Detachment

[Stefzilla]

So after tonight I am starting to see some relation to how my detachment is affect the progress of my relationship with my ex.  Its very strange but when I feel at peace over the situation, when I don’t focus on it and let it drag me down, I find there is progress. Every time I have done this she calls, and wants to see me and spend time with me. The problem is I get excited and start to overthink it in my head, I start planning ahead of time and making the situation 1000 more romantic than it probably will be. Each time I have done this, mind you I don’t say anything to her, something has come up and we get back to square one. For example I talked to her 4 times this week, she wants to see me and spend time with me next weekend when her parents are away, sounds good right, anyways I got excited and told my friends. I woke up today and she called in panic over some financial issues, as the conversation kept going it was like walking back , and she once again said she doesn’t want to get back together. I feel like I am playing this cat mouse game, every time I pull away she comes running and when I respond she runs away. I really don’t know what else to do but cut all communication, which scares me, but I guess that is really something LOA teaches in a sense of letting go and trusting things will work out. Any ideas?

[crazysoul]

i know where your coming from--- cat and mouse game--- have the same and you know it.
only a short advice what i would do....
break up the contact with her for a while... tell her that you need some time on your own and that youre very busy anyway. that will make her think.
dont let her play this game, there is always someone who is playing and the other one let them play, so first stop it. i know how hard that is, but otherwise she wont learn and continue.
get detached, care for yourself, do your own thing.
and please try pstec... you will find it here in this forum, it will help you alot to get over these negative thoughts, which came anyway by her playing this cat and mouse thing, that IS hurting.
do you have a visionboard?

trust that the outcome is already yours, but you cant continue with this for a while.
believe me, that will make her think alot.

hope, this time i could help YOU

[tereza]

For example I talked to her 4 times this week, she wants to see me and spend time with me next weekend when her parents are away, sounds good right, anyways I got excited and told my friends. I woke up today and she called in panic over some financial issues, as the conversation kept going it was like walking back , and she once again said she doesn’t want to get back together. I feel like I am playing this cat mouse game, every time I pull away she comes running and when I respond she runs away. I really don’t know what else to do but cut all communication, which scares me, but I guess that is really something LOA teaches in a sense of letting go and trusting things will work out. Any ideas?

Eh, why do you have to cut off all communication with her? If anything I think perhaps you just need to work on not getting overly excited and not get ahead of yourself. When you're trying to manifest something, sometimes it's best to keep the details of it to yourself until it's well...fully developed. So getting excited and telling your friends about your date or even talking about the relationship before anything has really happened, might be sort of be what's causing problems for you. Check out this article if you haven't already, I think it really relates to your situation:

http://www.mind-your-reality.com/tempt_fate.html#Part_2

[soholoa]

Tereza, the link you provided is great!  It does makes sense.  You know, I always suspect it is not good to talk about our results until we actually have it for sure. Now, it just confirmed what I thought.

Thanks for the link!