Attracting a specific guy - who doesn't know you exist. Great advice needed?

[lilmizsara]

Hey guys! I’m new here, but I’ve been a follower of the secret for a while. I have to say it has helped me immensely in many ways, although I do find some things about it difficult to do. I think as humans it’s very easy to feel impatient and distressed when things don’t happen quickly enough. Anyway to cut a long story short, I’m here today cause of my title. And I really need all the advice I can get. As for attracting specific people – my experience is that it works and it is still going to work as long as you believe it does. Every single time someone is attracted to me in the past was cause I told myself first, “I want this person to like me”. But it never turned out well for zillions of reasons – and they were mostly my fault – I focused on the wrong vibes.

Anyway, as for the current guy, well, it’s abit different. He’s a national badminton player. And I first saw him on a badminton publication. I went “hey this guy feels and looks really familiar”, I checked out his name and realized who he was and that it wasn’t anyone I knew. I used to be a badminton player myself but was never determined enough to try to make it anywhere, but I do follow the international tournaments. And there was one coming to my country, so I ordered the tickets – note that this was way before I saw the publication, at least a month or so before. I only ordered tickets for the semi-finals, and he happened to be in the tournament, but I never thought he’d progress so far – which he did. And I managed to see him in real life, plus he was playing right in front of me. Having seen him in person, that “he looks really familiar” thing came up again and it was much stronger. And I felt like I just HAD to talk to him as well. It was a very strange feeling, like the moment I laid eyes on him I just KNEW we would get on very well and we’d have loads of fun chatting and doing things – if we ever were friends that is. He had something very warm about him…I couldn’t get down from my seat in the audience to go speak to him – plus some areas are off-limits to us. And I wouldn’t know what to say either – and the context we’d be interacting in would be that of a fan-player instead of two individuals getting to know each other, and I prefer the latter.

But here are the problems: 1) he obviously doesn’t know I exist. 2) he’s from another country in the region – and so we are geographically apart. It’d be so much easier if we were in the same country.  How do you get someone to know you when you guys are so far apart?! 3) Before I saw him I was already making plans to do my masters – in his country. But I just graduated recently and got a job – I won’t be going over til 2 years from now at least and that’s a really long wait =( anything can happen from now and then. He might (o dear) be attached already and I might have found it too tiring to wait for years for something to materialize. How do I get past all these? 4) I’m actually dating someone now but I’m not too sure about him, will his presence affect my “attraction vibes” to this other guy? =/

And there are things I FEAR too: 1) he could be taken already. I don’t know why but in the past I’ve attracted people who were attached or involved with someone already and I don’t want that to happen again. How do you attract people who aren’t attached? 2) if he’s not, how am I supposed to “meet” him even if we are in the same country? How does that happen? 3) all this waiting will make me needy/anxious/impatient and I will just give up in the end. How do I overcome feelings like that?

What should I do? Should I just be patient, get on with my life and KNOW and BELIEVE that one day when we are in the same country, we WILL meet and that we WILL get to know each other somehow? And that we both will be more than just attracted and would want to make a mutual effort to build a friendship (and possibly something more)? I mean, I want to get past just being attracted, I want to build meaningful relationships with people I meet. And that I should also believe that when we both meet, we are both single and available? Is it ok to hope for something like that?

So really, what do I do to address my fears and problems and the obvious obstacles in our way (geographical distance etc)? and how exactly do I use the LOA to so-called “manifest” something between us? Quite in a pickle here, been worrying so much about this I can’t really concentrate on this.

Any help would be greatly appreciated!  and I apologise for the long wall of text!!

[Detached&Allowing]

You bring up some very interesting questions and points.  The question is "why" do you want to meet him?  Having been a member here for awhile I have noticed that many people think they need/want/should be/destined to be with a specific someone they do not know on a personal level.  The reason this doesn't manifest is b/c deep down you have a list of qualities that you desire to have in a mate.  It this person does not meet those desired qualities, there is a good chance you will not be together.

Not to say you can't manifest it, you just have to look at the reason "why" you want to be with him. 

Does that make sense?

[lilmizsara]

@schenderson: hey, yes you completely make sense. Many people have a list of things they already desire in the mate, and that specific person doesn't meet that list. and yes i've thought about your question "why". I dont really need this guy or feel like i should be with him. I'm not sure about destined to be. I don't believe in a pre-destined "the one". I just feel I WANT to know him. cause of the vibes he gives me. i can't really explain it - it's just a very warm and familiar feeling. and i very rarely get that vibe from people. the ones that I do, i tend to WANT to talk to them/know them, and though for some it takes alot of effort, I usually end up doing so.

I don't see it from an angle of "need". I'm pretty much self-fulfilled. but certain individuals i've met just adds to my life and makes it so much better. and i feel this guy happens to be one of them.

[LadyUniverse]

Many times we are attracted to people for the most various reasons but we can only determine if they are the "one" or not when we actually get to know them. Everybody poops. 

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I would like to explain myself better. A few years ago I had a huge crush on this somewhat famous musician. I actually thought we could get married and whatnot, now I am no teeny bopper so it was a big deal at the time for a grown-up like me. Turned out he was not the guy I thought he was, I ended up disappointed with his attitude towards his fans. This is why although I do encourage/support people to follow their dreams, even if it seems like a distant star, I think we should do some homework beforehand and actually get to know the person we desire - famous or not.

Now, on a good note, there are some famous guys out there that are actually cool and I'd just love to meet them, only I don't have the patience to wait for the Universe's will - I am not that LOA developed  .

I have a friend who went to visit LA (Los Angeles in the USA for those who are not familiar) and actually ended hooking up with the man of her dreams, a musician she has had a crush on for wait for it...17 YEARS!!!

Also, I know a woman who was a huge fan of this not so famous actor - yet really hot man - for ages! She now has his private phone number and they actually get to talk once in a while. They never dated because she is married and he has a long term girlfriend but still good.

So there, if your intention is good and respectful, go for it! Just prepare for the outcome...

[beautifuldreamer]

Well I totally forgot I had a story like this until you reminded me. I saw this man in a magazine. I thought he was the cutest thing ever. I didn't know him but I wanted to meet him. Now I actually know him, last time I saw him, he kissed me on the cheek. This was over the span of three years though and until I read your story I didn't even realize it happened.

As for the other things....the best advice is not to worry or think about it, just trust everything will happen in its own time

[Marianna9351]

@schnedy...I agree that some things on a soul-mate list are a deal breaker, but if the poor guy can't cook 4 beans, I'm not gonna give him the boot over that...LOL..