For those who came back TO their exes, what made YOU come back?

[judasentinel]

Valid points, tom. I am sure everyone would agree with you.

The point of wanting someone back in a changed form is not necessarily to deny our own follies in the break-up. Personally, I believe I would be equally responsible to trigger a certain reaction in the other person. I dont think most people are here to discuss their relationship dynamics (although we all do tell our stories to give a background to our manifestation desires).

I sometimes feel that in a break-up, one person is treated slightly less fairly than the other as a result of the end. And usually that is the person who truly has his/her heart broken. Think about it. If you were genuinely happy with the break-up, you wouldn't have a broken heart. Just an idea.

Let's get back to the topic. Anyone who has been the proverbial "ex" position and went back to someone who wanted you? Tell us why you went back, what motivated you to go back and what role did the one wanting you back, played in that?

This thread is not to get the opinions of people like me who desired someone to come back to them, but of those who were in the 'envious' position of being the ones desired and they went back to someone who wanted them.

[Thumbelina :)]

A very nice insight i must say tom, but the point which i had mentioned earlier was 'let go' .. it's one of the most important principles of LOA.. and when you're in a state of 'letting go' something.. you're automatically changing yourself to the 'new you'.. the much more confident,positive person and that's helping you in all the aspects of your life too
Nothing can change, unless you change yourself.. plus, isn't it a bit too obvious that if i am wanting something so bad, and i'm believing in the unseen too.. i'd change myself and be extremely positive to make it happen?? Think... You obviously have changed yourself and grown from the point... since the break-up!! Else, you wouldn't be wanting your 'ex' so bad
peace!

[loveofabundance]

I believe that I am being attracted back to Chris.  As much as I try to stop thinking about him, there he is in my thoughts.  It has been unfair of me to be wanting him to pine over me when i'm the one who broke up with him. 

He's a big lug, a big, beautiful lug and he's been hurt before.  I wish that I'd been more understanding. 

When I texted him after the breakup, he texted back so fast and even though you can't usually feel energy over a text, his happiness at hearing from me was obvious.  Then I acted like business as usual.  I've never even apologised.  He was gone so fast.  I was very careless with his feelings and I regret it.

He's the typical big, strong guy with a heart of gold.  He's the man I waited for my entire life.  I love him dearly!  He's worth fighting for and I'm going to do just that.

I let fear get in the way of us even though I worked so hard on being courageous.  It's just that I'd never met a man who was my ideal before and I didn't want to ruin it.

I don't want to be with him out of ego.  I want to be with him so that I can shower him with love.  I want to remind him every day what an amazing man he is.  I want to be of help to him in any way that I can.  I want him to feel confidant that my love is real.

I am going to pursue him.  I got so mad because he wouldn't pursue me and yet that's not his nature.  we met because I approached him.  I asked for his number.  I invited him on our first date.

even though we broke up, the experience of meeting him, even being apart has been one of absolute joy!  My heart feels so happy when I think about him and I don't think that my internal guidance system is faulty.  I've tried dating other guys and it just doesn't work.  There is absolutely no reason for me not being with Chris other than my own stubborness, pride, self-doubt and fear.

@tom, you will read post after post on here where I write nothing but positive things about Chris. 
I have never said an unkind word about hi to my family.  when friends would try to say bad things about him to "cheer me up" I wouldn't allow it.  I have nothing but love in my heart for that man!

Anyway, I'm  going for the gold.  I've done months of no-contact.  I've meditated, sent love, grown spiritually and I sense a pull, a tug.  I believe it's Chris and I'm going to go get my man!

[stevelewis]

I believe that I am being attracted back to Chris.  As much as I try to stop thinking about him, there he is in my thoughts.  It has been unfair of me to be wanting him to pine over me when i'm the one who broke up with him. 

That is a an interesting point... A few months ago I was starting to let go, and move on and be happy, and then Z contacted me. Was it her attracting me to and is a little lost.

And GO FOR IT GIRL! Our internal guidance is the best thing we have

Steve x

[boomergirl]

I saw my part and myself in the initial breakup and when we he decided last to just be friends.   
 
Thoughts become things and seen as my ex is back with me now I feel so joyous and happy.  I don't have to "want" ....he's here! 
 
It get's challenging at times I know but it's important to keep my thoughts, words and actions in line with my manifestations as best I can.
 
 

[UpLOAding]

I went back to someone (very old story, more than 5 years ago) because I felt that being together with someone I already know well, whose positive and negative aspects I have learned to understand, gives me much more peace than looking for something new with someone new.
 
I am also very drawn to forgiveness and reconciliation.
 
Solving conflict, overcoming disagreement and differences, putting the other person's needs above one's own, those are things I appreciate both in myself and in others, and are more important to me than finding "the One and Only".

Knowing that we really got over with our own negative feelings than with the people who we associate them with is a great feeling!

Hell, I'd definitely prefer someone I can forgive (and forgives me) to some random "One".

[Vicki Christina]

Exactly.  I do know what I focused on that was destructive for my relationship.   I spent a lot of energy thinking about this other woman who was stalking my Honey.  I was upset and complained about it to him a lot.   Instead of focusing on how he was strong and able to ignore her.  Also he and I did recently discuss why he thinks he turned to her.   He was under a lot of stress, she was nearby as an old habit - there to comfort him.  Actually she forced herself into his life.  I was very sick last fall with a back injury and pretty upset, unavailable to comfort him in his stress, she was ready to jump in to sooth his needs.  He admitted that this was a big part of the situation...