Author Topic: Don't know what to make of this! (update) (Read 3412 times)

Mr Brightside · « **Reply #45 on:** April 30, 2012, 07:38:54 AM »

Well she wants to move on and have another relationship, sucks to say it but that’s pretty much the bottom line. I have come to terms with that, it took me a long time to be able to emotionally accept that as a possibility. Now I’m not one of those people who expects miracles to happen, and for me to sit here and do nothing and expect her to fall into my lap. I pretty much addressed all the issues we had, and really looked deep to see if this is something worth pursing in the first place. I was able to do what I said I would, not going into details because I can write a mini novel about it, but when she left I told myself I would do what it took to make it work and really I have done everything I said months ago. Unfortunately based on our conversation last weekend, her opinion has not changed, so at this point there is little more left for me to do then just walk away.

I know this may come off as a little bitter and jaded, which I am really not, I’m just expressing my experience.

tereza · « **Reply #46 on:** April 30, 2012, 08:08:55 AM »

Bummer. I don't know what to say other than that sucks.

But then..I don't know if that's the end of things. I mean, sometimes you've got to seriously break the pattern to create change. Maybe this is part of the process?

edit: sorry Truelove, I'm just off-topic in every topic this week.

truelove · « **Reply #47 on:** April 30, 2012, 05:47:27 PM »

No worries Tereza, I've been doing the same thing myself

It seems there are a few of us going through the same thing.

truelove · « **Reply #48 on:** May 20, 2012, 07:51:18 AM »

Well, it's been about a month so I thought I would update this thread.
It seems our friendship is all but over.

We have had a couple of texts back and forth but he is just matter of fact, not his usual funny self and I am not feeling like he cares at all.
This has been very sad for me. I went through feeling anger, feeling like he set up a situation and now I am being punished for it.

So I guess it's time to put this baby to bed. I say this with a very heavy heart. I am already grieving the loss of his friendship.

I still need to somehow get my stuff back, but I'm not quite ready to ask for it.

irishgirl69 · « **Reply #49 on:** May 20, 2012, 09:11:34 PM »

Tracey, I'm sorry that you're feeling down. I think you know what's right for you in letting this go. Although, I hope you keep an open heart to whatever might happen down the road because I think it would be a shame to completely turn your back on this friendship since it meant so much to you. But if he's not reciprocating at the moment, then you are right to detach yourself from it.

I do think this was just a case of bad timing and not being in the same place emotionally - who knows what can happen in the future.

truelove · « **Reply #50 on:** May 21, 2012, 05:01:52 AM »

Thank you Anne. I will keep the door open to possibilities, and let it all go.
I really would like to remain friends with him, and maybe in time we will be able to do that.

Thank you for your support through the journey.

He did text me yesterday but it was to tell me that he wouldn't be going to the concert that we had planned on going to together... the last time I saw him he was promising to buy a ticket for me when he bought his own, and I would reimburse him. Then for him to say two days before the gig that he won't be going because he is too poor... just very disappointing.

Anyway, onwards... I'm going to hand the whole relationship thing over to the Universe and get on with other stuff.

Love to you all. xxx

truelove · « **Reply #51 on:** June 02, 2012, 09:28:38 AM »

SO...
I saw him last night. Our mutual friend was having a birthday gig (they are in a band together) and their band was playing, I knew I would see him but he didn't know I was going to be there.

Anyway we ran into each other going opposite ways down a corridor and he looked kind of shocked to see me at first. We hugged hello and talked for a few minutes and continued on our way, he was going out to the courtyard to see friends and I was heading inside to the bands.
Later we saw each other again and almost straight away he asked if I wanted to hang out on Sunday!! I said yeah, cool and then I went on my way again.
His band played and they were great and I had a good dance. (side note- I have been doing the 'love magnet' tapping and I had three guys trying to dance with me!! And I even got asked out)
After the gig my friends were going to a club so I went to say goodbye to him.
I asked him what he was doing now, he said he was going home, I told him I was going to a club, he said, "Ok stay out of trouble". I said, "I can't promise anything" He said, "You're supposed to say "I'll try"." I said "Ok, I'll try". hahahahaa!
I gave him a hug and left.

Yep, I think that was pretty successful. I am so happy we are still friends!

phew!!

hellokiki · « **Reply #52 on:** June 02, 2012, 09:39:42 AM »

Wonderful news truelove!! So happy for you

Relax and have fun with him on Sunday!!! Keep us posted for more good news

irishgirl69 · « **Reply #53 on:** June 02, 2012, 09:45:09 AM »

That's great news! See what happens when you remove your energy? They are drawn back to you. The Universe presented a great opportunity for you to reconnect in a relaxed way and he took advantage of it. That's awesome!

truelove · « **Reply #54 on:** June 02, 2012, 01:02:28 PM »

Thank you irishgirl and hellokiki.

Quote from: irishgirl69 on June 02, 2012, 09:45:09 AM

That's great news! See what happens when you remove your energy? They are drawn back to you. The Universe presented a great opportunity for you to reconnect in a relaxed way and he took advantage of it. That's awesome!

Yes, it's really a funny thing. I'm grateful that the universe gave me this opportunity to break the ice, and reconnect with each other. So cool.

I will have a relaxed, fun day tomorrow. No expectations.
I am just going to enjoy his company, which is what I have been missing the most.

truelove · « **Reply #55 on:** June 03, 2012, 07:41:55 PM »

Well, sadly he called me to say he had had a massive night last night, and had been in bed most of the day and was planning on going back to bed, but arranged to meet on Thursday instead.
I know it's not the end of the world, but I was pretty bummed.

This really bought up a big issue in me that I know I have to deal with... because it's my fear of rejection playing out (AGAIN) and I keep thinking I am learning and growing and it keeps coming back into my expereince...

Wll try and relax and let it go...

JustForToday · « **Reply #56 on:** June 03, 2012, 07:49:21 PM »

you are perfect tracey

dont concentrate on something you dont want....
i know its hard--- all is well, these 3 words are my fav ones and i use them when i am sad, angry, diesppointed, upset and so on.

all is well

truelove · « **Reply #57 on:** June 03, 2012, 08:09:41 PM »

You are awesome Melanie

All is well

irishgirl69 · « **Reply #58 on:** June 03, 2012, 09:48:42 PM »

Tracey, I think that you and I are a lot alike in that we try to control the how. I know that it drives me crazy to not know how something is going to manifest, particularly when it's something I really want.

If this is true for you as well, have you tried that EFT video for releasing resistance that stef posted? I've been doing it for the last couple of days and I'm really starting to feel a shift. Certainly as I'm doing it, I feel that resistance leaving. The doubts creep back in, but once I do the video again, it clears. I'm going to make a point of doing it several times a day as well as the one for miracles because that literally lifts my vibration up so high. You might want to give that a shot.

I feel like I need to do it more often because this is a very deep belief of mine - I need to know how it's going to happen. It's a control thing, I think. But I know because I've seen it that things work better when I just let it flow.

belive88 · « **Reply #59 on:** June 03, 2012, 10:26:34 PM »

Hi irish girl, i was hoping you could tell me where i can find the tapping video stef posted and the miracles one too, as im interested in removing negative thought patterns. thank youuuu!!