Author Topic: Days of Doubt and Jealousy :( (Read 1133 times)

Mollys_Love · « **on:** July 16, 2012, 12:25:28 AM »

Ok, so for the past week I have been feeling good about my situation with this girl I am attracting.

However, today I am feeling less than hopeful, and that familiar pang of jealousy and pain when I see a picture of her with her current guy or see a mention of him on her facebook.

Worst of all, I haven't heard from her since July 4th. Eleven days doesn't seem like a lot, but I thought things should improve more with our communication by now.

In general I still feel good, but what do I do to relieve these feelings of doubt, jealousy, and pain when I think about her?

kitten7 · « **Reply #1 on:** July 16, 2012, 02:05:50 AM »

Defriend her or cancel your own fb acct.
Grab your ipod/iphone/whatever music thing you have and GO FOR A WALK!
If you think 11 days is a lot, then you are not detached yet - hence blocking her from
coming back. Focus on yourself

Find a HUGE project and dive in! But get up and go
for that walk.

Seriously.

over it · « **Reply #2 on:** July 16, 2012, 03:01:48 AM »

I agree with kitten7, get up and go do something...the more you sit there and look at her facebook the more jealousy and doubt you're gonna feel, and what you think and put out into the universe, the more you'll get back. Believe me, my ex is with someone else at the moment...I try not to think about it. She's not what broke us up, she's not the issue. I know you're probably curious as to what she's doing and who with, but sometimes as they say, "curiosity killed the cat". It's better not knowing. I would block her it I was you until you've let go, or you never will. Blessings to you!

Mollys_Love · « **Reply #3 on:** July 16, 2012, 04:45:49 AM »

It's not that I'm facebook creeping and sitting around all day to see what she is up to. It's just that when I look down my newsfeed, every once and a while something from her is there, and it usually involves him.

From Sunday to about Wednesday, it didn't bother me at all when I saw things like that. But since I haven't heard from her in a while, even though we had had some good communication preceding when I decided to put more effort into manifesting her into my life.

I don't want to block if her if she does want to get in touch with me. My cell phone recently incurred water damage and I'm not getting it replaced until Wednesday, so internet communication is all I can practically hope for. Email or facebook.

It's like no matter what I do, it doesn't work.

Mollys_Love · « **Reply #4 on:** July 16, 2012, 05:44:43 AM »

And she just posted about finishing up with some wedding plans and how much she loves her amazing fiance.

Dammit. Dammit. Dammit.

Again, not watching, and waiting all day, but when I happened to glance at it, her posts always happen to have just been posted and at the top of my newsfeed.

Am I making their relationship better by not wanting them to have a good relationship? Like I am focusing on her and him instead of her and I?

Mr positive · « **Reply #5 on:** July 16, 2012, 06:03:05 AM »

you are stuck just like me! I took my ex off my fb its alot easier that way! As for her not talking to you anymore mine hasnt texted me since two weeks! I got a text by her but i did not text back bc i know she will just use me and play with my emmotions, they dont talk to you untill problems in there new relationships happen than they come to you first which i dont know why that is... Im suffering every day over this but if you could create these bad experiences with your mind and emmotions than you can take it all away with new thoughts and feelings! You can always start your day over any second of the day! Good luck

Mollys_Love · « **Reply #6 on:** July 16, 2012, 06:18:36 AM »

But do you think my thoughts of them together is what is making their relationship go so well?

Mr positive · « **Reply #7 on:** July 16, 2012, 06:33:55 AM »

yep it sure is man! My ex always breaks up with her bfs when i focus on just us! She than contacts me and cries over it and i become just a damn shoulder to cry on! Im sick of being used but yeah thats whats keeping it going you got to act as if this guy doesnt exist in her life as hard as it is! It has to be done! My problem always is when we talk awhile i always think shes gonna find some one again and boom she does so dont think about him or others guys with her ever!

Mollys_Love · « **Reply #8 on:** July 16, 2012, 06:46:41 AM »

How do I stop thinking about him?

Any time we talk, he comes up as a subject, whenever she updates me about her life, since he is so important to her in it, he is a topic.

And all of her pictures in the last 4 months have included him. when I email her, he's in her account photo. Her facebook profile, so even when she likes something on my page or contacts me, he pops up too.

It's so frustrating.

Also, he is her fiance. It seems it will be a lot harder to pull apart two people who want to be married than a boy friend and girlfriend without that strong commitment.

The wedding isn't for 15 months, but that seems like a ticking clock for me. I have to accomplish this long before then.

Mr positive · « **Reply #9 on:** July 16, 2012, 07:44:32 AM »

thats 15 months away from now its a long time anything can happen in 15 months maybe there is a reason for that giving you time to win her over? Think of positive outcomes and maybe you should not have her in so many forms of communication untill you can focus on only you guys together...

ellebelle · « **Reply #10 on:** July 16, 2012, 07:55:28 AM »

Just a tip, if you don't want to remove her off facebook, everytime you see a status from her, hover over the right of it and an arrow shall appear, press it and click "unsubscribe", then none of her updates will appear on your newsfeed and you will be free to browse Facebook without her popping up all the time. Then you just need the willpower not to go directly to her profile. I did this and it worked wonders for me when it came to letting go and scrutinizing over everything my ex posted. Ignorance is bliss.

Mollys_Love · « **Reply #11 on:** July 16, 2012, 08:20:56 AM »

Thanks ellebelle, I didn't know you could do that.

@ Mr. Positive, I can't really help the amount of communication options we have. I'm not changing my number or primary email to shut her out. I don't contact her too often, maybe once or twice in a two week period. The last message I sent was on the 9th, and no reply.

15 months...it is a long time, for a lot to happen, but they seem so close and happy together, it doesn't seem like it will.

Mr positive · « **Reply #12 on:** July 16, 2012, 09:10:12 AM »

hey people change over time and your her friend so she will still come to you! You can do what elle said i never thought of that either i just unfriended her than she wrote her last text saying whats up did you take me off your fb lol i felt like texting her back but never did! Hang in there dude your manifestation is taking form

Autumn · « **Reply #13 on:** July 16, 2012, 03:11:30 PM »

My advice is, don't make such a big deal out of facebook. It's just a social networking site. For me, my sweetheart took me off his friend list and unfriended me after the huge fight happened. Even though I haven't been added back, I haven't seen his updates in 2-3 months, he still texts me on his own. We talk every now and then. I get signs about him and we're on our way to getting back together. I rarely visit his profile even though I can view all his pictures. When I do, I don't feel bad or miss him. I feel happy to look at him instead. FB doesn't really portray how a person's life is, it portrays what the person wants to show the world. It's like how your packaging your life for others to view it because obviously presentation matters

so don't bother about fb, it rarely reflects a person's life truly. It over-glamorizes bits.

Scratch fb, she's going to call, text and update you with her life even without it. You're one of her best friends. She loves you and wants to share her life and happenings with you. Now all you need to do is concentrate on yourself.

Mollys_Love · « **Reply #14 on:** July 16, 2012, 10:32:43 PM »

It's still difficult for me. All I see or hear about her and her life is wedding plans and her fiance. I can't block hm or their relationship out of mind. How do i start believing in a relationship between her and I when the specter of her current guy is there all the time?