Has anyone ever felt this way?

[Inspired]

I am really starting to see now a lot of what's going on has to do with me and what has been going on with me for years now. I feel like a screw up at this point. Today I have been reflecting and I feel so down and I feel like I have screwed up a lot in my life and to top it off this whole breakup makes it even worse. Please if anyone has felt down or like they have screwed up their life and if they would have done things different in the past their life would be a whole lot different now as far as accomplishments and feeling better as a person. I have a low opinion of myself now and I'm starting to feel as if I can't get out of it and it's getting worse. Please respond

[Vicki Christina]

Inspired,  Certainly I get very low at times too!   Let’s see, so far relationships usually go good for a few years then - no go.    Education has been good, but I wonder what it could have been if I had been raised to believe I could touch the moon....not raised that way.   It took quite a few years in life and career to realize I could have done anything and everything!!!!   

Well I attracted my X back (sort of) then when he seriously started moving very quickly towards me - calling, texting, sending gifts, making plans to visit - I freaked and it fell apart in a big cloud of triangle drama.   Now I have not heard from him in 2 months.   Can't even feel what any inspired action might be to start it moving towards me again...

Yes, I think I know how you may be feeling.   Sometimes,  "It just happens that way".... no wait - that is the name of a beautiful album by Mindi Abair... 


 Inspired,   I think it is time to start a new gratitude list, tomorrow, to change the vibration.    Today, I remembered for the first time in a year that I was able to change my Honey's decision about a big issue.  I did not want to harp and argue about the decision he was almost ready to make - one that I did not agree with.    So I was able to visualize the outcome I wanted and I repeated an affirmation of a differing scenario from the one he wanted - over and over in my mind (visually and with words).   He called about three weeks later and said he changed his mind.  Success!!!  So, Manifesting is here, but I just can not access it right now in that area.   

Let's choose to focus on what is good and able to be manifested right now in other areas!
Hugs,  VC

[Thumbelina :)]

We're humans, and we all have good times and bad times as well.. But, both should be under your control.. Firstly, about the break up thing... Please note: :
YOUR'E THE ONLY ONE RESPONSIBLE TO MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY, SO WHY SHOULD YOU GIVE THE RIGHT TO MAKE YOU SAD TO SOMEONE ELSE???
makes sense??
Secondly, we all have screwed up a big part of our lives and somewhere we were incomplete and that's exactly how the secret was presented to us... Treat it like the biggest discovery in your life, and you have come across it because God knew that you needed the most.. Now, can you see how great and special are you?
Your an individual just as powerful, strong and beautiful as the rest of us... So, break open the bars and fly high..
Here's the link to my blog.. a little effort from my side.. hope it helps you
http://chandni3poa1.blogspot.com/
hope this helps you....
Look around yourself, you'll realize how much you need yourself.. so live and smile for yourself, because you were not born to please anyone else!!! Be selfish

[HelpingitHappen]

Inspired,

We have all felt the way you feel, we are all prone to the good and bad in our lives.
With me, my history tends to repeat itself. I was thinking about this just a few minutes ago before I came upstairs here to my office to write.
I seem to attract really great women, smart, intelligent, fun, beautiful. Mostly everything I ever want in a woman is in every woman I have had a relationship with.
My pattern seems to be, I get involved with someone, we have a great 4-6 years together, then it gets screwed up somehow and I end up feeling worthless for a year or a little more, then I get happy in myself again, a year, maybe three passes, then I meet someone else and get involved in a serious relationship with them, then 4-6 years later it gets screwed up. I have done this 4 times. The last 4 women who I loved dearly. Thats not counting the last one 8-9 months ago, who I actually loved more than any of them. The one I want back.
I realized that this was all about me, it was my thinking that attracted the good, and my thinking that attracted the bad, causing all these relationships to fail.
I am attracting the one I love back, there have been no concrete signs, no contact, no anything to show whether I am succeeding or not.
All I have is my faith, and my love AND, myself. The truth IS, she WILL return in some form or another.
In each or these relationships, I realize now that I had handed over to them the responsibility for my happiness. I lost myself in each one, every time.
After this last relationship ended, thats when I started to really delve into the Universal laws, and the Laws of Attraction. I read 100's of books, did research on different religions, meditations and even checked out some magic and witchcraft. I have spent countless hours writing my feelings, song, poetry. reading every get the ex back book I could find. I was a desperate man, and I finally figured out that, that's why I am without her still.
This is how badly I wanted my ex to come back to me.
I didn't know that I was applying the Laws in the wrong way. I was in fact still giving my power to my ex, by frantically looking for some fantasy spell, or some hidden truth that I could use to get her back, I was just creating more need in me for her to just hand me back my happiness by being with me again.
It simply does not, and will not work that way. I know this now.
How do I know this? Because what I had been thinking was, is that it was all up to her, its not, its up to me. What do I want? To be truly happy.
At the demise of all my relationships, I felt lonely, sad and despondent. I didn't know enough to know that if I changed my perceptions of these situations as they occurred, things would have turned out differently.
I wish I would have realized this at the end of the relationship before my last one. If I had, I probably would be sitting in my living room now with the one I truly love and adore. We would be laughing, joking, loving, cleaning, cooking, whatever. But I would be with her.
The lesson here for everyone that may read this is the same thing everyone here really knows. You have to be happy in yourself, always. Whether you are with someone or not. It is so easy to lose yourself when all is going well. It is so easy to let someone else take the reins controlling your happiness.
It actually feels like the natural thing to do.
But, I am here to tell you, from experience, that you must keep the responsibility for your own happiness always, whether you are in a relationship or not.
Once you have that happiness and that power back. It is easy to hang onto because all you have to do is remember what happened before.
But once you lose that happiness, once you let control slip through your fingers, thats when things get difficult.
Why do things get difficult then? Because you are vibrating from a place of fear, and those vibrations are sent back to you with more fear.
It is a merry-go-round that seems to never stop long enough to get off of.
You can get off of it though, its not easy and it will take some time. But, how easy it is, and how much time it takes, depends on you.
What do you really want? You want to be happy again.
You must do the work, you must be consistent. persevere and overcome.
On top of it, at all times, monitoring your thoughts and emotions, doing the things that you know is loving to yourself. Like working out, eating right, taking care of yourself, doing things you love to do, creating things you love to create, experiencing things you can be proud of yourself for.
Taking care of your body, taking care of your mind. Getting clear and staying clear.
You do whatever it takes to make yourself happy because you love yourself and that happiness is what you are really after.
You just THINK you need someone else to be happy; You DON"T.
If you don't love yourself, no one else will either.
You might get used under the guise of love, but that will not happen if you truly and honestly love yourself and treat yourself with respect and dignity.
I have felt this way many times in my life. I have felt the crushing weight of failure, I have felt what its like to believe that no one on this earth gives two shits for you.
I have carried neediness, and longing so far in the past, I know exactly how much it weighs. Hell I even invented handles for it to make it easier to carry.
I also know what it feels like to set it down and walk away from it.
There is no greater feeling of freedom than to leave it along side the road you walk. You don't want it, why carry it?
It takes time, and patience, but you will find yourself one day, feeling lighter, everything good will start to click for you. Your ex's will even be back around in some form or another.
It happened to me every time. And it will happen this time also, difference is, now I will be ready and more educated on how I let it affect me.
Whether you want them at that point or not, is your choice. It is your choice, only its one you now make through your power of self.

Writing this has helped me, thank you for reading. I hope that it can, in some way, help you and others who might care to read it.
Peace and Love,
BW