Reconciliation of Love Relationship & Marriage - LoA Expert's HELP !!!

[Iceman0715]

Hello Everyone,

I'm a Newbie both here & with LoA, my Total LoA experience amounting to about 2 Months. 

I'll try to keep it short & sweet. 

I met my girl KR in Nov '09, while I was processing my WP for Singapore.
We started talking & got along like a house-on-fire. Both of us were single & were looking for something serious.

Once while talking on the phone, I casually mentioned that I did like somene but was not comfortable to take it to that person as I may lose a Friend in the process if the outcome was not (+ve). She encouraged me to be open & take my chances as I may regret it if I didn't.

I confessed that I loved her & wanted to spent the rest of my life with her. She was initially shocked but later reminded about the Age factor (She is 5+ years older than me). I said if you like me for what you see & think you can put up with me I'll be coming back from Singapore for you.

Thus we started our Relationship which became a long-distance one with her in India & me in Singapore for 1 year. I was back in India by Dec '10.

While talking to her in Jan '11, she told me she loved me but could only be Friends, as her Family (Dad, (Late) elder brother's family, Elder Brother & Family, Aunty) & her Friends did not like me due to the Age & Community factor. My family rejected this Relationship on the same grounds, as they could not envision it for their eldest Son.

So the no. of interactions reduced drastically: Calls twice & thrice in a day, became once in a day, to once in a week to finally once in a month. Then I stopped calling her, trying to respect her decision however painful it was. She still kept in touch calling me faithfully at least once or twice every 2-3 weeks or in a month.

I was introduced to LoA in Feb '13. I want my girl KR back b'coz both of us know we want to spent our lives together, as we are both single even today.

1. I have been using the RS (more of with Affection, Belief, Care, Love, Togetherness & less or no Sexual vibes), Sending Love via Telepathy, Virtual Letter to get your Swthrt back & Pink Energy Ball.
 
2. I have even set-up a VB on a .ppt interface with 1 slide for us. My Wallpaper keeps changing every minute automatically with the Slides of my VB .ppt

3. I also am using Daily Affirmations & Visulizations for this purpose.

I really want to hear my girl KR telling me, "She Loves me & wants to move forward to a Marriage as planned."
I want our Families to accept & bless our Love Relationship & Marriage.
Would love to hear from all of you on this !!!

Blessings & Peace,
Ice xo

* Pls let me know if I'm doing something wrong or missed out something here.

[ilovelife]

Well, you must let it go! That means that you must love yourself first! You must feel the love in YOU! Yes, you can do what you do but don't be so attached from results. Relax, be in the vortex, feel good and happy all day with or without your girl. YOU are the most important person for you not HER! YOU! You are the LOVE! YOU have the power to create your life, to feel your love. YOU! Then you must have faith, blind faith in UNIVERS. The coincidences will appear when you will less expact.
REMEMBER: YOU are the most important! Visualize, affirm, do RS, but then let it go! Be happy all day because you LIVE and you CREATE your life! Stay in the vortex and the rest will appear I wish you all the love from Universe!

[Iceman0715]

Well, you must let it go! That means that you must love yourself first! You must feel the love in YOU! Yes, you can do what you do but don't be so attached from results. Relax, be in the vortex, feel good and happy all day with or without your girl. YOU are the most important person for you not HER! YOU! You are the LOVE! YOU have the power to create your life, to feel your love. YOU! Then you must have faith, blind faith in UNIVERS. The coincidences will appear when you will less expact.
REMEMBER: YOU are the most important! Visualize, affirm, do RS, but then let it go! Be happy all day because you LIVE and you CREATE your life! Stay in the vortex and the rest will appear I wish you all the love from Universe!

@ilovelife,

Thanks for the encouraging reply. 

You are absolutely right, I need to focus on me & Love myself more for everything to work out perfectly !!!

Blessings & Peace,
Ice xo

[Detached&Allowing]

It apple that you ae doing everything correctly.  However I must say that the Universe will not bring to us anything that conflicts with our core beliefs.  Some things to ask yourself, not necessary for me to know, are 1). How important are cultural beliefs to you?  2) how important is your relationship with your family? 3) what are the "non-negotiables" when choosing your life mate? These are only a few.  If the scenario wot being with her conflicts with those core beliefs, it will not happen.  The goal of the Universe is to bring you harmony and align you with your core beliefs and desires.  This is probably the hardest part to accept about LOA.  However if you
Trust in the Universe and follow your intuition, you will have all your true heart's desires.


Much love and the best of LOA to you!

[Iceman0715]

It apple that you ae doing everything correctly.  However I must say that the Universe will not bring to us anything that conflicts with our core beliefs.  Some things to ask yourself, not necessary for me to know, are 1). How important are cultural beliefs to you?  2) how important is your relationship with your family? 3) what are the "non-negotiables" when choosing your life mate? These are only a few.  If the scenario wot being with her conflicts with those core beliefs, it will not happen.  The goal of the Universe is to bring you harmony and align you with your core beliefs and desires.  This is probably the hardest part to accept about LOA.  However if you
Trust in the Universe and follow your intuition, you will have all your true heart's desires.


Much love and the best of LOA to you!

@Detached&Allowing,

Thanks for your reply. 

Cultural beliefs are not very important, if they are based on traditions & society's approval & view, as 2 People are looking @ getting Married & start a life together not some crime !!!

Relationships with Families are important, but would they be there with us all the way If we only look @ Relationship with the Family, we end up losing them in due course & regretting for things should have been...

The most non-Negotiable part is I've already built & visualized with future with my girl KR & we would like to see it develop from the blueprint. Either way my Family wants to see me Married, so why not with the Love of my Life, with someone I want to spent the rest of my life with  

Blessings, Love & Peace,
Ice.

[Satt]

Its one of those thing that's been a challenge all my life. My family never totally accepted the women I choose
to get involved with. Then again, the kind of women I like arnt exactly the kind you bring home to meet mom.lmao

That's what I get for loving white chicks.lol Not any white chicks. They have to be Sassy.
Blondes, blue/hazels eye, with nice boobs...ect. They're pretty eye candie for most men.
Then again...Im sexy. I make sexy babies. Both of my daughters are very attractive. One is a model.
They're both exotic. That's because Im exotic. Im Thai.
They daughters are half Asian and half cucasian. Lots of men find them attractive.

There's not a lot of thai dudes running around with white women to begin with.
It's more acceptable for white dudes to date asian women.
It's a major culture clash.The odds are slim to none. Ive yet to meet inter racial couples like me...
Ive only dated or lived with cucasian all my life. There's racism in there somewhere.lol
Its a good thing it's 2013. I lived in TX. Both of my babie's mama lived or are from TX.
When I lived in Northern Nevada it was worst. Asain population is like .001%
In other words Im the only asain dude in town.
I must have serious balls...I mean self esteem to be able to walk into a room/bar full of white people.
PLus my women being the pretties chick in the room stroke my ego.
My ego gets stroke even more when there's only 4 women in the bar and 3 of them are talking to me. LMAO

Society, culture, approval , getting accepted....ect I got picked on a lot when I was a kid.
My bubble got busted at a very young age.
Life is weird...I struggle a little bit in HS because of the bullying.
Then she came into my life. My first GF. She was very loving and kind to me. She loved me for me.
She was also very pretty. Prettier than most girls. She just happened to be cucasian.

My exwf asked me out. It was a major clash. It was even more difficult for her.
Her family didn't approval of her loving me.

The thing of it is...Abraham Hicks spoke about it in the first part of her CD.
How I followed and apply all the rules and principle that society told me to do.
I did just that....But I got screwed....Ask Abraham said.
I don't totally believe it to be totally totally true that there's not forces working again me or some people
didn't have sometype of conspericy against me.

Abraham and a lot of spiritual teachers also gose into about her/their  beleifs of what GOD or the vortex.
The concept is that WE ARE ONE. WE ARE ALL A PART OF GOD. THATS WHY SEPERATIONS IS AN ILLUSION.

If people hates me...they hate themselves. They hate god...because Im also a part of god.
Humans or the mind knows how to separate.

Never the less LOA is teaching lots. I have the power over my own life and happiness.

[Iceman0715]

@Satt,

Thanks for the eye-opening reply.

No worries, my girl is a real good person @ heart, the homely keeper type any guy can take Home to his folks.
Here the major issue is the Age & Community factor of the Older Generation. They are not wrong in their ways & also right in their ways... but the Heart wants what the Heart wants.

The Older generation tends to be pretty selfish, when it boils down to Culture, Family & Tradition within their own Family but pretty relaxed & even open to these in someone else' home !!! 

I'm not going betray my Heart & Soul for anyone's pettiness. 

I have Faith in LoA that the Universe would work out all the kinks seperating us & we would get Married. 

[Satt]

Good god, it's only 5 yrs. One of my exgf was 10 yrs older than me.
After we broke up...I dated women almost half my age. How's that for making a 180.lol

Anyways, that's what Im talking about when we get conditioned to live, believe a certain way.
It's like people make up some really weird shit and call it rules. Label it standards, moral, values, customs, traditions...ect
It messes with our sense of belonging. The thing of it is...morals and values arnt universal.
 

[Iceman0715]

Good god, it's only 5 yrs. One of my exgf was 10 yrs older than me.
After we broke up...I dated women almost half my age. How's that for making a 180.lol

Anyways, that's what Im talking about when we get conditioned to live, believe a certain way.
It's like people make up some really weird shit and call it rules. Label it standards, moral, values, customs, traditions...ect
It messes with our sense of belonging. The thing of it is...morals and values arnt universal.
 

@Satt,

She is 5 years +, i.e. She's 8 years older than me... 

[Calm]

8 years is nothing.  It's becoming more and more common.

In fact, since men die on average 5 - 7 years before woman do, those women who are with younger men are the only sensible ones LOL

Anyway, an age gap between a man and woman is nobody's business but theirs - if they have no problems with it, then it shouldn't even be an issue.

Just put her family's opinion of your age gap of your mind - it's not even their business.

[Iceman0715]

8 years is nothing.  It's becoming more and more common.

In fact, since men die on average 5 - 7 years before woman do, those women who are with younger men are the only sensible ones LOL

Anyway, an age gap between a man and woman is nobody's business but theirs - if they have no problems with it, then it shouldn't even be an issue.

Just put her family's opinion of your age gap of your mind - it's not even their business.

@Calm,

Big Hugs & Thank you for the encouraging reply.

I don't know if I've to feel sad that I'll die 5-7 years before my girl or happy that you think we are sensible !!!