Author Topic: Had contact, bad outcome, but feeling good (Read 1296 times)

Sitfab · « **on:** January 18, 2011, 11:02:55 PM »

Today I've talked to her via IM ( me doing the contact ). Well, from the start I sensed that she's cold with me. For those who know ( those who I've sent PM's ), I've asked if she received what I've sent her. She said yes, she found it to be a nice thing and that she appreciates it, but she felt uncomfortable and felt forced. ( as some of the girls on here told me she would ). The whole thing ended kinda bitter. No arguments, no fight, no nothing of the bad stuff. Civil, just kinda bitter.

On the other hand, I took it surprisingly well, I feel good ( or at the very least it had zero impact on me ) and, strangely, sort of free.

Now, I know what you'd might say : "You didn't trust the universe", "You forced the outcome" and all that. And I know. And I might add that I had a sort of longing ( the kind of longing that you have when you miss your current partner when he/she is away for some time ), so there are still feelings for her at this point, which is definitely bad on my part.

Here's what I did since I've joined the forum :

- I did visualization almost the entire time. Me and her hugging and kissing and doing all sorts of fun stuff we never did. Even visualized us in the future : wedding and 3 babies and all.

I do admit that most of the time up until mid-December and a few times this month I did it in a needy way ( that was all that I could think of ).

- Have an online vision board

- A few days ago I've started doing the gratitude list again, since I've neglected it 98% of the time since I've joined this forum.

- Also almost 70% of the time I have neglected affirmations too.

- I received many signs that we will get back together. I haven't asked for many sings ( just a few times at the beginning and one time yesterday or a few days ago, I can't remember exactly ). Most of the signs were related to the date ( sometimes the exact date "day/month/year" ) that we've met and got together, her birthday her name, wedding stores I pass by that I wasn't aware of them, even though I go by them daily ( after I've said "It would be nice if we got married" and thought about the arrangements, invitations, the exact place where we'd have our wedding ), movie lines, and recently songs about getting back together.

Anyway, the thing is that I know what I have to do now. I'll go on dates more, maybe actually get into a relationship until all possible feelings for my ex are gone ( because they haven't been serving me well lately, so they'll just have to go ). I'll do the affirmations and gratitude list ( with deep breath in between statements ) every morning and every night before I go to bed.

And that pretty much sums it up. I still believe that we will get back together when the time is right. I've read on here that there have been cases when two people got back together a lot worse than mine, so this gives me hope.

The only thing that is bugging me is that all the work I have done up until now has gone down the drain ( although Sweet Spirit told me it didn't in the PMs, but that was before the contact I had today, so... ).

I won't initiate contact of any kind with her anymore. I'll let everything up to the Universe. He knows my intentions already and they are of the highest good possible for me and her. And for this tho work, I'm definitely moving on this time... I swear.

HelpinItHappen ( I believe ) had some stuff written as his signature. It said something along the lines "In the end, all will be good. If it's not good, it's not the end". I tend to believe that very much. So I am moving on, but I'll stay on this forum until I write my success story about us getting back together.

Magdog, MD, Mr. Best Luck · « **Reply #1 on:** January 18, 2011, 11:14:03 PM »

Focus on you,

that point I make for a reason, nothing you do is incorrect. It may appear that today did not go well, everything you do is the right move, I called mine on Dec. 3rd, and everyone said oh no, and honestly she told me she did not want anything from me. then on 1111 she called me and told me she loves me and wanted me there. My point is this, let go, do your affirmations, and with your heart, when you do something, no matter the outcome, it was what your inner guidance told you to do, in the combination of LOA. Do not analyze anything, just stick with love and gratitude.

MD, Mr. Best Luck, humbly and gratefully

UpnDown · « **Reply #2 on:** January 18, 2011, 11:50:28 PM »

Magdog said it perfectly. This is good advice that can be applied to everyone.

Detached&Allowing · « **Reply #3 on:** January 19, 2011, 01:08:34 AM »

I agree whole heartedly with magdog!!

Magdog, MD, Mr. Best Luck · « **Reply #4 on:** January 19, 2011, 01:49:28 AM »

One thing I have learned is not to second-guess yourself, I want to leave you with this thought. You had it would seem a long conversation to a bit, correct? I really am starting to believe the reason we are still wanting them to contact them is because they want us too. Their vibration. You are a fearless, confident, humble(schen

), grateful manifesting machine, we all are. Just be, observe, do not judge, she was seeking your love today or you would have not called. You will know what to do next when the time is right, just be and observe, your wants will merge with your intuition, and the rest will manifest.

Sitfab · « **Reply #5 on:** January 19, 2011, 03:00:54 AM »

@magdog : The conversation was on Instant Messaging. It was kinda short, actually. I mean 15 - 20 min max. Summed up to a phone conversation, I don't think it would've lasted more than 2-3 min.

Yeah, the second guessing sometimes takes a toll on me. I should do something else. Maybe first-guessing

Or something more productive, anyway. Like just be, as you said.

Also, one more thing. She firmly stated that she has changed. What has changed, I don't know, she didn't tell me and I can only make wild guesses ( which are probably accurate, but still a guess ). Since I want her to evolve as well ( as opposed to going to where she was when she was with me the first time around ), can I simply be grateful that she has grown in such a way that she feels love for me again and then be grateful for the unconditional love we share?

Magdog, MD, Mr. Best Luck · « **Reply #6 on:** January 19, 2011, 03:13:05 AM »

Quote from: Sitfab on January 19, 2011, 03:00:54 AM

@magdog : The conversation was on Instant Messaging. It was kinda short, actually. I mean 15 - 20 min max. Summed up to a phone conversation, I don't think it would've lasted more than 2-3 min.

Yeah, the second guessing sometimes takes a toll on me. I should do something else. Maybe first-guessing Or something more productive, anyway. Like just be, as you said.

Also, one more thing. She firmly stated that she has changed. What has changed, I don't know, she didn't tell me and I can only make wild guesses ( which are probably accurate, but still a guess ). Since I want her to evolve as well ( as opposed to going to where she was when she was with me the first time around ), can I simply be grateful that she has grown in such a way that she feels love for me again and then be grateful for the unconditional love we share?

Yes man, focus on positive changes, and honestly that is a long time, believe it or not. A 15 minute conversation is long for most things per human nature. It is all a success, and affirm what you want and be grateful.

Sitfab · « **Reply #7 on:** January 19, 2011, 03:50:05 AM »

Thank you.

Well, here goes my gratitude list. I have made it so that other people in my situation will find this helpful :

- I am grateful that I am whole and complete
- I am grateful that I live and manifest a life full of miracles, one after another
- I am grateful that I give and receive uplifting love from everybody
- I am grateful that all attractive men/women find me "mouth-watering jaw-dropping attractive" and "the man/woman of their dreams"
- I am grateful that I am now the best me I can be
- I am grateful for my extremely good health
- I am grateful that I have a roof over my head
- I am grateful dad is offered his dream job and is extremely happy with it ( he's been put out of work as of last week, so this is for me only )
- I am grateful that I am manifesting my desires quickly and effortlessly
- I am grateful for the wonderful friends I have
- I am grateful that _insert name of ex here_ has grown into a person that healed her wounds from our past relationship and now sees my outstanding worth
- I am grateful that _insert name of ex here_ shares her unconditional love with me and that we are madly and passionately in love with eachother.

Is this good?

Magdog, MD, Mr. Best Luck · « **Reply #8 on:** January 19, 2011, 04:00:58 AM »

http://www.powerlawofattraction.com/forum/6/letting-go-mp3-and-script/msg14409/#msg14409

this is what felt good for me, and I made a subliminal I listen to twice a day, its silent, I have someone that make them, other than Becky, better price. I suggest you take this, and what you have done above, and combine them, to what feels right for you.

Vicki Christina · « **Reply #9 on:** January 19, 2011, 04:26:38 AM »

Sit, It is good that you are able to regroup and begin with affirmations and gratitude statements. You never know what the universe will do with these desires. Do not feel like it is starting over from day one because you have come a long way - as you know!

Sitfab · « **Reply #10 on:** January 19, 2011, 06:55:42 AM »

VC, I actually DO know what the Universe will do with my desires :

Bring Them Into My Reality

When and how, I don't know and it's not my job to find out. My job is to trust the Universe that it will bring them to my reality and detach from the outcome. I've already manifested some tools that will bring those desires into my reality.

And for my main desire, yes, I know I've come a long and very hard way and I managed to get through. I feel so free, so great and so alive I couldn't care less if it comes to fruition or not. I have completely forgiven myself for my past mistakes and love myself so bad it's awesome.

Bring on tomorrow, baby !!!!!!!

God, I rock

Sweet Spirit · « **Reply #11 on:** January 19, 2011, 08:44:55 PM »

Sit fab,

You are about to manifest some wonderful things. Keep up your gratitude list EVERY day and EVERY night. You are letting go, you love yourself and you believe that the universe is going to grant your desires. Just remember to replace any negative thought or fear with a positive one (and I believe you are good at doing that because your negative feelings never last very long.)

You have it down pat. How could you go wrong? When things don't happen quickly enough we as humans tend to get anxious and wonder why LOA is not working in our favor. We wonder why? when I did everything I was supposed to do, why is it not manifesting? We can not question why or even when. The universe knows when the time is right and when we are ready to receive. It has to line everything up perfectly. We just need to trust that and be excited that it will happen.

I am so glad that you feel great and have accepted things as they are right now. You are in a great position so get ready to receive!!

Sitfab · « **Reply #12 on:** January 19, 2011, 10:50:44 PM »

Thank you very much, Spirit.

And you're right on the second part of your post. I've said this before in a previous post a long time ago. Most people tend to take LOA like a magic pill. While indeed it is magical, it's not a quick fix pill and definitely not a one way road. You as an individual will have to be in alignment with yourself and the Universe at the same time.

Only then will you and the universe create more than favorable circumstances for yourself that will make you succeed. While you may think that the Universe will give us absolutely everything on a silver platter, in some instances you may have to do some ( serious 0 work for yourself in order for the manifestation to come into your reality. And HERE's where everybody gets anxious, because it's out of their comfort zone to work on themselves.