Detachment and relationships :)

[animor]

I agree with angel star about detachment. I see it as the feeling that I will get what I asked for no matter what so there's no need to worry. I find it easier, too, than trying to detach consciously, focusing on something else etc.

About the RS, my guy hasn't shown up yet (we almost never had contact after our break up) but I know he feels different towards me. I know that by doing it whenever I feel like doing it, (I haven't done it more than 3-4 times in 2 weeks time) he will feel it when he sees me again.

I've tried to other people, too. A friend of mine that lives away, really away, she's in Mexico I'm in Europe, and haven't seen her or talked to for months, called me the following day just to see how I am doing.
And I did it to my brother once I was at my parents house and the next moment he came out from his room where he spent the day ignoring me, he hugged me and gave me a kiss out of nowhere! My brother is a little "MAN" he never does this stuff! I asked him what happened and he said that he just felt like he wanted to give me a kiss.

[kjkitt]

what method of RS are you doing?
Can you tell me exactly the way you do it? and what time of day?
so much thanks

here is a free mp3 which most of us use--- its guided.

just try it and you love it


http://www.powerfulintentions.org/forum/attachment/download?id=1335877%3AUploadedFi58%3A2198490

[kjkitt]

Funny, I am still trying to grab a hold of quotes and oops failed at it! LOL!!

Anyway, I just did this and what a wonderful feeling that was!  I had to send my energy 2,000 miles as that is where my hubby moved to.  Soon to be back I may add!!

Thank you for sharing this!

[Purple_Ray]

Hello! I need some advice please!

I am quite new to LOA, even I have heard about it some years ago when a friend of mine recommended me The Secret (the movie). After a while I forgot about it, but still I could attract many good things into my life since I've always been ambitious and I had faith in God.

I had  hard times in my life, but I could overcome everything...However in July last year I broke up with my bf and everything became more darker than always, I lost my faith and I did not care about my life anymore...I could not sleep, eat, do practically anything. One day I started to think I need some help, because I couldn't stay like this forever. So one day, one friend cross into my mind.The next day, we were talking on skype and she bought ticket to visit me...until then we did not speak for many months and we did not talk about her visiting me. She came and she helped me a lot. Without her I think I would have finished in a Mental Illness Hospital, as I was very depressed. "Luckily" (?) , she had some experience with someone very depressed before. so she knew exactly how to cheer me on. I really thank her and God, because I know He send her to me..

Since then , I can say I am much much better---I forgave me and my bf, I started to appreciate and love myself again, I met new people, positive ones,  most of the time I even truly believe I am back again with my bf...maybe you will wonder what it is my problem then? well my problem is detachment! When I feel detach I am scared that I forgot him, but after that I have some moments when I really miss him, or I am panicking that he might be with another girl or ...I don't know..I make so many sceneries in my mind...I know I am not completely detached , because if I were , I wouldn't have those moments. Another problem with me is lack of faith, because I am scared that if I detach I will totally lose my connection with him. Sometimes I feel so full of faith, like I could move mountains, but other times...

What can I do to be completely detach and yet not be scared of losing my connection to him? I hope someone can help me...Thank you.

[onlyhappiness]

Hi Daniela !

 Read the post above from Angelstar ( i would quote it but i have not yet figured out how to do that. Lol ...it is about knowing that you absolutely will receive whatever you ask for so you don't need to worry so much about it and concentrate on being happy. Don't worry so much about detatching as this will cause you more attatchment. I hope this makes sense. For me it was like a lightbulb going off as i could not seem to make myself detatch or not care about the outcome

[alliswell]

Please help ..not able to download the mp3 for RS:(

[Rain Raquib]

@alliswell
http://www.powerfulintentions.org/forum/attachment/download?id=1335877%3AUploadedFi58%3A2198490

right click on this link and click on "save link as..." then it will be downloaded.
Hope it helped...

Thanx

[alliswell]

Hi all

I am having a tough time keeping myself hopeful and positive...had a very bad day today...cried a lot....i just want him back
for my peace of mind ....dont know whether LOA would be able to help me or not as i have been hurt badly...
i see him daily happy without me ....he does not even have an idea what he has done and what i am going through...

i wanted to ask you people that i agree that we attract whatever happens to us... but how LOA is applicable from the perspective of the lover who hurt us .... how is LOA affecting him when we are pleading in name of our love and he is pushing us away.... how does this happen....

[beautifulmesss12sc]

I really needed to see this post right now ... i have for the most part detached ...i heard from him recently and felt i was becoming attached again and had a cpl bad days .. so thanks for this post  .. back in the saddle again!

[Kas]

I found this awesome video that may help with detachment. 
http://www.crushongod.com/post/17287390458/dealing-with-relationship-breakups-has-been-one-of

Even though Bruce talks about letting go and moving on, I think his main message may help with detachment.  'Only because a relationship ended doesn't mean you've failed.' I felt calmness when I watched this video because it allows me to know that I did the best I could at the time with the knowledge I had.  Once I'm detached, I'll be able to manifest my soulmate and I promise not to repeat any of the mistakes.  Hope this helps!

[Mr Brightside]

Kas this is really good stuff. I think its really much better than you posted. Not only does it talk about detachment, but LOA also. He talks about getting yourself out the hole you are in , and visualize what the life you want.

He does go on about having a long conversation with your ex. 5 things you need to talk to them about.. for example what i love about you, what im sorry for.. and have the other person do the same in return. Its kinda hard to do i have to say, but i think its a good tip if you can actually get to the point to have this talk.

[malicexmirage]

okay so i got a situation and needs a clear answer to this,. I knew of LOA before I even realize it was that I was reading while reading The Secret probably around 5+years ago. Right now I just finished reading LOA by Hicks & been watchign & reading everything about LOA and there's still questions left unanswered to me. On the process, I was actually practicing & well I know it works for sure just that I need that right alignment of vibrations. With regards to relationships, since I came from a breakup almost 6-7mos ago, he's still in my heart yes & after being enlightened w/ LOA I started to renew myself w/ it to speed the process of him getting back. Some are telling stop overthinking, I agree since it makes me long for him more & I will end up crying anyway, and w/ the basic theory of LOA is that like attracts like so I tweaked my perspective from that to another in a more positive/probably illusionary? or dreamy way,..recently I've been thinking/envisioning myself that I am still w/ him in our happy moments and it's not the "I hope he's here right now with me while _____" statement, it's more of the "Someday we'll see each other again because ______" or "I know you'll be here beside me and probably sooner someday_____"  statement. So to those who fully understand LOA would you help me on this part? I would like to apply LOA appropriately when it comes to getting ex-e back. because I do believe I have this very very strong connection with this man it feels like we're fated, whatever happened in the past is "so what" to me even if it looked the worst of the worst that ever happened to me, I'm just holding on to that feeling that someday we'll get back to each other again, and in a more loving than what I expected way. Much appreciated in advance thanks!

[animor]

I have also read many LOA books during the last years.
I 'll tell you what I got from them and what has worked for me.
Detachment of your wish but not the way most people suggest, I think none of the books that I read suggested forgetting about what you want IF it makes you feel good.
So, if you feel good about the relationship you want, it is recommendable to think of it. In order to do this, you have to feel only positive things about your partner. Have you forgiven him? for the break up and the hurt he made you suffer? If yes, you are in a good way. Love and appreciation are the feelings you should have. Acknowledge and appreciate that it was good for both of you and the relationship to be separated for a while in order to have a better one in the future. Have you changed for the best during that period? Or did you spend it desperate, in pain and fear that he won't come back? If you become better and stronger and realize that you don't need anyone to make you happy, you can make happy yourself, again this places you closer to your intention.

If you feel all these good things, you can think of what you want, it is suggested to think of it, imagine it, feel it. Feel the outcome, not the hope, not the fear or worry of how or when, just know it has already happened and will manifest.
When you can't see it coming and wonder where it is, the only missing part is you, nothing and no one else.
You may need to do something, an inspired action or do nothing. That's up to you.

But you said that thinking of him, makes you cry. You should release those emotions and fears
, you should be in a place that all the above will only bring you a smile and joy. If they aren't, you shouldn't do it, you will attract more of the same pain, worries etc. So, get rid of them and try again or focus on something else. The first one is always the most effective but it is the most difficult.

So, just be happy, when being with him again, you will be happy, right? Start being happy on your own, doing whatever helps you and you will have soon more things to be happy about.

[malicexmirage]

I have also read many LOA books during the last years.
I 'll tell you what I got from them and what has worked for me.
Detachment of your wish but not the way most people suggest, I think none of the books that I read suggested forgetting about what you want IF it makes you feel good.
So, if you feel good about the relationship you want, it is recommendable to think of it. In order to do this, you have to feel only positive things about your partner. Have you forgiven him? for the break up and the hurt he made you suffer? If yes, you are in a good way. Love and appreciation are the feelings you should have. Acknowledge and appreciate that it was good for both of you and the relationship to be separated for a while in order to have a better one in the future. Have you changed for the best during that period? Or did you spend it desperate, in pain and fear that he won't come back? If you become better and stronger and realize that you don't need anyone to make you happy, you can make happy yourself, again this places you closer to your intention.

If you feel all these good things, you can think of what you want, it is suggested to think of it, imagine it, feel it. Feel the outcome, not the hope, not the fear or worry of how or when, just know it has already happened and will manifest.
When you can't see it coming and wonder where it is, the only missing part is you, nothing and no one else.
You may need to do something, an inspired action or do nothing. That's up to you.

But you said that thinking of him, makes you cry. You should release those emotions and fears
, you should be in a place that all the above will only bring you a smile and joy. If they aren't, you shouldn't do it, you will attract more of the same pain, worries etc. So, get rid of them and try again or focus on something else. The first one is always the most effective but it is the most difficult.

So, just be happy, when being with him again, you will be happy, right? Start being happy on your own, doing whatever helps you and you will have soon more things to be happy about.

There's just alot of LOA books but I stick to one since they all imply the very same thought. I was just reading the detachment thread and im quite getting it in the process. I do feel good about our relationship even if sometimes he is this and that etc. I find myself easy to surrender to love whatever huge emotional damage the break up have caused. It's like, "Ah! that's it I love him and I want him so much and that's just the way he is" I love to love you see and I always tell him I'm always being positive about our relationship (and that was actually a plus to him when I told him that). Have I forgiven him? I want to say yes but I don't want to lie, I actually don't know, until I read these statements while reading "to forgive is to let go"-still vague for me until i came to this: "that it happens when I do allow him in his wants while I allow myself in my wants while feeling good about myself"; probably im around half-way to nearly complete forgiving/letting go like 85% up to this time where I am learning about the secret . Whenever I think of him, recently (after being exposed to so much LOA & self-help articles/books&quotations, sometimes i find myself remembering the days I was with him, in our happiest moments (and I do even felt that kind of flustered?or cloud9 sensation) when I am so into it remembering those times, well I do admit there are times I cannot lie there are flashbacks, when it happens i close my eyes and think of something different/happy.
As i was doing these,. there's also a friend of mine who told me something that never left my mind (she told this to me right when I was still w/ him) and she was kind of a surprise to me when she said that she sensed something strong about this man that he will ask me for something~ (and that definitely I felt so flustered and strengthened my belief that he is deifnitely my soulmate) It was something I currently hold on as I do this LOA thing it seems helpful. I'm a huge imaginator I even thought of us from getting back together up to getting married & having kids! Though well I admit there are times I shift down to "missing him" whenever I see "signs" like couples kissing, everyone spending V-day so happy, saw inspiring love stories on screen etc. I do agree with you I need to work on something on my part so I'll be also free. 
And so that just means, I am doing the right thing am I? That since it's this specific person I wanted to come to my experience to come back & reconcile, that thinking of him in a positive way is a good thing am i right? Right now I'm reading a self-help book and i'm still in the process, day by day I want to see I'm improving and getting better and surely getting my beloved ex back I've always believed in being ambitious and I am that ambitious.

[Baxter4ever2]

Tha makes all the sense in the world, the thinking of the person too much is my problem!!! This is amazing and I'm starting right now!!!!