Boyfriend treats me wrong

[georgina]

Hello positive attractors,
For a period of time (not that short) I was trying to attract an ex but while doing that I met somebody else. The good part is that the old one is now expressing a lot of interest towards me ,it's because I completely let go of him and it worked:) well,he is not madly deeply in love with me but he is a loooot more interested than before. the sad part is that I have been with this new guy over a month.It's such a short time and he is already losing interest.He treats me bad.Of course the first couple of weeks he was an angel and now these two weeks he constantly forgets to call (when he said he would),he is adding 10 new girls on his facebook page every day.I tried to have a normal conversation about that and already 2 times I tried to break it off with him because of his behavior but he starts to convince me that he wants to be with me and he will change. Already 2 times... I can't explain to myself why on earth he treats me bad and in the meantime he doesn't want to break up. I really like this guy when he treats me right and I want to be with him but I won't stand this behavior. The dilemma here is should I break up with him and may be after that he would consider his behavior or should I just stop focusing on it,doing my thing and hoping for him to get interested again. I said to him many many times that it's not making me happy him adding so many girls on facebook,and I said that I give him a week (because he sends friend requests) and then if I see one more after this Thursday I will go ''single'' and there is no getting back. Well,I said that and it would be stupid of me not to do it.So he won't stop adding and I will do exactly what I told him I would do,because I can't stand it any more. Am I doing wrong when I give an ultimatum? If I don't fulfill my promise he will continue doing this..

[Miracles]

georgina,

If his behavior offends you / makes you feel insecure, then this means that it's lowering your vibration.. and that's not what you want! You want to surround yourself with things and people who love respect and care for you.
It's probably better that you let him go.. Tell him that you love yourself too much to put up it these bad emotions he produces in you. It's the best thing you can do, because then you have 2 possibilities: either he'll realise your true value, and change his bad behavior, OR you will find someone else who's waaay better.. either way you WIN!
Another suggestion, After you leave him, Do not think about getting into any new relationships.. I say give yourself some time to think about what your perfect relationship would be like, and to FEEL it in your heart, and be grateful for it as if it's already there.. Think about the qualities that you want in your man (doesn't have to be one of the 2 previous bfs), and really be grateful for all of it..

Once you really see and feel the relationship that you believe you deserve, you will NEVER give excuses to a man that treats you in anyway less than with the respect, love and kindness that you want!

So, in a nutshell, i say leave him, and start creating your desired relationship , SEE and FEEL it with your heart, and surrond yourself with love and happiness.. Recognize your real value, If you do that, you will NEVER go wrong..

Great things are coming! 

love! 

[georgina]

Thank you,Miracles. You are right that he is lowering my vibes but what is bothering me is that  if I break up with him completely the chance he will return is small and if I just go on with him but focus on the good qualities there's a better chance he will treat me right again,that's the confusing part

[Tinseltown]

What about your previous ex? The one you let go of and then got back? Maybe the one you're with now is showing you that it's about time to let go of HIM and go back to the guy you were first trying to attract back?

But if a guy isn't treating you the way you want to be treated, or something about the way he's behaving doesn't sit comfortably - and being 'uncomfortable' IS enough - then get out. Or pull away.

With love

Tins

[georgina]

The old one-I don't know,I still have feelings but they are different from what they used to be and I am not sure if I want to be with my ex for now. I really wanted this to work out with the new one,may be I am being very clingy and insecure and that's the result of me feeling that way, I don't know any more if the problem is in me or in him

[Miracles]

Thank you,Miracles. You are right that he is lowering my vibes but what is bothering me is that  if I break up with him completely the chance he will return is small and if I just go on with him but focus on the good qualities there's a better chance he will treat me right again,that's the confusing part

Dear,

I believe it's a very fine line between using our creative powers to manifest positive changes in a relationship, and staying in a relationship that's actually harmful for us, out of fearr of being alone or whatever..

I do not know your boyfriend and i have no clear picture of the details of the relationship. So you are the judge here. If his behavior makes you feel doubtful and insecure, would you rather make an effort to attemp to CHANGE his behavior? Is it worth your effort and cncentration?
OR, would you rather just let him go, if he comes back, changed, then you might consider taking him back?

While making your decision, do not operate from a place of fear, insecurity and neediness! There are so many wonderful men out there, you do not need to put up with one who makes you unhappy..

IF however, he does make you happy, and this problem is nothing but a minor pain to you, and you really like the guy, then you might want to do as you say, focus on his positive traits and all that..

My point is, take the path of least resistance.. And the one that makes you feel happy, strong, confident and free!!

[lise]

This may not be very loa but it's only been a month and you're feeling unhappy. Why invest time in trying to change behaviour when there are so many people out there who will be a match without needing to change to suit you. The last thing you want to do is to be with this guy for years and be constantly battling your negative thoughts and wanting things to be different and looking back and thinking the signs were there in the first month.
 
I don't think there's anything wrong with him adding women on fb. How would you feel if someone dictated who you could or couldn't be friends with? However, if it's something that bothers you then why be with him.
 
I'm a strong believer in that we should like / love people for who they are and not who we want them to be.

[georgina]

It's bethering me because he adds 10 a day JUST WOMEN and he doesn't know them,he just adds and adds,and he know that this annoys me and he does it more and more

[Tinseltown]

If it's early days, and he's doing stuff which he knows annoys you, then yes, by all means, you can use LOA to change the situation but you can also use it to change the PERSON. I don't think there's negative merit in wanting to change it, but your investment is small and early and the chances are, as Ley put perfectly, that there are people who, how to say this? Won't become tossers so quickly? 

You seem lovely. Don't waste your time

Tins

[Miracles]

It's bethering me because he adds 10 a day JUST WOMEN and he doesn't know them,he just adds and adds,and he know that this annoys me and he does it more and more

Georgina,

This is just weird, and unacceptable! Add to this that he KNOWS that it annoys you , and he reacts to that by doing it even MORE?? seriously?
That's very immature. Is this what you want?
 
And i agree with lise.. It's only been 1 month.. And honestly, he doesn't seem to be so keen/dedicated to make this work and make you happy!

Leave, and be happy on your own, only then you'll find someone who wants and chooses to make you feel loved, cared for and appreciated!!

[georgina]

Tins, sorry but i think I didn't get your post. Don't waste my time but in the meantime it is very possible to turn things around,I am getting confused here

[Tinseltown]

It IS possible to turn it around but he's not seeming like a very nice chap, purposely annoying you and suchlike. So, whilst you CAN turn it round, do you WANT to? Could you be tempted by the Buffet of Unknown that lies beyond him? If not, that's fine - we all support each other whatever The Decision is

Tins

[georgina]

Mirales, guys sometimes are so immature. He wants to see how far I can get,he is very very strange and I can't imagine how he had a relationship with a girl for 3 years,I just don't get it

[lashark]

You don't sound too happy and no one is blaming you, whatever to decide to do, you first need to get happy, that way your vibrations match everything you desire, whether it is to work it out with the ex or your current guy acts more appropriate or you find a totally new guy. Any of that is SO SO SO possible and in your total control. Make the choice of which specifically, then forget about it and do WHATEVER it takes, ANYTHING and EVERYTHING to make you laugha and smile and be happy and do whatever it takes to STAY that way and I PROMISE PROMISE PROMISE you if you really DO, the universe will take you by the hand and give to you EXACTLY whichever choice you made.

[georgina]

Than you,people for all those replies May be I will try to ignore my fears and doubts for now and just don't take it seriously,if the situation doesn't turn around I will break it off for good and focus on somebody new. I knew that I attracted this guy,because we know each other since we were kids and last year I bumped into him and he smiled at me and I thought''Ohh he looks so cute'' and baam a year later he is my boydriend,and it was just one thought, another example is this ex.. when it was going very bad I was visualizing us on the beach,covered with sand and kissing each other,and yesterday he asked me to go with him to the seaside. I was shocked,because it is a chance for my fantasy to become a reality. But I am with another now and in a matter of fact I am faithful and I won't even consider going to the beach with the ex..