Do I do anything else at this point?

[lashark]

If you do end up having to do any action, you will be inspired, it will feel so amazing, it will be action you dont second guess, you will just do it. Although it is very possible you wont have inspired action when it comes to him and he will just come around on his own. Just feel the way you would feel as if you were already with this dude and get to a place where youre so content within yourself that when you notice hes not around it is irrelevant to your happiness, relax, live, youll either be inpired to act or he will come around. Either way they should feel EASY when they happen,

Last time you tried to contact him, and he ended up not replying anymore. It DOES NOT mean that you initiating the contact was the wrong decision. There is no right or wrong, however when you follow an action and there is no manifestation it ALWAYS means, you have more energy work to do, as in you have to align with your desire  more, as in FEEL it more, talk about it more, believe it more....

[Mel90]

thank you lashark. and yes, when I sent him a msg on fb, he didnt reply. and I think LOA had to do with it. because i started doubting. freaking out. wondering why all of a sudden he didnt reply.

this week i talked to him on IM and he told me he never saw my msg. and we had a nice conversation.
I got scared of not getting a response, and thats exactly what I dot. no response.

whats also helping me a lot, is the relationship we had together. and sometimes when i tell my story and askk people if they believe he will come back, it comes out wrong.

I look at our past. we were long distance for 5 years, with a huge age gap. and yet, he wanted to wait until i graduated from university so we could settle down. our connection was very strong.

so these, and other things tell me that what we had was amazing.
and whats good also is now i know how i played a role in this. there were a few times when I, not him, wanted a break. i felt insecure. he would always reassure me or tell me about how amazing we were so we never actually broke up. my own thoughts and fears were the issue.

and this current situation i believe is the manifestation of all the insecurities i had had about our relationship or the idea of moving to his city.

so now, i visualize all the time of things. i see us at a coffee shop, him reading a newspaper and i have a book. i see us planning things like a trip. i see him proposing to me during a family dinner. (we are both very close to our families which i love). and i cannot describe to you the sensation i get. it is more than joy.
I give thanks to the univers and God for even allowing me to have these feelings.
then when we talked the other day it was so  natural. so light and nice. no mention of the past. just asking eachother how we are doing. asking about each other's family. and like I said, at the end he seemed like he wanted to talk again.

so yeah, sometimes less often than before, i get this scary feeling and bc im scared itll intensify, i just put it all out here.

thanks for everyone's support.

[Mel90]

this is good right?

[Mel90]

for the sake of getting it off my chest..

I should not be scared. I should not allow fear control my thoughts and feelings. I am happy with my life. there are a few changes that Id like to make, but Im working on it so Im happy.

I should not be sad, or fearful because I asked for what I want, that is my bf, and I will get it. I trust in the Universe now. I take the fact that he talked to me and was nice and asked if we could talk later as a good sign. That makes me feel good. I continue to give thanks each and everyday.

Do I do anything else? or just keep doing what Im doing?

[lashark]

Just do what feels good.

[Mel90]

I am feeling so down. not necessarily about wanting my bf back. but just in general.

and Im worried, bc this in turn is affecting my thoughts and emotions in regards to wanting my bf back.
right now my life seems to be all about school. I have not had a break in over 2 years. it has started to get heavy. My relationship with my family is not the best. For example when I had told my mother about the break up all she kept saying was "i told you so" it is soooo hard.

i feel like sometimes i have nothing to look forward to. even my own living space I dont like, in regards to decoration.

I looked into some meditation videos to get rid of all this negativity, but its as if something is holding me back from getting rid of my harmful emotions. I hate it.

i know it comes off as excuses but i cant really afford to go out right now. i can bearly pay for my tuition. so it becomes really tough when I see my bf posting joyful stuff on fb about going out and just enjoying life.

I am desperate to have a better life I might be creating my own barriers in life but I just dont know how to get rid of it. as much as I believe in LOA being useful, telling myself everything will be ok doesnt seem to change anything.
my mood sometimes goes from being extremely happy and confident that ill get what i want to feeling hopeless.

[Mel90]

Too many bad things are happening at the same time. I dont know how to change this.
i know i deserver better. and im praying for it. at the same time i dont know how anything will change.

all that gives me some happiness is imagining what I want. is that enough? how long will just imagining things do it? am i a bad person for wanting more? yes I know, I just got out of a relationship, might not seem that long for some.

I dont know how things went so wrong, in so little time

[tereza]

Mel, what has really excited me about the book the Secret was the idea that I was in control of my life and could make it better. So after reading about it, I figured out what I wanted and then did things to align myself with what I wanted.  That also meant that when I was upset about stuff, I went out and did what I could to make it better.

I think you should go over your post and find some solutions for your problems that are within reach right now. Here are some of my suggestions:

right now my life seems to be all about school. I have not had a break in over 2 years.

Make some time for yourself and take a break. Even if it's one day of just relaxing.

My relationship with my family is not the best. For example when I had told my mother about the break up all she kept saying was "i told you so" it is soooo hard.

So don't talk to your mom about your relationship.  Also, just be nice to them and send them love without expecting anything in return. It'll eventually turn around.

i feel like sometimes i have nothing to look forward to. even my own living space I dont like, in regards to decoration.

So fix it. This is so simple. Start by throwing out things you don't like or selling them.  Then try rearranging the furniture.  Print out photos or art that you like and put them in frames or just paste them on your walls to keep you inspired and keep your surroundings beautiful. Surround yourself with things that you like.

i know it comes off as excuses but i cant really afford to go out right now. 

So find ways to make more money. Donate some plasma. Sell stuff on ebay. Sell your old textbooks on amazon.  Babysit. Offer to walk dogs.  Have a garage sale. Just working towards a goal will make you feel good and give you something to focus on.

i can bearly pay for my tuition. so it becomes really tough when I see my bf posting joyful stuff on fb about going out and just enjoying life.

So stop stalking him on facebook. Deactivate facebook for awhile and enjoy reality instead of the fake garbage people post on facebook to impress each other.

I am desperate to have a better life I might be creating my own barriers in life but I just dont know how to get rid of it. as much as I believe in LOA being useful, telling myself everything will be ok doesnt seem to change anything.
my mood sometimes goes from being extremely happy and confident that ill get what i want to feeling hopeless.

Turn your focus from what you can't do, to finding out what you can do. 

[Mel90]

thank you very much tereza. I really needed the support.

[tereza]

Oh and one last thing, I found this to be a fun distraction a few years back when I had stopped talking to my guy...feng shui and decluttering.  Try googling it as there's lots of free information on it.  There's something rather freeing about throwing out old junk (I had stuff from the 1990s!) and just the actions of doing something made me feel like I was moving in the right direction and stuff was improving.

[Vicki Christina]

Tereza and Mel,  This is a wonderful response to Mel's post!   Perfect ideas and suggestions.   Someone mentioned Michael Losier's book today,  The Law Of Attraction.  It is excellent with simple ways to turn around negative thoughts!    Hugs to both of you!   

[Mel90]

I am so fed up. I spent so much time looking into articles, videos everything related to LOA in regards to getting my bf back. and they all say that it is impossible because thats not what they want. our vibes are not aligned. that i should move on and look for someone else.

this is exactly what gets me so depressed. i love reading the success stories. it is an encouragement. but then i think "well her situation was different in Xway, so thats why it worked" or "well my guy was too nice to me when we broke up so logically, he wants to move on"

what am i missing. i hear all of the advice given here. let go. that to me means i trust in God and the universe that we will reunite. thats how i understand it. so i try to apply it.

this is becoming discouraging. why are there no articles or videos that say that getting back with an ex is possible? i find that my saddness is even affecting how strong i feel about wanting him. i feel awful

[MiaVictoria]

Mel90, you and I are in some kind of alignment because I am sitting here thinking the exact same thing.  I am in love with another who matches me so strongly vibrationally that it's borderline surreal.  HOW-EV-ER he does choose to love another - one who is the complete opposite of me.  All I can do is wish them well.  You're fed up and I'm exhausted. 

[Mel90]

Thank you for your response.

so what do i do? where do I get my encouragement from? its as if i need an outsider telling me Mel you are doing this right, and he is coming back.

yes i know, let go.... i get it. i dont want to let go of my desire and belief that ill be with him.
is this dillusional?

i look back at our past. i also look at our break up. i keep replaying it to see if there is some logical hope, possibility.

[MiaVictoria]

Putting LOA aside for a moment, what do you think might be keeping you from him?  I scanned your previous posts to get some history.  You mentioned he doesn't reply to your messages?