Having A Rough Day!

[loveofabundance]

So, I really work hard at being positive, kind and happy.  I work hard to believe that I can achieve anything I put my mind to.  I believe that I am a good person but sometimes I can say and do things that are insensitive and extremely unkind.  I meditate and pray.  I probably need to do EFT more.  But, the thing is, I want to be very kind and sweet and loving and sometimes i can be so bitchy.  At these times, i feel like a fraud even though i do truly believe in positivity.  i am deeply spiritual and feel extremely connected to God.  I do, truly love everyone, everywhere, yet, my actions so often are selfish and insensitive.  What can i do?  I want to have great relationships (in all types, not just romance). 

[LoaCoachNZ]

Wow!
I love what you have written here loveofabundance! I want to highlight one thing that you said which was " I want to be very kind and sweet and loving" These are amazing qualities to have and each and everyone of us regardless of our current situation has the power to be what ever we choose to be.  My question is, are you ready to focus on what you DO want rather than what you DON'T want?

If you are ready, let me make a suggestion.  Get clear on the person you want to become.  Be grateful for what you have in your life right now, express your attitude of gratitude everyday! Visualise yourself being the person you want to be.  Act it out, go out there and be kind and sweet and loving.  Let go of "how" these changes will happen, having faith in yourself and the universe is key here.
Any other negative thoughts or doubts come up, I would suggests zaaaaaping them, reseting your vibration by stopping and saying.  Well now I know what I DON'T want... so what DO I want? Restate what you want and bring all your attention and focus to that!

Best of LOA wishes to you!

[Vicki Christina]

Loveofabundance,  You are a positive voice on this board, and give much to many here.   Gosh, we all have days where we are not perfect.   It takes practice to not let emotions make decisions for you and it sounds like you occasionally let them take over.  Besides doing the things that the coach says above, you may want to do some journaling to discover what triggers the times that emotions take over.  Big hug, VC

[Sonal123]

loveofabundance, even i am going through a similar phase.this post of urs has been a help to me.even i try to be happy and loving but at times i have these rough times.
i made a list of what al qualities i love in myself and wrote about what kind of a person i wish to be.
i read it everyday and it seriously helps.

[Ginny]

I wonder also if you aren't being too hard on yourself? I have heard that even saints get grumpy on occasion (and the Dalai Lama apparently said, when asked if he ever got angry, 'Of course, I'm human!. I just don't stay angry long").

I think part of loving yourself and positivity is accepting yourself even when you aren't 'perfect'. No one wants to be bad or selfish, everyone tries to be good (even if we can't see it! But I really do think it is a rare person who deliberately sets out to be bad or selfish). Accepting your faults means you can accept other people's faults, and be less judgemental. The ultimate effect is that, by accepting and loving yourself as you are, you are more likely to move closer to the ideal that you crave. But even if you sometimes fail, don't sweat it - we are human and don't always get everything right. And how boring would it be if everyone were the same, faultless, all beaming out with the same angelic smiles? (let's not even get on to what defines 'good' or 'bad', because we aren't all even agreed on that).

[BELE]

Maybe it would help just to make some distinctions?
1. God does not distinguish between good and bad. That is a human invention.
2. Good and bad only exists as opposites on a scale. You cannot have the one without the other.
3. Divine love is unconditional love. God loves us always, no matter what. Nothing can change that. Unconditional love is not an emotion. It feels like nothing. A person cannot - and should not try to - radiate unconditional love. Being close to God is not about being good or having pleasant feelings.
4. We are mostly driven by our unconscious minds. The conscious mind is only like the tip of an ice-berg.
5. When we try to focus on acquiring something, which may also be qualities such as positivity, friendliness and happiness, this triggers the conflicting limiting beliefs. These make us feel emotions at the different end of the scale and make us doubt that we will reach our goal. Such limiting beliefs can also influence our behaviour.
6. There are no rough days. That is just a limiting belief. Personally, I never had a rough day. Only people who believe in them have them.
Well, you probably knew this, but...

[loveofabundance]

Thank you all for your caring responses!   I'm sorry that I haven't gotten back to you sooner but I've been so busy. 

@LOACoachNZ, I do understand what you're saying and I do tend to focus on positive things only but sometimes i guess I need a break.  That is why I love this forum, so that I can get the support of wonderful people like you to give that extra nudge when I need it!

@VC, thank you, as always, my friend for your kind words.  You hit the nail on the head when you wrote that I need to keep my emotions more in check.  I will do the journaling as you suggest.

@Sonal123, you are a welcome addtion to this forum.  I'm glad that my words have helped you.  You have helped me by just being able to relate to what I was experiencing.


@Ginny

And how boring would it be if everyone were the same, faultless, all beaming out with the same angelic smiles? (let's not even get on to what defines 'good' or 'bad', because we aren't all even agreed on that).

  That is excellent and so true!

@BELE, Welcome back!  I've missed you!

[CortneyHouser]

Well you desire have a better attitude, ask God (universe) for a better attitude and The path will be showed to you. Things you can do to keep your mood up is dancing, singing, laughing a lot more, cooking, painting, or just smile if you can't do anything else.

If none of that use the secret weapon, walking...

Walking for an hour, looking straight ahead in a far distance outside can do wonders. Look it up - it's the cure for depression. This is one of the most important secrets of the super wealthy people in the world.(who also mastered Law of attraction).

your never act bitchy if you feeling super good.