Attracting a girl Ive never spoken to (long).

[totster]

Hey guys this is my first post here so ill try my best to keep this as short as I can. About two years ago I attended a language summer camp. I went with a friend cormac for 3weeks. At this camp we had to speak a foreign language constantly the whole time (a sentence of english could lead to expulsion). I was 17 at the time (19 now) and I could be considered quiet fluent at this language, however I found that over half the people there went to schools where all there subjects were learnt in this language. I felt way out of my league in terms of fluency. As for the rest of the people there seemed to have been there several times or other simlar camps, and this was my first time.

But this isnt a LOA of gaining fluency in a language no, I no longer need to learn this language. This is a story of someone that I met there that could of made a potentially great friend, but I just couldnt talk to her (in the literal sense).

Her name is Ciara and I really liked this girl I seemed to always be around her in classes and such, and she was friends with some of my friends. However I never actually spoke to her. Now i know your thinking "o this guy is very shy" but im not the slightest. True be told if this were an ordinary english summer camp id have no difficulty speaking to her. Im considered a very funny person with a good imagination and this girl has the same sense of humor as me (something I have never seen before). Comparing her to other girls, none of them interest me. I think that shes the most beautiul girl that ive ever seen both inside and out. I often wondered why I liked her so much. I realised that on the outside she was everything I liked in a girl. On the inside i realised that the true essence of why I liked her was because she reminded me of myself when im feeling happiest.

Had things been different I feel certain we would have connected, but when my speech was limited to "any news", "nice the weather" or "what did u have for dinner" 99% of my personnality is removed. I became very much the opposite of who I am because of the language barrier. I became quiet, boring and completely lost my funny random talking humor. Being there really showed me the true value of being able to speak= expressing yourself. Imagine what it would feel like to speak on the same fluency as a 3 year old for 3weeks?

I deeply regretted the fact that I missed the opportunity to befriend the only person in my life who reminded me of who I am inside. I decided a year and a half (6 months ago) to try to get in touch with her. The reason it had taken so long was simply that I tried my best to convince myself that I had let her go, to move on, even though I couldnt. I added her on bebo, but she declined. I realised it was probly something to do with my profile picture being a picture of bigfoot (my humor) so I changed it to me and sent the request again, she accepted. A month or so later I decided to send her a message reading "hey ciara robert here. I went to the gealthach with you a while back, seen you were a friend of cormacs so thought I might add you, so any news?" she never replied. I realised that either:
(a) she didn't remember me at all (we never spoke to each other)
or
(b) she remembered me as the really quite guy who never spoke to her (she would find that creepy + she sees me as the complete opposite of who i am! :-(

I recently bought the secret a month ago and this was the first thing that poped into my head to use it for. I was on holidays when I bought it. I was about an hours drive from the summer camp, two and a half from my home and an hour and a half from her home town (ya ireland is a very small country, but thats irrelevant). We where on holidays for a week but my dad and I run a business on thurs so we would have to head back home very early thursday morning and return again on friday. This is relevant because we drive straight through this girls town and back everytime we go to or from holidays.

This was my perfect chance to apply the LOA. The day before we left for work I convinced myself that I was going to meet her either on my way home, or on my way back to where I was staying on holidays. I felt happy and excited about this but I didnt see her, however i wasnt too disapointed.

Now heres the strange bit which I later discovered to its entirity long after my holday had finished. That thurs night after work I went on to facebook and received a message from a person I didnt know, that I added as a friend after she sent me a friend request. She was doing a food survey of a pizza food chain (that I had never heard of) and was wondering if I would assess the food there and check for cerain protocols. The organization offered me a small payment for if I made a purchase there. I didnt follow up on it though as they wanted me to do the suvey on a near by city that I go to college in. however this town is only a 40min drive from this city.

These are the weird things that I later noticed.
(1)the first time i seen this food chain was when i first drove though this girls town on my initial holiday trip (a few days before this message on fb) it was in the town square.
(2) I looked this girl up on facebook and realised she was a contestant in a beauty pagent the same week i got message and this pizza food chain was this festivals sponsor!!
(3) I received this message the day before her town had a five day festival.
(4) I only go through this town once a year, when im on holidays!
I realised this after the festival was over. I looked her up on fb seen her contestant photo and the food chain logo all over the background :-0

I was amazed by the coincidence of this. There are some comparisons I suppose in this and the "I want my ex back" attraction. I believe mine is more tricky because: (1) I never spoke to this girl.
         (2) if i do meet her things may be akward if she remembers me as aka "the guy who never spoke to me who sent me a message on bebo, that I never replied to".
         (3) the akward part of wondering does she reognized me or not.

Ive decided if i ever do meet this girl. Ill pretend that I dont remember who she is but ill hey say something like "you look famililar have we met before?". Im a pretty honest guy but in this case me saying to her or helping her remember an unfair past, is not the coolest card to play.

So what do you guys think of my overly long post. I am more than grateful to any advice/opinions and of coarse thoughts!! anyone has to give me :-)

In short: how do I bump into a girl that ive never spoken to and have a chance to have a proper one on conversation with her. Even if i realise she isnt what I taught she'd be, id be so grateful that I finally met her, got this off my chest and to say that I attracted something huge.

totster.

[sapphire]

hey there.i read your story and i have to say to you two things:first of all just believe in yourself and your skills.second do you know the body language?

[totster]

hey there.i read your story and i have to say to you two things:first of all just believe in yourself and your skills.second do you know the body language?

ya man i can believe in myself. Second one im not to sure what you meant by body language. Im guessing you mean if i can tell if someone likes me or not through body language?? Well i never really communicated with her so i wouldnt know. My problem is though i couldnt communicate to her, well not as effectively as i could speaking english. I decided during my time there to say nothing to her rather than go up to her and only be able to say things like "any news?" "what music do you like?" "what are your hobbies?".. Ive been told im childish and come out with the most random things in conversation (these are usually complements). I suppose it was better to say than nothing than give her the deluded impression that im the dryest person on earth..

how should i go about trying to manifest meeting this girl?

[totster]

Hey guys I im gona hit the hay. I have work early tomorrow so i wont be online for another 12hours. To any of the readers I really dont mind if what you say is positive or negative(evil word here  ) id love to hear what u have to say. Ive never told anyone about this girl and ive had these feelings bottled up everyday for the last two years. Call it nuts, impossiable I dont mind but I would love to here if the manifesters here think its possiable to befriend this girl and how to go about doing that.

totster.

[loveofabundance]

totster, the fact that you've never spoken to her actually makes it easier than the cases of people trying to reconnect with former lovers.  you see, you don't have any history at all.  nothing good, nothing bad, just a blank canvass on which you can paint whatever you like!

[totster]

totster, the fact that you've never spoken to her actually makes it easier than the cases of people trying to reconnect with former lovers.  you see, you don't have any history at all.  nothing good, nothing bad, just a blank canvass on which you can paint whatever you like!

Thanks man good that made me feel better. The quesstion is though how would I go about attracting her into my life? and would it be guaranteed to work?

[Sweet Spirit]

Hey there Totster!

I have to admit that I never read your post until today because I was mainly interested in subject matter that would shed light on my own situation. I am one of those who wants to attract my boyfriend back into my life. Joining this forum has helped me tremendously because I can help myself heal by giving and receiving advice to and from others.

 I am new to the Laws of Attraction and I definitely believe that you can get Ciara to notice you! Now that you are friends on Face Book, you can do things that spark her interest like post pictures on your wall or write interesting content for your status. Find out what she likes by reading about her interests (hopefully she has some things listed in her info section,) and you can tell a lot about someone by what they post to their own wall.

Just stay positive and read what schenderson22 says about attracting someone in your life. She has some wonderful posts in this forum and they apply to relationships in general (not just ones on getting your ex back.) You have a greater advantage than those of us that have broken up with our exes. It's like loveofabundance stated:"you have a blank canvas on which you can paint anything you like!"

I am looking forward to hearing about your progress with this. Just stay positive, apply the affirmations, and believe the LOA will work for you. Good luck!!

[totster]

Thanks for your reply, but im not friends with her on facebook, im friends with her on bebo and she hardly ever goes on it. Thanks for the advice though but what how should I go about the attracting her? My current affirmation is "I AM BEST FRIENDS WITH CIARA" I say this because I want to get to know her really well first and what better affirmation! and who knows what happems if it comes true. Should I imagine Im already have her as a friend? How would i go about doing this without seeming creepy? I also know what secondary school she goes to and shes in her final year. Im in college and sometimes I imagine im doing a project or something that takes me to her school where i get to meet her and befriend her. Where I am in college im surrounded by pretty girls, but ive never met a girl that was anything like her

[pachacuti]

Imagining something doesn't make you creepy.  Stalking her would make you creepy.  So, don't force it.  Just keep affirming and keep happy.  You never know how the universe will arrange things.  You have asked, now you must believe and then you must simply accept.  Accepting is the hardest....

Mark

[Bubbles]

Mark you are getting more and more positive each day! Awesome

[pachacuti]

Bubbles, you would not believe where I am right now emotionally. Things really are wonderful in spite of themselves.

Yesterday I started watching a TV series I hadn't watched since before my wife came to live with me and the very first scene was one of the main characters, whose wife had recently divorced him, expressing his new-found LoA with another character. Then this morning the word of the day by email was "synchronicity".  Then I heard an interview with Timothy Freke who was talking about being in a positive frame of mind all the time; he was saying that sad things still happen, but he gets to enjoy them as "poignant" not simply as sad.  That raised goosebumps, I tell you.

So, there were a couple of "sad" moments today, but I immediately recognized them as poignant.  I could see the sadness, but the good that they pointed to made me smile and made the tears much sweeter.  I realized at that moment that, if this were a battle between me and my wife, I would be winning.  Why do I say that? Well, when you hear her talk, there were NO good times EVER. I have just ruined her life and everything was a mistake from the beginning.  So, I get to keep all the good memories.  I can remember all the intimate looks, the caresses, the tender moments, us working together, playing together, laughing together.  I can see her smiling at the sight of me making my heart flutter. And it doesn't make me sad like it did... they are poignant and I can smile and enjoy.  She can't.  That makes me sad for her.  I feel bad for her that she is walking a path of unhappiness and I can't help her, nor would she want me to help, much less ask me to. 

I can talk to her and not get sad, not get angry.  Sometimes I feel bad, but for her.  I can even, in a weird way, relish the whole sordid affair of our break up and see it as ... poignant.

What has this meant for my day today?  I have been on cloud nine.  And I can tell that people around me can tell.  Everyone smiles and says "hi". Everything seems so right with the world.  In spite of my situation, if not directly due to my situation. If this situation has done nothing else for me, it has made me a better person.  That in itself is a gift from the universe for which I will be forever incredibly grateful.  I hope all of you find this same clarity, this same feeling of true contentment... I feel a little guilty calling it bliss, but there it is.

Okay, I have hijacked this poor guy's thread enough.  Back to our regularly scheduled "secret admirer".  Keep the faith, buddy, the universe will provide.

Mark

[totster]

AN ENORMOUS COINCIDENCE HAPPENED! At first there where small things for example where I work they play a CD with about 10songs on it over and over again, and one of the songs is a song that I associate with her, that I have never heard before only from her! I even heard it being played in the college shop when I landed up with the fam!
Another one was 2 girls on her football team where out saturday night in my local town. I ive only seen one of them out a few times, but ive never seen the second girl out there before.

NOW HERES THE BIG ONE. When I wrote this post I left out a large area of it because I felt that it wouldnt be important, until now. You see at this camp she had a best friend, a girl that she hung around with the whole time. I taught her name was aoife (ive sorta forgotten I never spoke to her also) and I seen her at a distance twice last year so I know that she goes to the same college as me. I seen her today in college taking to a bunch of girls, I then went to the libary and said to myself "now are you going to do that when you see Ciara, just walk past and miss your chance!" so I decided to head back and see could I some how chat to her. She was in the same spot as before and I didnt know any of her friends so I figured it would be a bad idea to approach her. I returned later on the way to the libary and seen that she was not there. Had I ruined a golden opportunity to met Ciara? After I was finished with the pc suite in the libary (facebook and writing my timetable). I seen a friend outside the libary. As I walked towards him (one of the nicest guys you could meet) I noticed there was another guy beside him and HER!! I went up and spoke to them/her and found out her name was louise. She didnt recognise me so I decided to say nothing about summer camps, I said that she looked familiar but she didnt appear to remember me.

The remarkable coincidence is I live in dorms and shes my next door neighbour!! :-0 :-0 Im appartment 80 and shes 81. Theres only four appartments on my floor and as I type this I have to close my curtains because if she looks out her kitchen window she'll see me typing on this laptop! :-).

If the LOA can attract her best friend from summer camp to be my next door neighbour (I mean like a meter from me!) whos seems to be best friends with that guy im good friends with, WHAT DOES THIS MEAN!!!

I should become good friends with her and one day tell her of my feelings for Ciara. If anyone can help me met her its my new neighbour!

I dont know if there still friends, but they were extremely close at summer camp, side by side the whole time, they lived in the same house there. What do you guys think I should do now? It would be unfair to say that I half assed the LOA cause I did 10times less than that, but I focused on my goal everyday and did the affirmations.

How should I further use the LOA? Should I pop over for sugar? WHO KNOWS!

[Bubbles]

Congrats Mark!!!!! That's awesome!!

Congrats totster!!!

(Would love to write more but I'm rushing for work)

Cheers to all!!!