Do I do anything else at this point?

[Mel90]

So I have been doing of what I learned about LOA. Im happy about that. but do i still need to do anything else? meaning do i need to take action as well or will the universe just hand it to me? meaning, will he come to me on his own.
i tried creating some sort of communication between us. but at some point he just stopped. and i havent contacted him since. i figured he will respond when he is ready.

so do I just live my life and have him make the moves from now on?

[Mel90]

Any thoughts? Am I doing it right? or way off?

thank you.

[Sugerplum <3]

Hello Mel.. all the actions u've did so far will pay off only when u really 'Let Go' to the fullest..
which phase ur in currently?? if u've really Let Go and in a position of zero resistance without any traces of doubt then i guess it's the Universe urging u to take inspired action.. if u feel like doing it and believe ur not gonna be affected by the outcome then go for it.. Best of luck.. 

[Mel90]

well here is the thing. when i inititaed contact with him 3 weeks ago. i thought i had let go. i was happy and confident.

things were going well, he kept responding. it was light and sweet.
but then he never responded to the last message i sent him and i have realised that i have not let go.
it is hard. im having a hard time not thinking about him. i keep thinking about wanting to be with him. i am not ready to be happy if i see him with someone else.

i still feel hurt. but at the same time, i have moments of happiness, i calm down, take a moment to really think about what i want. (some are related to him) i even imagine things we had plans for. like hosting dinners together, moving in together, and getting married.

i feel like sometimes i take steps forward, but i get sad too. and insecure about myself. i know these are not things that belong in an LOA forum, but the thing is, this is not working for me. i wish to change it.

its also hard for me because i analyse. i look into actions and words. for example i try to understand why he just stopped responding.

i just want us back. and i want to be happy. im tired of the ups and downs.
so yes i have no let go.

[Mel90]

my understanding of letting go is i should not want him anymore for him to come back.

but then how can i visualize us together if i have to not want him?

[Sugerplum <3]

Well then u've found what's within u that've resulted in ur current reality.. it's never too late.. work on urself more and make urself a happier u despite his actions.. first of all stop analysing him and his actions which is going to serve u nothing.. after all ur the one and only responsible for ur happiness and never let anyone stop u from being happy.. try to be happy, positive and keep sending love thoughts to him.. clear up the wanting thing and believe u've achieved what u've asked for.. i know it's easier said than done.. but for now it's the first and foremost thing u need to do..

[Sugerplum <3]

Dear ur perception about Letting Go is totally wrong.. it's not about not wanting to be with him but its the letting go of neediness and desperate feelings that comes from wanting him..let go of the doubts, fears etc whether ur desire will manifest or not and believing completely in the Universe/God that whatever ur desires are will manifest at the perfect time and in the perfect way..

http://www.powerlawofattraction.com/forum/3/what-does-letting-go-mean/msg29521/#msg29521

[Mel90]

well i know I dont need him. I never thought i did. and Im happy with that. I know I can have whatever, and do whatever on my own. the difference between wanting someting and needing it is clear to me.
i have never been dependent to that.
but it is not more clear to me. the whole wanting thing. i guess i should give myself more credit sometimes.
when i think about him, or visualize, i dont think i want it. i do see it as being real, and being in the now.
I just have to give up this fear thing. every so often it creeps on me. and i get insecure.

thank you all for your help. I really appreciate it.

[2thetop]

Hey mel,
I hope that you are feeling upbeat and positive today.  Here are a few things that caught my eye and just some friendly advice.

things were going well, he kept responding. it was light and sweet.
but then he never responded to the last message i sent him and i have realised that i have not let go.

  its good that you have realized this, this is a stepping stone.

it is hard. im having a hard time not thinking about him. i keep thinking about wanting to be with him. i am not ready to be happy if i see him with someone else.

the thing to remember is, its ok to think about him, you are going to.  when you think about him send him love, change your negative feelings into love and send him that.  yes its hard at first but you can do it.  right now you are pulling the weeds from your beautiful garden.  also you say you keep thinking that you WANT to be with him.  the key here is to know you ARE with him.  if you see him with someone else, be happy, it may very well be that person that makes him realize how much you two had previously and how much he wants you back.

i still feel hurt. but at the same time, i have moments of happiness, i calm down, take a moment to really think about what i want. (some are related to him) i even imagine things we had plans for. like hosting dinners together, moving in together, and getting married.

  During your moments of happines, make a gratitude list of everything you are thankful for, including being thankful that you two are now hosting dinners, have a beautiful home together, and have a wonderful marriage full of love, understanding, and passion for each other.  when you feel down, read this to yourself and visualize it.  did you know it takes more work for the brain to be unhappy then happy?  when you begin to visualize these things, your mood will change.  Soon your thoughts will change, and the negative thoughts will give way to positive thoughts.  Doubt will give way to faith.  You are reprogramming your subconscious, its not an over night process.

i feel like sometimes i take steps forward, but i get sad too. and insecure about myself. i know these are not things that belong in an LOA forum, but the thing is, this is not working for me. i wish to change it.

Be grateful for the steps forward.  these things are fine in this forum by the way, its better to get it out then hold on to it, and everyone here has been or is going through the same, so we are more then happy to help.  also dont wish to change it, change it.  i dont know if youve ever seen star wars, but its like yoda says, "Do or do not, there is no try"

its also hard for me because i analyse. i look into actions and words. for example i try to understand why he just stopped responding.

i just want us back. and i want to be happy. im tired of the ups and downs.

  its hard not to analyze these things, ecspecially when you are depending on these things to happen for your happiness.  the only thing to do, is focus on improving what you want to work on for yourself, that way when you are reunited, your relationship is better then ever.

so yes i have no let go.

  Tell yourself, I have let go of the old relationship between me and _____.  I am happy with myself and I have faith that when the timing is right, the universe will bring to me what I desire.

Hope some of that helps you.  Dont beat yourself up about beign down at times.  It happens, we are human, we have a great deal of emotion.  Reprogram your mind to be happy with yourself.  Do whatever it takes.  For example, read positive affirmations about yourself right before bed, and right after you get up.  These two times are the best because our conscious filters aren't in place as much when we are tired.

Much love to you and many blessings on your journey

[Mel90]

Thank you very much 

[Mel90]

Hi everyone,

I think im starting to sink again. I was doing perfectly fine up until this morning.
I believe that we are reuniting. I visualize it all the time. I am happy, and most importantly I make myself happy. I do not need anyone else to do it for me. I understand the concept of my bf being the cherry on my cake.

however, does this mean that I have let go? i am scared that i have still not understood this and im doing it all wrong. but on the other hand, i have these amazing feelings that my bf is coming back to me.

I did post a small success that happened the other day. we had taked via IM. it went really well. at the end he said " we'll talk later?" and "bye for now"  I am to this day soooo grateful for everything.

what do I do? i sometimes feel like one minute everything is fine, and the next im in quicksand full of fear.

[tereza]

Ok, here's a way to resolve wanting to be with him and at the same time letting go:

Brainwash yourself into believing that he is madly in love with you and that what you want is starting to happen.

When you believe without a doubt that he is in love with you, this doubt/fear stuff is easy to get over. It becomes easier to see how he is showing love to you and it becomes easier to start living a life that isn't obsessing over every little detail.  When you believe fully, you are able to let go because you know that he is in love with you and that love will still be there regardless what you do.

You already have proof that he cares about you, he said that he wants to talk again and he has been keeping in touch. Build your belief with that.

[Mel90]

You're right, it is the little details that are killing me.

when he broke up with me, he said he needs some time apart. he cant promise that we will be back together. if something changes in the future, we will talk about it. he said he will always care about me.
and wants to stay friends.

I dont have a doubt that he still cares about me.
you think this could be maybe a phase where some time apart is good for us, and we will come back to each other, to an improved relationship?

[tereza]

I think I may have not explained it well...who cares about what he said and what I think of what he said?

If you believe he cares about you still, then enjoy that and get on with making your life awesome.

All you need is to believe that what you want is already yours and that everything that is happening is bringing you closer to what you want.  So then all you need to do is enjoy your life and work on making yourself happy.

[Vicki Christina]

This is wonderful advice from Tereza and 2thetop!   Mel,  see if you can keep copies of their posts to you and read them daily!!!   :-)