My thoughts on this. When we are using the LOA process and sending love and gratitude, there is something in us that change. We become a more positive person, transformed as one would say. The reason we lost them in the first place is the way we acted or handled things. We were on positive waves, more negatives and they leave.
I view the universe as God. All things are possible with God. God is positive, love. You become a more loving person, transformed, allowing yourself to be changed. You look in the mirror and you like what you see. You are more confident. The other person draws from the energy, the light. They want to know what has changed, what happened and the more you give out, the more you get back in return.
I am sorry, that is my thought and I appreciate you all allowing me to add them.
Exactly. That's what it's all about. By following this, you're getting YOU back, and as an added bonus have the best chances of getting your ex back. Those that will take what I say seriously will realize this over time. There will be an "aahhhh that's what he meant" moment. Sending loving thoughts is not just making them feel good; it's teaching you to selflessly give real love. Letting go is the same thing, but mostly for yourself. You learn to love yourself by taking care of yourself. When they come back, you will have so much love for yourself that you will be able to share this love with them.