Can you help?? Please...

[Lucy100]

Hi, I met a guy 2 weeks ago and I really like him, we have goten very close, he has only split up from his gf 6 weeks ago, he still feels something for her though, although she doesnt care for him, after all they were together only 3 months, she has a hold of him cos he is a real nice guy, and he helps her with various things as a friend, so when she found out he had started to move on and met me, she has talked him out of it   she doesnt want him but wants nobody to have him, classic!! he is confused cos he really likes me,  and we get on so well, he thinks she may come back to him one day, I think he is in denial though, his best friend thinks that too... the question is, how can I attract him and have him come to me, and have him realize his ex is being very selfish and uncaring? I know I can make him happy.   we have put things on hold, cos I'm findidng it difficult...

Please help

Thank you for reading.

[schenderson22]

That is a very tough position to be in.  However, you can absolutely change your circumstances.  First I recommend you forgive him and her in your heart.  The more anger and resistance you put out the more you will receive.   Second, you may want to consider making a list of all that you are grateful for.  "I am grateful for the air that I breathe""I am grateful for the love I have to give" etc... make them your own.  Read these each night before bed.  This should help start the process.  Anytime he or she does something to upset you, make a conscious effort to forgive them in your heart.  Forgiveness is the most powerful tool we have.

Welcome and lots of love to you!

[Lucy100]

Thank you Schenderson22, I will start doing the grateful affirmations, and the forgiveness.. however how do I go regarding attracting him coming to me and what statements shall I use? I believe I shouldnt use things such as I want him to be with me, but Im enjoying my relationship with him and how he is falling for me etc, is that correct? what are the most suitable things I can say and visualise?

Thanks again

Love and Light

[schenderson22]

Include it in your gratitude statements as though you already have it.   

[Lucy100]

Hi, I met a guy 2 weeks ago and I really like him, we have goten very close, he has only split up from his gf 6 weeks ago, he still feels something for her though, although she doesnt care for him, after all they were together only 3 months, she has a hold of him cos he is a real nice guy, and he helps her with various things as a friend, so when she found out he had started to move on and met me, she has talked him out of it   she doesnt want him but wants nobody to have him, classic!! he is confused cos he really likes me,  and we get on so well, he thinks she may come back to him one day, I think he is in denial though, his best friend thinks that too... the question is, how can I attract him and have him come to me, and have him realize his ex is being very selfish and uncaring? I know I can make him happy.   we have put things on hold, cos I'm findidng it difficult...

Please help

Thank you for reading.



Well that was 2 weeks ago i wrote that.. I feel very dissapointed as The guy in question has gone back with his ex... As soon as she found out he had started moving on, she freaked out and now she wants him back.. This guy and I met up yesterday for coffee, as he suggested seeing me I thought he was going to tell me he wanted to be with me.. I did my LOA each and everyday, affirmations, visualizations, magic box etc, and I am sorry to say it hasnt worked, I was very much convinced it was going to..  I feel lost, upset and very lonely, today its Valentines day after all...

Best wishes for everyone

Lucy xx 

[schenderson22]

 I have also adopted Ho'oponopono It is simple you just say "I love you, please forgive me, I am sorry, Thank you.  You can read more about it here: http://www.idreamcatcher.com/hooponopono/  I truly feel a shift when I make this statement.

Lot of love and the very best of LOA to you!!

[schenderson22]

I recently gave the following advice to another member of our community.

 It is hard to do but you must let go of the outcome of being together.  Just "know" that the two of you will be together at some point in  time.  It is imperative that you forgive him for all his actions that have hurt or saddened you.  forgive him for the inactions that you expected.  Don't "tell him".  Forgive him in your heart.  In addition, recognize that EVERYTHING happens for a reason.  I, too, am in the process of getting my man back. I know why we split.  We did so b/c I have made requests from the Universe and it is doing its best to help me get there.  I know it will.  It is just a matter of when.  I know certain things need to happen in order for me to get what I want and being apart is one of them right now.  It is hard not to "react" when he does or doesn't do something.  However, when I feel that "need" to react.  I take a deep breath and tell myself over and over "I forgive him, I forgive him, I forgive him"  You can also try the following.  This is new to me too but I feel like it is actually working.    (http://api.ning.com/files/GeEbDlX55ZZP3vcOuNPHRKrJzVd*rkxJs81uNoNWK5AIpW-JYiV-lzbnua8ugqw7Bd8S0hEjNgBtHrRn3ETCHKiOOIJwQgiZ/RemoteSeduction.mp3 ) - copy and paste the whole link.

Lots of love to you!!

[Maverick]

Yes I agree..
Keep visualizing and following with your list. Be grateful that you two are in contact. And keep doing it without even caring he comes to you or not Thats the key.
That is all you can do...

The rest depends on him to man up and decide who he wants to be with. And if does, I'm sure he will never want to be with his ex who is so freaky and possessive.

All the best. Keep doing your thing, without caring about the outcome.

[Lucy100]

Hi, I met a guy 2 weeks ago and I really like him, we have goten very close, he has only split up from his gf 6 weeks ago, he still feels something for her though, although she doesnt care for him, after all they were together only 3 months, she has a hold of him cos he is a real nice guy, and he helps her with various things as a friend, so when she found out he had started to move on and met me, she has talked him out of it   she doesnt want him but wants nobody to have him, classic!! he is confused cos he really likes me,  and we get on so well, he thinks she may come back to him one day, I think he is in denial though, his best friend thinks that too... the question is, how can I attract him and have him come to me, and have him realize his ex is being very selfish and uncaring? I know I can make him happy.   we have put things on hold, cos I'm findidng it difficult...

Please help

Thank you for reading.



Well that was 2 weeks ago i wrote that.. I feel very dissapointed as The guy in question has gone back with his ex... As soon as she found out he had started moving on, she freaked out and now she wants him back.. This guy and I met up yesterday for coffee, as he suggested seeing me I thought he was going to tell me he wanted to be with me.. I did my LOA each and everyday, affirmations, visualizations, magic box etc, and I am sorry to say it hasnt worked, I was very much convinced it was going to..  I feel lost, upset and very lonely, today its Valentines day after all...

Best wishes for everyone

Lucy xx 

------ UPDATE ------

My update is to just say, I texted my guy and he hasnt bothered replying, thats twice in 2 weeks, :"(  :"(  :"(  He doesnt care... I have been detached for over a month now, been doing my daily affirmations, the remote seduction, magic box, visualization, and enjoying my life, going out, having fun, I have even been dating another guy, nothing, nada, zilch, I want to keep believing but.. I dont know, please any comments are welcome!

Love

Lucy xxx

[57angel]

Hey Lucy, the secret to getting everything you want is to stay in the vortex - that place that you are happy, so positive that what you ask will manifest at the right time and in a perfect way Keep loving yourself, keep making yourself have so much fun, while firmly believing without any traces of fears and doubts that he will surely land into your arms

[Lucy100]

thank u 57angel for yr reply..., its so difficult to stay in the vortex though, any posts u recommend reading here, in this forum ? or books?

love and light xx

[57angel]

Yes Lucy, I have ebooks that helped me feel a lot better. PM me your email address, will send it to you

[schenderson22]

------ UPDATE ------

My update is to just say, I texted my guy and he hasnt bothered replying, thats twice in 2 weeks, :"(  :"(  :"(  He doesnt care...  I have been detached for over a month now, been doing my daily affirmations, the remote seduction, magic box, visualization, and enjoying my life, going out, having fun, I have even been dating another guy, nothing, nada, zilch, I want to keep believing but.. I dont know, please any comments are welcome!

Love

Lucy xxx

Let me ask you this, when you text him do you "expect" or "hope" for a response?