Giving up vs Detachment

[Mr Brightside]

I just wanted your guys input into this.  I know many people on here talk about detachment in a way of just letting things go their natural way, being happy regardless of the outcome and expecting the positive end result. I am wondering how giving up on the situation affects manifestation. I am at the point that I feel like I have done everything I can, but I guess I could have done more since my desire did not come true, so I am thinking of giving up on the process all together.

[Sneha]

Stef - Detachment actually means to be happy in the present regardless of the fact if u have or don't have what you want.Have u seen sometimes u make a small desire for something and naturally forget it amongst the hustle bustle of daily life, and that thing simply manifests.Thi is the detachment feeling.....for eg : you immerse ur self in a hobby or a project, get too engrossed and naturally for get about ur desire...it actually just comes to ur mind..one or twice.....or may never during the entire day cos u r too busy enjoying what u r doing....that si the time when things start manifesting.

I have experienced this feeling many times and manifested too, but right now I am too caught up between the negativity of my mind for my desire.

Regards,
Niraj

[Dr Scully]

I think detachment is positive energy, while giving up and saying "I did all I can and I didn't get it still", is negative.

Stefzilla, there wasn't anything more you could have done, whatever has happened so far, was meant to happen.  Although I know it may not seem that way right now...

Now, are you giving up because you don't desire that particular person/thing anymore?  Or do you feel like "giving up" because you haven't manifested it yet?  If it's the latter, then I think that's just negativity talking and you haven't fully detached from the outcome.

[star24]

Stef this could be your crossroads and your at the point of really, truely letting go!...let go with faith and positive energy then things WILL manifest! if either way your no longer thinking about what you desire, if you continue, ending things on a positive note at least things may still happen, but if you "give up"...well that will undo all your good work and will ultimately end any chance of it happening. I would love to be in your position of being able to let go and be free of all my ups and downs of thoughts and fears! and leaving things ultimately to faith ...take the positive route instead of the negative because then your still open to possibility! xx

[Mr Brightside]

Its hard because I do feel like I really did make so much progress. No doubt that LOA works, since I started and joined this forum I had great things happen. I got a new job, got a promotion, lost a lot of weight, and really addressed many areas in my life. I am the point now where I am completely self-sufficient, which is a great feeling. The only block I have is on the relationship front, where most of my focus is. I make progress, then I fall back again.. I have weeks where I wake up with a smile and just go with the flow.. and then there are times like this week where I feel drained and tired from my emotions. Its hard to explain but I wake up and it feels like my chest is going to explode, and my heart wants to jump out… I guess I am just having anxiety over the whole thing.  With my ex it feels like I get close, get a little taste of how good we could have it .. and then she backs off again. I am constantly worried that today will be the day I get the call about her moving on to someone else, and then there are times where I am just expecting the best. I feel like Rocky, boxing round after round against a huge opponent and not knowing where its going to end.

[Sneha]

Have u tried EFT?

[Mr Brightside]

Once or twice, have you tried it ? I didnt hear any results from anyone so i gave up on it after a few times

[Sneha]

I tried it.....when I was regular I saw results big time.... in fact u reminded me ...I have to get back at it!

[Peaches97]

Stefzilla i totally kno how u feel...ive had this thought a few times...wondering if I should just give up because my situation seems pretty hopeless since he has seemingly really moved on to someone else, moved away to another city etc...all these things that are not in our favor and they sit there and nag in our brains...but you know what? Then I think of him and what we shared and how could I possibly give up on this desire...you have to think too...theres a reason youve taken this journey and detachment is so close:).. just when youre about to give up is usually when something happens that is positive..ive noticed that too...just a thought:) ...

[JustForToday]

stef, all i can say is, that when we think we give up, its not really giving up, maybe just the feeling of us.....
i read often though, that when we thought.---- oh well, i am stopping now..... then suddenly it happens, cause we truly let it go, even though WE might think we give up on it.

forgetting is also one thing, makes a manifestation faster and easier, cause we think we forget about all, but we dont really, cause our wish is sent. so what we truly wish in ourselves wil come anyway, without doing anything. you just have to wish it!!!

 

hope that makes sense

[truelove]

Melanie is right we do make it far more complicated than it really is.. just wish and forget it.

As a matter of fact you don't even have to wish, you sent your request the minute you knew you liked something or wanted it... all you have to do is get out of the way of it coming to you.. this is the part everyone finds the hardest because we always think we have to DO SOMETHING.. we don't, we just have to not worry about it. 

[Mr Brightside]

Thanks guys for your support, it really helped me. I woke up today and I felt great, really optimistic about the future.. no matter what it brings. I drove to work, about a hour drive, and I was singing along and rocking out to songs. I feel really good , maybe It’s a good sign or maybe I have gone a little … crazy. I should change my name to CrazyStef

[tina_attract]

I agree with crazysoul that sometimes giving up is detachment. Because I have had moments where I was like okay forget this, I'm not going to bother anymore, this is wasting my energy.. and then it manifests. And I'm like what?? Lol but I think it's better to be more positive when you decide to invest less energy in it, because when I give up, I usually feel very negative and when I do manifest it, it may not be amazing as I originally wanted the outcome to be, whereas if I let go with faith, I feel like it would be manifested in the best way possible.

[Topettu]

I'mma give you my opinion on detachment Stef.
I think detachment is when you don't think that person is essential for your happiness.
When you are happy with and by yourself. When being with that person is not the most important thing but just one of the things. When being with that person presents just a cherry on the top.
When you are not obsessed with being with that person. You are happy on your own.
Whenever you think of that person it makes you smile. It only brings out the positive feelings in you.
You NEVER feel any negative emotions..Why? Cause you're already happy on your own.
You do love that person tho. And that love makes you happy. When you think about that person..you're as happy as you already are.
Confusing right? Basically you just need to be happy on your own. You wish to be be with that person but you don't NEED that person. You think to yourself 'oh i'm already so happy..it'd be so nice if i were with that person..'
see this sentence? IT WOULD BE NICE..it's not I NEED TO BE with that person, I will be sad IF I AM NOT WITH THAT PERSON..
Your happiness does not depend on that person, your happiness can only increase because of that person. But if it doesn't..you're already so happy and content that it wouldn't make a big deal.

The problem with us people in love is that we let that other person take control of our lives and our emotions. We think we need them for our happiness. We become so obssesed with our love for them that it brings out the negative emotions instead of the positive. That's why we need to accept our feelings for them as something beautiful, amazing and something that makes us happy regardless of the OUTCOME.
And that's how we actually achieve their love..by being nonchalant. By detaching ourselves from the outcome.
It's cause our love for them is nothing but just love. No bad feelings,  no expectations, no emotions JUST LOVE.
Isn't it obvious the one who gives out REAL LOVE/100% love and nothing but that LOVE to someone is the one who's going to be with them?

Oh and you're completely confident that you're going to be with that person. You will be and that's it.
You're looking forward to when you two will be together.. You're 100% with no doubts that you and that person will be together. As I said you only feel positive feelings regarding that person..You're confident you will be with that person but IF BY ANY CHANCE it does not come true..'oh okay' that's how you feel about it.

So no detachment is NOT giving up. Giving up brings negative emotions. And negative emotions don't bring anything good.

[truelove]

I'mma give you my opinion on detachment Stef.
I think detachment is when you don't think that person is essential for your happiness.
When you are happy with and by yourself. When being with that person is not the most important thing but just one of the things. When being with that person presents just a cherry on the top.
When you are not obsessed with being with that person. You are happy on your own.
Whenever you think of that person it makes you smile. It only brings out the positive feelings in you.
You NEVER feel any negative emotions..Why? Cause you're already happy on your own.
You do love that person tho. And that love makes you happy. When you think about that person..you're as happy as you already are.
Confusing right? Basically you just need to be happy on your own. You wish to be be with that person but you don't NEED that person. You think to yourself 'oh i'm already so happy..it'd be so nice if i were with that person..'
see this sentence? IT WOULD BE NICE..it's not I NEED TO BE with that person, I will be sad IF I AM NOT WITH THAT PERSON..
Your happiness does not depend on that person, your happiness can only increase because of that person. But if it doesn't..you're already so happy and content that it wouldn't make a big deal.

The problem with us people in love is that we let that other person take control of our lives and our emotions. We think we need them for our happiness. We become so obssesed with our love for them that it brings out the negative emotions instead of the positive. That's why we need to accept our feelings for them as something beautiful, amazing and something that makes us happy regardless of the OUTCOME.
And that's how we actually achieve their love..by being nonchalant. By detaching ourselves from the outcome.
It's cause our love for them is nothing but just love. No bad feelings,  no expectations, no emotions JUST LOVE.
Isn't it obvious the one who gives out REAL LOVE/100% love and nothing but that LOVE to someone is the one who's going to be with them?

Oh and you're completely confident that you're going to be with that person. You will be and that's it.
You're looking forward to when you two will be together.. You're 100% with no doubts that you and that person will be together. As I said you only feel positive feelings regarding that person..You're confident you will be with that person but IF BY ANY CHANCE it does not come true..'oh okay' that's how you feel about it.

So no detachment is NOT giving up. Giving up brings negative emotions. And negative emotions don't bring anything good.

So very, very well said Topettu!