Author Topic: Can you attract an ex back after 5 years apart? (Read 9100 times)

G · « **on:** July 05, 2011, 11:25:26 PM »

Hi guys,

I'm a newbie. I split up from my ex 5 years ago. We don't have any contact anymore. I have moved on in so many ways but I'm still in love with him and would love to have him back in my life!

I've had a look at the LoA bible and it says to give your ex space, and completely focus on fixing YOU. I've been doing that the past 5 years and feel like a brand new person!

Is it possible to attract him back after 5 years apart?

Is it easier having had such a long time apart or does it minimise the chances??

Love & light
G

Twinklecake · « **Reply #1 on:** July 06, 2011, 02:06:11 AM »

I think you might want to consider very hard whether you want to. Lots of things can change in 5 years, and the man you attract back to you might not be the same one you first fell in love with. You've said yourself that you feel like a brand new person, it might be the same with him.
With that said, I think you can- I personally have attracted an ex back after 3 years. If you and he are good vibrational matches, he'll come back.
Good luck!

ava · « **Reply #2 on:** July 06, 2011, 02:59:36 PM »

so Twincle,you say for getting back an ex we should be on the same vibration?but how can we know that we are on the same vibration or not?maybe he/she is on lower vibration or higher than us!!but as i have found from all posts and success stories, the only thing that can help us is just sending positive vibration to universe and then let it go!if we send more and more positive vibration,our desires manifest faster.this is what i know about LOA and getting back together with an ex.although i have heard sometimes that we should be on the same vibration,but how can we know that?!!!!!

Katie · « **Reply #3 on:** July 06, 2011, 03:37:40 PM »

5 years is a long time apart. Do you have any way of initiating contact with him, to find out what he has become ?

lise · « **Reply #4 on:** July 06, 2011, 03:45:59 PM »

I think you can but you need to be specific about what you want when re attracting him - e.g a romantic relationship / to see him as a friend etc.

I've had exes get back in touch after 20 odd years - quite often after I;ve thought about them but I hadn't wanted a relationshio with them. E.g I spoke about an long ago ex with a friend - she knew him when we toghether and I said I'd not seen or heard from him in about 15 years despite him living about an hour away. A few weeks later, I got an inbox off him on fb asking how I was etc. We exchanged a few emails and had a bit of a ctach up. In his profile pic - he was pictures from a distance with his children and I wondered what he looked like now and how well he had aged etc. A week or so later - I bumped into him outside a shop - had a brief chat and that was it. I don't think it was coincidence that of all the times I could have seen him - that I did see him - not long after I put the thought out there.

G · « **Reply #5 on:** July 06, 2011, 08:30:20 PM »

Thank you for all the replies! I do realise that 5 years is a very long time. He truely was the most special person to me. We didn't split up because one cheated or fell out of love with each other, out circumstances didn't allow us to be together... and i just dont think that i've ever stopped loving him. During these 5 years, i've had to deal with lots of issues and at the same time accomplished so much without him but somehow i always end up missing him or wishing he was around to share moments and thoughts with. More so in the last three months. I've been thinking about him constantly and i've been dreaming about him too. Dreams where i go looking for him and dreams where we end up happy back together. Now i don't know much about dreams, so i'm not sure what they represent. Throughout this i have been thinking of making contact but i'm still unsure about that. I also take finding this site as a sign! I've never even seen or heard about this site untill yesterday... Maybe this is meant to be?

Quote from: Twinklecake on July 06, 2011, 02:06:11 AM

I personally have attracted an ex back after 3 years

@Twinklecake - how long did it take for your ex to make contact with you?

Love & light
G

Twinklecake · « **Reply #6 on:** July 06, 2011, 09:35:41 PM »

Quote from: ava on July 06, 2011, 02:59:36 PM

so Twincle,you say for getting back an ex we should be on the same vibration?but how can we know that we are on the same vibration or not?maybe he/she is on lower vibration or higher than us!!

That's the hard part- you can't really know whether s/he is on a lower or a higher vibration than you. I think it's best to work on raising your vibration, because you'll be happier that way, no matter what happens, and if theirs is higher, then you'll be a closer vibrational match.

Quote from: G on July 06, 2011, 08:30:20 PM

@Twinklecake - how long did it take for your ex to make contact with you?

Once I started actively using the LOA (visualizing, scripting, etc.), he made contact within a month.

G · « **Reply #7 on:** July 08, 2011, 03:17:33 PM »

Quote from: G on July 06, 2011, 08:30:20 PM

Once I started actively using the LOA (visualizing, scripting, etc.), he made contact within a month.

wow, that is just great to hear! What is the scripting you talk about? Is it a gratitude journal? I am trying to write a gratitude journal but i am really struggling. It is not that i'm not grateful, i just find it hard to put it into words. Do you have any advice?

Love & light
G

Katie · « **Reply #8 on:** July 08, 2011, 04:12:16 PM »

G, you could list such things as :

I am grateful for all the good things I have. Maybe your job, your independance, the ability to walk and see and hear and touch, your health in general, your family, your friends, your pet, the food you eat, the hobbies and passions you may have, the air you breathe.

I am in bad health and I'm not permitted to work, but I focus on other things. Things that we often take for granted and that I stated above. A neighbor's smile and their friendly hello. The flowers I see when I go for a walk. The beautiful sky and the wonderful surroundings I'm currently living in. A nice cool shower after a hot Summer day. Small things that may seem insignificant, but they will lead you to other things to feel grateful for. The more you add to your list, day by day, the more you'll find to be grateful for.

From Rhonda Byrne, "The Power"

Gratitude begins with two simple words - thank you - but you have to feel grateful with all your heart. The more you start to say thank you, the more you will feel it, and the more love you will give. There are three ways to use the power of gratitude in your llife, and every one of them is giving love:

1 Be grateful for everything you have received in your life (past)

2 Be grateful for everything you are receiving in your life (present)

3 Be grateful for what you want in your life, as though you have received it (future)

To use the power of gratitude, practice it. The more you feel gratitude, the more love you give ; and the more love you give, the more you receive.

Are you grateful for your health when it's good ? Or do you only notice your health when your body gets sick and hurts ?

Are you grateful when you have a good night's sleep ? Or do you take those nights for granted and only think of sleep when you've been deprived of it ?

Are you grateful for your loved ones when everything is going well, or do you only talk about your relationships when there are problems ?

Are you grateful for electricity when you use an appliance or flick a switch ? Or do you only think of electricity when there's a power blackout ?

Be grateful ! Gratitude costs you nothing, but is is worth more than all the riches in the world. Gratitude ENRICHES you with all the riches in life, because whatever you're grateful for MULTIPLIES !

Twinklecake · « **Reply #9 on:** July 08, 2011, 05:33:37 PM »

@Odessa: thank you for that post about gratitude, it was good to read.

@G: Scripting is when you talk or write about your desires like you already have them. When I script, I prefer to write a letter to someone, telling them about how I achieved what I wanted, since it's easier for me than talking out loud about it.
Here are a few links that might help you with scripting!

http://www.articlesbase.com/self-help-articles/law-of-attraction-scripting-555365.html

http://loaplayground.blogspot.com/2007/10/my-first-deliberate-miracle.html

Hope this helps

G · « **Reply #10 on:** July 08, 2011, 10:23:44 PM »

@Odessa and Twinklecake - thank you SO much for all the info, i appreciate it so much!

Love & light
G

Angelland · « **Reply #11 on:** August 05, 2011, 12:36:19 AM »

Relax and let The Universe do its magical work:-)
If you really wish to, you made that wish and now let it go.
That is what I am now at, after not hearing from my love for 1,5 year.
I send my wish and now after getting all the info here, I let go!

Katie · « **Reply #12 on:** August 05, 2011, 05:24:32 AM »

Angelland,

I'm so happy to read that you are letting go. It's the key to success !

peter_93 · « **Reply #13 on:** August 05, 2011, 06:57:01 AM »

I know one person (not personally) attract ex-love after 5 years apart..
No contact
No address
No phone
No email
No Face Book (it was a decade ago)
Nothing at all

How they found... they just bumped into each other in the middle of the crown in the shopping mall!!!!

But I believe this man who initiated attraction into his ex-love got to be SUPER DEDICATED to his thought of woman and create super attraction force that draw both of them to meet each other after 5 year of absent.

Good news --- They both got marry together now.