Author Topic: Initiating contact? (Read 1035 times)

simplyjess · « **on:** April 04, 2012, 06:17:15 PM »

Say if I've made an intention to be in contact with Person X again after a period of No Contact (NC). To my understanding, LOA brings you events and experiences that align with your thoughts, so I'm assuming that the opportunity will be "delivered" to you, or you have to take inspired action.

How do you know when it's the "perfect opportunity" (and you take the action), or should you just wait for the other person to make the move?

Any stories would be greatly appreciated!

jtut21 · « **Reply #1 on:** April 04, 2012, 06:41:03 PM »

The LOA lays the ground work for you in the contact by your intentions and you are right there is still some action that needs to be taken. Take a look at a post I pasted below for you that I had from another thread.

I've noticed a lot of forum members talking about the "No Contact" rule and have concerns about contacting their ex. So I've found a video that can answer some questions.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nneghnoI5vg&feature=player_embedded

Someone please pin this so that it can be available to all those who need it.

Hope this helps,

Josh

Mr Brightside · « **Reply #2 on:** April 04, 2012, 07:24:41 PM »

I just call or text when i really have a urge, i dont think there is a set plan on when to do it. Just follow your own heart and feeling, you cant lose either way to be honest. If you are calling and it feels good then why not

hellokiki · « **Reply #3 on:** April 04, 2012, 07:40:57 PM »

I have initiated most of the contact with my guy. In the beginning I would be upset if he doesn't respond or doesn't respond immediately. Now I have come to the stage where him replying or not doesn't bother me much. If I feel like there is something I want to share with him, then I would text him and I would feel happy no matter if I get a reply or not. And I find that after I started to detach from wanting a response from him, he would respond quicker OR initiate contact with me more. My suggestion is just do whatever your heart tells you to do AS LONG AS you feel good about it

emilylb · « **Reply #4 on:** April 04, 2012, 08:04:32 PM »

I agree with Stefzilla and hellokiki do what feels right. My ex contacted me this past weekend, and we finally ended up talking in person. Although we didn't solve anything yet - I had asked to be able to talk to him in person and it happend. I think the no contact rule can only go so far in certain situations. I mean the main problem with me and my ex is that we didn't talk about it. So...I don't know, just go with what feels good/right for you.

Dr Scully · « **Reply #5 on:** April 05, 2012, 07:02:58 AM »

jtut - thanks for that video! Ashley K is great I've been following her website for a little while now.

I guess contact him when it feels right, but follow Ashley's advice and don't overdo it. Don't contact just to get a response from him, and don't be upset if he doesn't reply either. If you're still hung up over him not responding maybe wait a bit longer before messaging him.

simplyjess · « **Reply #6 on:** April 06, 2012, 07:47:19 AM »

Thanks for the video, jtut21!

To be honest there are still self-doubts and negative emotions, and I really don't know what to say to him. When I DO contact him, I want him to know that I've changed into a better person.

Should I mention some of the revelations (about the past) that came to mind during this time that I'm working on myself?

Detached&Allowing · « **Reply #7 on:** April 06, 2012, 09:34:53 AM »

"NC" is an interesting topic. I believe everyone should look at the reason why they do not wish to contact or receive contact from that person. There are many people who use this "NC" rule as a way of getting the other person to "react" a specific way. This always backfires.

I have seen some use "NC" as way to find peace. They feel that being in contact with that person will just make it more difficult to let go, thus slowly their desired manifestation.

I have seen some use "NC" b/c they are angry, hurt, upset and they know that being in contact with that person will only escalate these negative feelings.

When it comes to initiating contact I agree with Stefzilla and hellokiki, if it makes you feel good then do it. If you know it will only make you sad b/c if whatever you hope to achieve doesn't happen then I highly recommend you don't do it. Look at the reason why you are wanting to contact them. How will it make you feel if they don't respond a certain way.

You say there is still self-doubt and negative emotions... this means you are not ready to contact him. You want him to know you have changed... it isn't up to you to decide how this is revealed to him. The Universe with present the opportunity when it feels the both of you are ready. Read the following, it may help you to understand better.

http://iasos.com/metaphys/bashar/

I wouldn't recommend you tell him anything about what you are doing. The following article may help you to understand this concept as well.

http://www.mind-your-reality.com/tempt_fate.html#Part_2

Much love and the very best of LOA to you!!

simplyjess · « **Reply #8 on:** April 06, 2012, 09:42:56 AM »

Interesting links, reading it right now. Thanks for sharing

Quote from: schenderson22 on April 06, 2012, 09:34:53 AM

You want him to know you have changed... it isn't up to you to decide how this is revealed to him. The Universe with present the opportunity when it feels the both of you are ready. Read the following, it may help you to understand better.

Hmm...when you say "how" it is revealed to him, should I just focus on believing and knowing that he WILL see my changes, and not worry about the rest?

Mr Brightside · « **Reply #9 on:** April 06, 2012, 11:07:01 AM »

"Hmm...when you say "how" it is revealed to him, should I just focus on believing and knowing that he WILL see my changes, and not worry about the rest?"

The issue is not whether that person will see the changes, because if you have actually changed this would not even be a concern to you in the first place.

truelove · « **Reply #10 on:** April 06, 2012, 12:06:19 PM »

Quote from: schenderson22 on April 06, 2012, 09:34:53 AM

I wouldn't recommend you tell him anything about what you are doing. The following article may help you to understand this concept as well.

http://www.mind-your-reality.com/tempt_fate.html#Part_2

This is such a great site schenderson, thanks for sharing!
I think everybody should read it. (The article and the whole site) It sums everything up perfectly. Particularly for those who are not manifesting what they want, there is the need to know how other Universal Laws are impacting on them as well as their own personal limiting beliefs.

Thank you again, it's a great read.