Conflicting signs ???

[Autumn]

Right, so all of last week I've been getting 11.11 and interesting number sequences, meaningful songs and signs about my guy. He also texted me last night and been doing so all day today. But the problem is, I've also been getting other weird signs.

Things are currently a bit weird between me and the other guy, haven't been in touch for a while now, though I told him I'd get back in touch once I sorted myself out. We've always been great friends and got along really well even after we decided not to pursue a relationship. But then I suddenly felt like I needed some space because I couldn't really think clearly around him. I'm also getting repeating number sequences like 11.11, 12.12, 14.14, 15.15 and now 16.16 all in one day. Furthermore, the conversation with my guy started off differently and took an unexpected turn while I was getting a different vibe compared to what he was saying. There's also every chance I'll meet my guy when I go back home in Sept/Oct. Meh, why's the Universe being so thick?? Or is it just me

I'm just all confused, the signs are all over the place but I can't read them. Everything seems to be moving so very fast all of a sudden, like the current just speeded up. Things are just happening so quick, I don't know what to make of it. Help!!

Edit: This in no way means that I'm feeling off. I'm actually feeling great, it's like I just realised how much opportunity there is in the world and I feel good, sexy and desirable knowing that I actually always manifest great relationships, amazing in their own way. Somehow, people always seem to want long-term with me. I guess that's a good sign, I must be giving off the right vibes because mostly people I meet seem to give me the impression that they'd be happy to pursue something serious with me even though I never take it past the friendship stage. My guy is a sweet, tender, loving, affectionate, caring and perfect partner in the relationship. I could have asked for nothing better and was on cloud 9 during it. I get the feeling that attracting the right guy & what I want in a relationship isn't the thing I should be worried about, since I seem to be doing that perfectly well.

I seem to be changing my vibration once I get what I want and I have the perfect relationship. Somewhere along the way, I get caught up in the sheer romance and happiness and I'm letting my focus slide from me and that's why some or the other resistance pops up in the relationship. Just my take on this, I'm looking for some input guys

[Autumn]

Okay this is really creeping me out, in a good way of course. I suddenly realised something really important about my associations with both these guys. In some way, I felt really free with this other guy because I felt I wasn't being judged. I could be my best and most crazy-happy-funny self because he didn't expect. With my guy, I felt the pressure to be perfect. The strain of being on his pedestal and being worshipped was a little too much for me and that's where I think I slipped up. He was devoted to me and in turn made me strive to be worthy of all that. Because I felt that I didn't deserve that place and that much adoration. I am pretty much me with everyone but this guy made me feel really open and confident. I think even though it contributed to the breakup with my boyfriend my meeting this guy was meant to teach me how lovely I am and what I could do if I just let myself be free and dream big.

[sh-boom]

i wouldnt read into the signs too much, if youre finding them hard to read then maybe youre looking too hard for them, even if you dont realise it?
for me signs slap you right in the face when youre least expecting it and you cant mistake or worry about reading into them, because theyre so obvious you dont need to and they just make you feel amazing!

[Autumn]

i wouldnt read into the signs too much, if youre finding them hard to read then maybe youre looking too hard for them, even if you dont realise it?
for me signs slap you right in the face when youre least expecting it and you cant mistake or worry about reading into them, because theyre so obvious you dont need to and they just make you feel amazing!

That's the whole point. I never asked for any of these. I've been keeping myself busy with dinner parties, meeting people, work and exercise. I've just been getting very clear ones about both guys, but they conflict each other. I'm starting to feel that they were meant to point out something to me. Because within minutes of thinking about the whole scenario I started getting insights into my own behaviour and how the dynamics of each affected the relationship. I think they were more a way of catching my attention and saying - Look here, this is something you need to think about and figure out, it's important. And you're right, I feel great!

[Autumn]

I feel great. And I love feeling this way!! So after my afternoon's post, I just started thinking back on the past few months, and the insights I had were nothing short of transforming. I really do think the signs were just to get my attention and get me thinking on why things turned out the way they did, I guess it was something I needed to work out for myself. And all those signs meant that something's about to change, something big is about to happen. And it did, in my thinking. Which means it's following in my reality.

I've been feeling real good all day, in the vortex so to say. My sweetheart kept texting me (of course he did! ) and we exchanged messages back and forth for a while. I'm just feeling better and better. Just getting this feeling that it's all working out. I felt amazing while we were texting and I also enjoyed a lovely 13 km bike ride (13 has proved lucky for me in the past too). Stopped to smell the flowers and all that sort of thing. For some reason, I came home and felt like looking at his photos on Facebook. And instead of missing him like I normally do, I got this feeling that he's already mine, we're almost back together. I just felt so much love in my heart for him that I kept bouncing in my seat and blowing kisses at the screen (anybody would have thought me a complete maniac ). I could only think of catching hold of this amazing man, kissing him real hard and telling him how much he means to me. Felt him right back in my life. Yay yay YAY!! Sorry for all the craziness, but I'm real happy right now and this feels like the sort of happiness that's here to stay for a while. I truly feel like I know how it is to focus on what you want and the person you love rather than their absence in your life. The former is so much better . It feels so good and natural to believe. It's like some band of resistance just snapped and I'm free and powerful. I know he's coming back and what a feeling that is!

[lucymable]

It's lovely to see that you are feeling so happy and so powerful! And I just read your latest post - incredibly inspiring stuff girly!! thank you    It's great to see, it proves to me that if you (well, anybody on this forum!) can do it, then so can I! I'm still struggling with getting my head around the fact that my guy is already mine, he's already back with me. I do feel very happy and relaxed on a day to day basis, and  when I imagine us together, laughing and talking with his friends in his house like we used to I do feel very happy and I know my vibrations are high during those moments - is that enough though?  And when I think of us meeting next, I feel so anxious and nervous - but in a good way, it reminds of the way I felt when I was on our way to our first date!! Are these good feelings to be sending out to the universe?! 

(sorry for asking for advice in your post by the way 9J!)

[Autumn]

Not at all, why would that be an issue?? that's what these posts are for, to express ourselves and to seek advice on what we feel.

I am real happy today and it's a good feeling. I'm glad it made you feel nice as well . IMO, I don't think you should force yourself or stress yourself over the fact that you're still not feeling he's already yours. It'll come, I promise it will. Someday you'll wake up and it'll all feel pretty spiffy. Worrying about whether you're there yet and wanting and feeling anxious to get there sooner defeats the whole purpose, since you're meant to feel good . Just milk those moments for all their worth, when you do feel real high on life and positive. I'm so happy that you feel good on a daily basis. It really helps with balance and perspective. If they're feelings of nervous excitement and expectation I guess it's good. They're positive feelings as long as you're not worried or anxious about the outcome. Be excited about the outcome but like you've always known what it'll be and with anticipation.

For my part, I'm on a really high vibration right now and maybe he isn't. He's finding it difficult to believe how different I am and the way I'm handling this. He expected me to dissolve into a pool of tears and be depressed for very very long. In a way, he feels like I'm not caring enough. I know what a hard time he's going through. I want him to know that felt really low for a while too, I went through all that too, but it's about how you rise above it that matters. Just because I'm not sad doesn't mean I don't care. I want to help him through it but he won't let me in. That is something I really can't do anything about. Until he reaches the right state of mind it makes no sense. I can't manifest a relationship with him while he's on a different vibration. But I know that when he is in the right place he'll appreciate me for being strong. He said slightly bitterly that I obviously don't need him anyway since I am taking all my decisions myself. I know it hurts him to feel that way but isn't it nicer to know that someone wants you rather than desperately needs you? I suppose it would be nicer to be in a relationship with a strong confident person who wants to share their life with you and is an equal who seeks your advice and opinion... rather than someone who needs you to survive and would break down without you. He needs to get to the point of appreciating that and until he makes that journey, and understands that... It'll be difficult for him to rise above the immediate pain and grief of breaking up (mainly cause I just hate that phrase, I'm never going to type it in without a strike-through). We both really need this, it's teaching us so much. I'm sure that in the long run, it'll all be for the good.

[sh-boom]

i wouldnt read into the signs too much, if youre finding them hard to read then maybe youre looking too hard for them, even if you dont realise it?
for me signs slap you right in the face when youre least expecting it and you cant mistake or worry about reading into them, because theyre so obvious you dont need to and they just make you feel amazing!

That's the whole point. I never asked for any of these. I've been keeping myself busy with dinner parties, meeting people, work and exercise. I've just been getting very clear ones about both guys, but they conflict each other. I'm starting to feel that they were meant to point out something to me. Because within minutes of thinking about the whole scenario I started getting insights into my own behaviour and how the dynamics of each affected the relationship. I think they were more a way of catching my attention and saying - Look here, this is something you need to think about and figure out, it's important. And you're right, I feel great!

thats good then, if they are coming to you without you asking for them then thats awesome, but i wouldnt try to analyse them too much and so onas like you say thats when you struggle to read them, i think that signs dont really need to be read, they come at you in a way that is so obvious they shouldnt need to be interpreted too much. thats just my opinion though!

the signs that youre having that youre finding a bit confusing/hard to read, id just take them as a little heads up from the universe that everything is sorting itself out and aligning for you to manifest your desires and thank the universe for letting you know and giving you that boost

[Autumn]

thats good then, if they are coming to you without you asking for them then thats awesome, but i wouldnt try to analyse them too much and so onas like you say thats when you struggle to read them, i think that signs dont really need to be read, they come at you in a way that is so obvious they shouldnt need to be interpreted too much. thats just my opinion though!

the signs that youre having that youre finding a bit confusing/hard to read, id just take them as a little heads up from the universe that everything is sorting itself out and aligning for you to manifest your desires and thank the universe for letting you know and giving you that boost

I do agree with that, they're mostly there to give me a heads up and say Hi, here we are. In my opinion, if they jump out at you with an obvious message, *very* good. But if not, it's just to reassure you that things are happening and moving. That everything is set into motion and is aligning for the manifestation of your desire. Just to say, well things aren't stagnant. It's happening, even if you can't see it just yet. I'm really happy about it all though. It's nice that the Universe is being so considerate and giving me a heads up every now and then

[sh-boom]

i totally agree, its like the universe is saying hi there, dont worry havent forgotten about you! hehe

[lucymable]

Not at all, why would that be an issue?? that's what these posts are for, to express ourselves and to seek advice on what we feel.

I am real happy today and it's a good feeling. I'm glad it made you feel nice as well . IMO, I don't think you should force yourself or stress yourself over the fact that you're still not feeling he's already yours. It'll come, I promise it will. Someday you'll wake up and it'll all feel pretty spiffy. Worrying about whether you're there yet and wanting and feeling anxious to get there sooner defeats the whole purpose, since you're meant to feel good . Just milk those moments for all their worth, when you do feel real high on life and positive. I'm so happy that you feel good on a daily basis. It really helps with balance and perspective. If they're feelings of nervous excitement and expectation I guess it's good. They're positive feelings as long as you're not worried or anxious about the outcome. Be excited about the outcome but like you've always known what it'll be and with anticipation.

For my part, I'm on a really high vibration right now and maybe he isn't. He's finding it difficult to believe how different I am and the way I'm handling this. He expected me to dissolve into a pool of tears and be depressed for very very long. In a way, he feels like I'm not caring enough. I know what a hard time he's going through. I want him to know that felt really low for a while too, I went through all that too, but it's about how you rise above it that matters. Just because I'm not sad doesn't mean I don't care. I want to help him through it but he won't let me in. That is something I really can't do anything about. Until he reaches the right state of mind it makes no sense. I can't manifest a relationship with him while he's on a different vibration. But I know that when he is in the right place he'll appreciate me for being strong. He said slightly bitterly that I obviously don't need him anyway since I am taking all my decisions myself. I know it hurts him to feel that way but isn't it nicer to know that someone wants you rather than desperately needs you? I suppose it would be nicer to be in a relationship with a strong confident person who wants to share their life with you and is an equal who seeks your advice and opinion... rather than someone who needs you to survive and would break down without you. He needs to get to the point of appreciating that and until he makes that journey, and understands that... It'll be difficult for him to rise above the immediate pain and grief of breaking up (mainly cause I just hate that phrase, I'm never going to type it in without a strike-through). We both really need this, it's teaching us so much. I'm sure that in the long run, it'll all be for the good.

Brilliant advice, thank you. I think worrying about feeling whether I am in the right place yet does make the process longer and harder. When I feel anxious it's both excitement and still a little bit apprehensive about the future. But you can only take each day as it comes and I'm getting better at accepting that, it's a big flaw of mine in general - I worry about things way too much! So i'm training myself to let go and not to worry, and I'm trying to do this in all areas of my life.  I do worry less now about text messages and facebook as I know they don't represent a person or properly convey a person's feelings...

Today I received a text from my guy after I sent one merely saying that I heard the good news about his competition and that he'd done well, and should be proud. I sent it with sincere feeling and did not worry whether he'd reply or not as I did it out of kindness and love for him. His reply could perhaps be viewed as a little cold - he thanked me and told me a little of his weekend but he did not stop to ask me how I was, or wish me well in any kind of way. In the past, this would have really hurt me, and I may have even sent back a heated reply demanding why he hadn't or rang him, worried that he didn't care about me anymore. I know this isn't true - I believe that if he didn't care, he wouldn't have eventually replied. He would have simply left it. Maybe I'm making excuses, but I like to see the good in him, he is not a selfish, self-centered person, he is the opposite and I think maybe this evening, after his busy weekend, he is just too tired to think properly. If you look for the bad in somebody, you are likely to receive negativity from them, but If I look for the good in him, I know It will find it's way to me again.

I think my guy may be in a similar place to yours in regards to being flummoxed about me picking myself up, brushing myself off and getting on with life in such a positive happy way. I think he still expects me to be sniffling into tissues and bursting into tears at love scenes in films. It throws them off and makes them act hostile towards you, as we've ripped the rug from underneath their feet, taken away their security blanket if you will, as we've gone 'hey, I love you, I want to spend time with you, but I do not NEED you to feel happy and fulfilled, I am happy the way I am right now' of course we know they make us happy - but they are not the determining factor, and that I DO readily acknowledge.  I don't think my guy likes to ask how I am because he can see through little snippets on facebook that yeah, I am fine, I'm better than fine, and he doesn't like being reminded!  Last week I was in the same city as him, but I didn't let him know as I was there to see my best friend and I didn't want to make the trip about him - he would have seen this on facebook and it might have annoyed him as the last time we spoke he asked me to let him know if I was about, I said sure, but at the time, it didn't feel right, so I left it, and I am so glad I did! I just hope he knows it's not because I don't care, it's just because It wouldn't have made me feel good.

I think like you and your partner, myself and mine really needed this. My guy obviously feels like he has something he needs to learn and experience without me by his side, and I have accepted that and hope that once he has done that, he will recognise that and also see what growing I have done in our time apart and hopefully that makes us a stronger couple. I think his month long trip to Vietnam, Cambodia and Thailand is going to give him the opportunity to do this learning and growing and it will also give him plenty of time to reflect and think about what he's got around him - one of those things being me!