Contacting ex... Good idea or not?

[Ginny]

I think it really depends on the person. If there are negative emotions involved, or the other person says they need their space - then definitely no contact. But if you feel good about contacting them and it won't be the end of the world if you don't get exactly the response you are hoping for, I really can't see the point in NOT contacting them.

[Magdog, MD, Mr. Best Luck]

I took charge and to be honest with you that is one of the things that she respected of me, my determination and strength, and I think many women do. I said to her just hear me out, I did not beg, but I spoke from the heart. I have never begged her, and once I do talk to her, I back off and give her time to digest it all. I plant the seed and let it grow. I make her aware it is there, but I do not forcefeed it. I have broken up with women in the past and the ones I do get back together with are the ones that were persistantly nice, and that is what I am doing here. I have dated many women in my time, and if a woman will not see you or asks you not to bother her and is emotional about it, the are scare to let you in again. So guys take it slow, do the work, and just be you, do not do NC just for the sake of it.

Old saying "dont be a bull in a china store"

[HelpingitHappen]

qkqKing,

Thanks for the kind words. Your post just struck a chord in me, and for the moments of reading it, I could see myself in your very fortunate position.
Be kind, be gentle, most of all be totally honest. Remember no one NEEDS to right in these situations. Communicate effectively and place no blame.
I do believe you and yours will enjoy the spoils of your efforts.
YOU... are the MAN!

Peace and Love,
BW