At a fork in the road. Which path to take? So confused!

[ipanema]

Hello everyone,

I need some objective advice from my LOA family, please! I am feeling very confused right now... I have 100% faith in LOA and many of you may have read of my successes! But right now, I stand at a fork in the road and I am not sure which path I should pursue.... 

I don't want to delve into the history of my story, I will just keep this short and sweet so it goes like this: Love of my life was moving overseas for an indefinite period of time. We parted ways and I was heartbroken. I discovered LOA and have been on a personal journey with LOA for about the past 8 months - an amazing, amazing journey for which I am so grateful! I have really learned that I am the creator of my own destiny and that feeling happy and having 110% faith that the Universe has my back is key! I am quite confused now though and I really feel like I need some clarity because I am sending mixed signals to the Universe and I am therefore attracting more confusing feelings and circumstances. In the past month this is a summary of what has happened:

1. Boy #1 (Love of my life whom I believe is my soulmate) called me on my birthday and we had a wonderful conversation, it was like nothing had changed between us. All of a sudden he is on my mind again and I can't shake the thought of him. I feel like I miss him a lot, I am going out and living my life and having lots of fun with my friends but he is always, ALWAYS on my mind. This is probably my ego getting in the way, but I am finding it really hard at the moment

2. I had my own plans to study overseas for 6 months beginning in August this year (a factor why we split because we didn't know when we would see each other again). These have now fallen through due to circumstances beyond my control. I clearly attracted this somehow, but I'm not sure how or why because I was really excited about my travels.

3. This changes everything because I will now see Boy #1 much sooner than I expected as he will be back in our home city in a few months time when I had thought I wouldn't be seeing him until at least half way through next year. Eeeeeek! I am really excited but also really nervous... And soooo confused. My emotions are all over place! I don't know what to feel.

4. I have sort of been seeing Boy #2. I successfully attracted him using LOA. In my mind, this would just be a casual fling because I would be leaving in just a few months. So it was like, this is fun for now, but ultimately I will be with Boy #1.

5. I like Boy #2, but I am not in love with him like I am with Boy #1, but there could be potential for something... The problem is that there is a huge mental block because I know Boy #1 will be back soon and I really, REALLY more than anything want things to work out with him but then again, I don't want it to appear like I am putting my life on hold for him.

6. I feel like I need to commit to attracting one or the other, not both. If I pursue Boy #2 further, I feel like this might be problematic when Boy #1 returns.

So this leads to my question: Who do I choose? Should I focus my point of attraction on Boy #1 and completely forget Boy #2? This is really bothering me, so any advice you have would be really helpful...

Light and love to you all 

[Mr Brightside]

This is just my opinion here, but I would drop Boy #2. Now I’m not saying this because of the whole if the ex comes back or not, but because if you are asking this question then you are not in that relationship for the long term. You see the guy as a stepping stone, so why prolong something you are really not interested in. If he was the one, you wouldn’t even think about your ex, think of it that way.

Just my 2 cents

[AS & I ARE HAPPY MARRIAGE NOW :)]

Hi ipanema,

When people say don't put your life on hold it could mean 
1) Don't cry your heart out by being sad and waiting for someone who doesn't seem to care... And get out to see if you can find someone better or treats you right...
2) If you are waiting for someone specific and you don't want to date then hang out with friends, get busy with studies, new hobbies, or a new look... Stay happy
3) Date other men to make you feel better while you wait... This could complicate situations or end up hurting someone else i.e. Boy#2

It sounds like your ultimate choice is to be with Boy#1... The only problem between both of you was long distance and that is not going to be there anymore... You mentioned All Is Well with you and Boy#1... Then there is really no situation of putting your life on hold... So why the detour?

You know you are VERY LUCKY that the situation with your ex is not so complicated unlike so many others... You are successfully attracting the LOVE OF YOUR LIFE back... You should be going CRAZY with happiness right NOW girl!!!

If you ask me you should just focus on Boy #1 and spend time shopping, exercising, dreaming, planning for the beautiful times ahead... 

LOVE & GOD BLESS,
NS

[Free bird]

My advice to u will for Boy 1 too......cause Boy 2 was a rebound and rebound never wrks out...........if feel for Boy 1 even wen u r with Boy 2, then u should definitely go for Boy 1...........and the sooner u end it, the better cause then Boy 2 will probably be handle it too

Wish you best of LOA