. 

[AS & I ARE HAPPY MARRIAGE NOW :)]

MY DESIRED MANIFESTATION:
Andon has, after more than a year now, realized the big mistake he had maken. He just couldn't bear all the suppressed love and jealousy towards me. Our meeting took place in a café, and to my great surprise, he has never, ever been this sincere, open and sensible before. I had been right all along that it is me he loves, me he cried and suffered for. He regrets the things he yelled at me. But they don't matter anymore, because I forgave him immediately back then, and it is human to err... Now we are doing the things we didn't do back then, but we also refer to our pleasant past experience with very warm feelings. Every day begins with a smile and ends with a tender 'Nighty night and sweet dreams, love'; sex is awesome, me and Andon each develop amazingly in our own hobbies. We share this determination to succeed, we assist each other also. All the good stuff is just beginning.

Hi LovePoisoned (U should probably change it to LoveBlooming now )

That is gr8 news that you have conquered the toughest part of the attraction process - Letting Go..

I had a suggestion for your manifestation if I may .. Its is advised to focus only on Positive thoughts and the Good things in your ex while you are in the attracting back process.. I found some words in your manifestation which could be labeled as negative.. It would be better if you rephrase somewhat as follows:

"Andon has, after more than a year now, realized the biggest truth in his life. He just couldn't stay away from me any longer. Our meeting took place in a café, and he was so sincere, open and sensible. I had been right all along that it is me he loves, me he longed for. We remember the good times we had with very warm feelings. And NOW we create many more sweet, loving and precious moments with each other. Every day begins with a smile and ends with a tender 'Nighty night and sweet dreams, love'; sex is awesome, me and Andon each develop amazingly in our own hobbies. We share this determination to succeed, we assist each other also. All the good stuff is just beginning."

GOD Bless,
A&I

[JustForToday]

I AM WITH YOU!!!!! thanks for posting that---

i really enjoyed this part:

"I mean, the Universe is a delivery courier of a high reliability, so why should I demonstrate DISBELIEF AND DOUBT?"

thats the way i exactly see it and works the best for me.... not doing much, just waiting for the delivery.....

[LovePoisoned]

Hey there amazing people!!! I had forgotten about this thread of mine, but I opened it because I referred to it in another thread. ^^
A and I ARE True LOVE , wow that's an amazing suggestions, I'll try this alternative! Btw - it is probably not coincidential that you're beloved's name also begins with an "A" like mine.

crazysoul, I'm glad to hear we share this mutual knowledge, and in this way we can transfer it to the whole forum.  ^^

Guys, do you think that the thread should be sticky or at least referred to in the Bible of getting an ex back? I think it would be a nice helping means for those who are in the process.

BLESSINGS AND LOVE TO ALL OF YOU!!! <3

[ipanema]

 
Thank you so much for this thread! It's really uplifting to read, you have such courage in your convictions LovePoisoned!

A and I ARE True LOVE , wow that's an amazing suggestions, I'll try this alternative! Btw - it is probably not coincidential that you're beloved's name also begins with an "A" like mine.

As it happens, my beloved's name begins with an A, too!!!! What could this mean? Something amazing, surely!

[tina_attract]

I'm so happy this thread popped up again. I really needed to read it on a day like today, thank you again LovePoisoned!

[simplyjess]

Very encouraging and well said. I love how you outlined your recommendations! Your desires are on the way.

Thanks for sharing, and much love to you!

[JustForToday]

Hey there amazing people!!! I had forgotten about this thread of mine, but I opened it because I referred to it in another thread. ^^
A and I ARE True LOVE , wow that's an amazing suggestions, I'll try this alternative! Btw - it is probably not coincidential that you're beloved's name also begins with an "A" like mine.

crazysoul, I'm glad to hear we share this mutual knowledge, and in this way we can transfer it to the whole forum.  ^^

Guys, do you think that the thread should be sticky or at least referred to in the Bible of getting an ex back? I think it would be a nice helping means for those who are in the process.

BLESSINGS AND LOVE TO ALL OF YOU!!! <3

I GO FOR STICKY 
its something we need regulary to keep reminded

[kerryann]

Hi,

that is so great you have let go and you are in a place of happiness.  What you really want is heading your way, but don't forget to also be open to something that is even better than you are imaging - we never know what this wonderful universe has instore for us

[JustForToday]

i agree with you kerryann,

its so important to be open to something better as well- we all want to improve our lifes, dont we?

 

[SWEETTEA]

Truly inspiring. Thank you for this post. I know the universe is leading you on the right path.   

[Iron Ur]

attachment is ego based, attachment is poverty conciousness and lack.

detachment/non attachment is spirit based, non attachment is wealth conconciousness.

[Sneha]

Please Ankur ;sticky this....written so simply...very easy to understand and relate to!