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[loveofabundance]

Some of you have been following my story from the start, for those of you that haven't, i was despondant over initiating a separation from my boyfriend.  i felt it needed to be done so that I could make sure that i was able to love him 100% unconditionally.  you see, i was becoming too emotionally attached to his actions and that is not good for any relationship.  When we were first "apart" i wrote of sublimating out of my body and just giving up this mortal coil (much respect to my emotions, but "gag, me!'') Anyway, i soon felt good about myself and detached myself completely from the situation.  i even got a marriage proposal from another guy this weekend.  But, of course, i still love my boyfriend because i saw him in a vision during mediatation before i met him.  i mean, really that makes an impression on a girl! Well, i texted him tonight.  i texted him a quote that reminded me of him because it spoke of his passion.  he texted back right away with a lot of enthusiasm!!!  We are communicating again, happily!!!  one thing i should mention is that we've never had anything but a good moment together.  sometimes, we frustrate each other, but we do talk and that had made it easier for me to have faith in us.  just so everyone knows, we spend a lot of time trying to attract the other person but we must remember to also allow ourselves to be attracted by them. Thank you for your support everyone!  i am here for you too!

[Life Is Blissful]

Really glad for you.  Just be in the same state of happiness and every good thing will happen for you.

[loveofabundance]

Well everyone, i texted with him for three days before he left to go out of town.  he was always very prompt to reply but then he stopped.  I texted him after he got back asking what was up and no reply.  i texted again last night, still no reply.  I have never been one to call him all the time nor text him.  I always respected his space.  So, it's not as if i was a crazy lady constantly trying to communicate with him when he clearly wasn't interested.  We were together for six months and i was always very repsectful.  Yes, i was the one to break up with him because he was taking me for granted but i was very clear and kind about it, although i did get emotional.  This was the first time in the entire six months that I ever got emotional, so I dont have a history of that.  Well, i feel like he is doing this because i broke up with him so that now he can be the one to finally end things, which is fine by me.  He may even have someone else by now, for all i know.  What I don't appreciate is the fact that after we started communication again, he just cut off all contact. No explanation at all.  I think that is extremely disrespectful to me.  i was kind and supportive to him and I did give him an explanation when i ended things.  he is entitled to be with whomever he wants and feel any way that he wishes, that is not a problem.  i am just suprprised that he would not show me the respect of telling me he doesn't want to see me anymore because he has moved on, etc.  To just cut off all contact is extremely cavalier.  I guess he was not the person that i thought he was.  i feel upset with myself for being so blind.  i spent a lot of time sending him love, doing visualizations, meditating, praying, bettering myself etc. in the hopes of improving our relationship when we were together and of course after we were broken up.  Well, i am not putting anymore energy toward him.  i chose to focus on his positive points and support and believe in him and he chose to let me go. 

[stevelewis]

This is what happens... I'm not sure how long you left it original back to the start of July when you started texting back and forth again, but now having been into this process of 3 - 6 months now, and reading the bible which states you need 3, 6, 12 months min. I would have to agree 12 months is probably whats needed with NO contact whatsoever... Move on, let go make space, meet others, etc, etc.

With regards to your frustrations of his ignoring and not letting you know... Well I had exactly that, and recently got a lot of the answers which you know what, did help, but now I've got them, it doesn't change much! I even said to her on our last conversation "Why do I give so much to you and trust you and get nothing in return?". I dunno, but shes got someone new, I've got someone new, and you know what?! I MISS the feelings that my soulmate gave me, and I won't settle for anyone that I don't feel the same for, that's what this whole thing has taught me, don't just settle for second best, or 'this'll do!'. My current gf knows all about my soulmate/ex whatever you want to call her, and honesty is the best policy (spent 5 years in a relationship I was not happy in, there were secrets and rubbish around all the time and will NEVER do that again!) Maybe I'll speak to my last soulmate again one day (we've lost contact for years and then it's come back together again!), but it's not now, so much to sort, and experience!

So LOA, choose to look after YOU, and work on YOU! Good luck with it

Steve x

[BELE]

stevelewis: Hmm... What's this bible?

[stevelewis]

http://www.powerlawofattraction.com/forum/6/bible-of-getting-your-ex-back-dns-post/msg1970/#msg1970

That one, All read it Should be stickied TBH!

[bissesar]

If it's LOA, it has to be happiness..
Cheers!!!

[BELE]

stevelewis: Thank you! I thought I would never use that expression, but here I go: Hey, thats heavy stuff man! And I really mean it. I never thought you could get that messed up over love. To me it has helped a lot to know: 1. I am responsible of my own happiness. We don't have relationships to get happy, but to have a wonderful adventure. 2. Grief is only love that you don't know where to put.

[Vicki Christina]

loveofabundance, Try to have an attitude of gratitude for the communication you had with him and know when he is ready there will be more with new improved love!

[schenderson22]

I couldn't agree more Vicki!   

[loveofabundance]

Thank you so much for your replies.  I'm really not upset, at this point, that he broke off contact because it helps me so much to let go even further.  See, the reason I broke up with him in the first place was so that I could let him go because the I want him to feel completely free with me.  I want to be so happy and responsible for my own moods that no matter what he does, I am happy with me.  The letting go process is crucial and I am beginning to suspect that it is very different for females than it is for males.  @Vicki, I agree with you 100%.  I am extremely grateful that when I texted him, he was immediate to respond.  To the males, I am guessing that he was waiting for me to get in touch with him and was so happy that he responded right away BUT then it set in that "wait a minute - you broke up with me" and now he has set up no contact, which he has every right to do.  That's fine by me.  As far as energy goes everyone, the woman has the upper hand.  She just does.  And the only way she can really win at the LOA game is to let go and detach.  If he wants me, he can come to me.  If, he doesn't, someone else will.  It really is as simple as that.  I have options.  Just because I prefer him now, doesn't mean I always will.  I live in a tropical location.  There are plenty of hot guys.  It's beach weather 300 days a year here and I have a bikini body.  No worries!  I am going to start a new topic about the first time I was in this situation.  I adored this one guy, he couldn't care less and I ended up attracting him back twice to the point that the tables were totally reversed and he was crushed at loosing me and I was completely over him.  It will hopefully answer peoples' questions about the nature of letting go, at least from the woman's point of view.

[Vicki Christina]

Let go, detach, and send love.   My BF has had long no contact periods during this separation.   It is about him getting his feelings sorted.   

[loveofabundance]

i totally agree Vicki!  Some people think that detaching is giving up but it really is about learning to put yourself first and not let other people's actions nor perceived feelings about you effect your own sense of well-being.  of course i still love him and still do feel we have a chance BUT I feel so much peace realizing that no matter what happens, i will be happy.  i don't need him in order to have a great life.