Getting back together with an ex

[Lovelife]

Hi everyone
I'm trying to get back together with my ex boyfriend. I'm new to the LOA stuff. I was wondering if anyone had any advice for me? My boyfriend and i broke up almost 3 months ago, we were dating for over 2 years before that. The more i read about the LOA i realize i attracted the breakup, i was always thinking negatively. I was worried he didn't care enough about me, or that he would want to break up with me and thats what eventually ended up happening. We started arguing a lot about stupid things, and i guess we just eventually rubbed off on each other the wrong way. I don't feel so needy anymore, but trust me i did go through that phase for a while after the breakup. Whenever we would talk we would end up arguing, because i was still hurt about the breakup. The longest we've been without talking is only a week, but it's always me talking to him first. so i decided its best that i dont talk to him for a while. I'm doing ok on my own now and im not so upset anymore, but i still love him and still want to be with him. I write in a gratitude journal often (not every day necessarily but still often), and i visualize everyday about us being happy together.
But i still sometimes find it hard not to get upset. Today i saw his mom for the first time since our breakup. It was very nice seeing her, and we talked for a little bit. But it made me miss his family and miss him more as well. What should i do in a situation like this when it upsets me? Should i take it as a sign from the universe that i saw his mom today?
I also sometimes get discouraged when i see that he is online and doesnt talk to me, things like that. But i try to remind myself that the universe is finding a way to get us back together again.
Reading the posts here encourages me and makes me feel a lot better though
Any help, tips or success stories would be greatly appreciated! thank you!

[stevelewis]

I love life, and welcome to the forums. I am pleased you've had a good read around this site and seen similar stories of people going through similar things. Sounds like you've made the first few steps and past the desperation stage, this is great to hear, and I think 95% of us go through that!

I find the best thing to do is give yourself time alone, no contact, remove him from FB and online messaging (I removed my ex from MSN but NOT blocked), so I didn't see her pop on and off. I could add her again in the future, and she could still message me if that's what she wanted to do.

If it still hurts it's good to just block them away for a bit. I took the opinion that if she wanted to contact me she had a load of methods, e-mail private message through FB, address, phone number, etc. I didn't want to see her signing in and out and NOT talking to me. Worked for me.

Have you improved your life (i.e. excercise, going out doing different things with friends, etc)? If not find some things you want to change about you, or your surroundings. Could be as simple as sorting out some boxes or a cupboard round the house u've been meaning to do, etc. Start with smaller things, nice easy targets, and build it up from there!

I hope all goes well for you. Stop that contact, stop 'seeing' him in ways that you can't stand (MSN, FB, etc), and work on you. I am sure he'll contact you at some point. Just don't be too 'available'

Good luck and keep us posted!

Steve x

[57angel]

@Love, Steve is right, start from detaching yourself from him. When I came in here with the hope to attract my ex, thats what I first learned, to detach myself from him. I deleted him in my YM friend's list. He emailed me before I decided to end communicating with him (we were no longer in a relationship that time), he emailed me from FB telling me that he already had an account in there. He invited some of my family members and cousins whom he met when he was here, but only three accepted him. Even then I stopped communicating with him, I still checked on his FB profile and my negative emotions then welled up when I learned that he is already in a relationship. It still hurt me, and so I just decided to stop going in FB, except for when I got an email from there and I no longer check his profile, then I started being happier. I also put out from my room the things he gave me. Indeed letting go is the hardest part but this is required. Start from letting go, do things that will make you happy, continue your affirmations and before you know it, he is already there in your doorstep. Keep coming here and read stories of those who are here and successfully get their ex back, you will be inspired from their stories

[aareeba]

Hey,

i came here for almost in the same situation.I was engaged and he was so much in love with me...but suddenly he quit (almost 2 years now)but somehow we both were in contact.he just talk to me sometimes v rude and some times v casual...i always tried to contact with him...i know how diffiicult it is
 to live without ur loved ones..but anyway about 2 months ago he quit without saying anything
i text him many time but he didnt reply.and than i collect all my strength and thought why always me to contact to him??we both love eachother but its always me after broke up who is trying to keep this relation
i was so hurt.couldnt sleep well(2 yrs.)but didnt stop praying,doing meditation...and things like that.
but when he stopped calling me i was even unable to do meditation.

Iam fortunate i got this site.and ppl helped me so much they asked me to detach myself from his thoughts.
and trust me as soon as i stopped thinking about him...and ask the universe to fulfil my desire and
and wishes...it starts working...TRUST ME :)just in a week he text me and seems to me
very different guy(very caring and loving)and its so amazing.
I do reiki for the betterment of our relationship.I do send positive affirmations to him at late night
.and that works a lot too.try it.it takes few days but it works.

Do pray for me...and yes i got so many signs from universe and even for this site...i.e.
"Join the successful marital cours".Trust your 1st gut feeling.

[Lovelife]

thank you so much for replying guys! i really appreciate it. I know i should stop talking to him, but its been so hard because we were like best friends before, so we talked about everything together. but im serious about this, and i know its for the best so i really will stop contacting him. do you have any tips on detatching from him? i feel sort of detatched now, im not so hurt everytime i see a picture of us or something that reminds me of him. and i also dont feel like i could never be happy again. i know that i can be happy without him, and that there are other people out there. but i dont want anyone else other than him. i feel like he is worth it. so im not sure exactly what really being detatched would feel like? am i on the right track? and what can i do to continue being detatched?

also how is everything going with all of you?

[57angel]

I know Love how difficult it is to detach yourself from him as he is already part of your life, but this is a requirement to get him back into your life. Do things slowly to gain your power back and he will surely know that. I am sure that you will be happy again, even without him if you choose to. The more you will tell that to yourself, the more you will feel negative. Do things that you love, do your affirmations. Tell yourself, "I completely and profoundly forgive, accept and love myself" for a thousand times in a day. Ask for the LOA practitioners here, you will learn many things from them. Best of LOA to you, always know that you are very wonderful and you deserve the best of love in this life:-)