Anyone else surrounded by non-believers?

[star24]

Hey guys! hope we're all doing well!
since my last post I have made significant progress, but annoyingly enough I've found I'm surrounded by people that are telling me to give up! I mean it doesn't change anything, but is anyone else having this problem?

this weekend, talking to my best friend and then to my sister in separate conversations, the ex situation got brought up and I explained, "he wants space and I agree that, that is the best thing because I know I need to work on myself and I need to be less dependent and...ect."...and far from being supportive my friends instant reaction was "No. listen to me, you need to give up on him NOW!" while they lectured me, in my head i was kinda laughing at them, because i new they were wrong, but then afterwards it kind of bothered me. Oh wells this forum provides more then enough support, just thought I'd vent my disappointment.


 

[Love is here]

Sometimes its best to keep what you want to yourself or only tell like minded people and most of the time the like minded people wont be ones that are close to you or know about the situation because they might know all the details of why they think it wont happen and them constantly reminding you of that can do you no good. Only one person in my life knows my wishes and plans and even he doesnt know all the details. The less people know the better because you have to guard your mind and you dont want their doubts to get into your head.

[MikeG]

The thing is that your friends and family can get worried about you, if you say you want to get back with your ex. And that's a normal reaction, because normally if you want to get back with your ex you're going to obsess about it, but if you're following the law of attraction correctly, then your focus will be on your own life and not on your ex's comeback.

There's no difference between being happy while desiring your ex back and not desiring your ex back. Happiness is happiness.

[patrickstar]

Gab, it may be difficult, but try not to let it bother you. Look at it from their perspective, I'm sure you went to them when you and your love first separated, they saw you in pain and saw sadness within you. The only reason why they say that is because they are afraid that you will be hurt again, so it's their way of protecting you.

[JustForToday]

i agree with both of you!

when someone keeps asking about my plans and they are not like minded or have a negative way to think about it, i just keep answering: "all is well, i am over him and moving on in my life and i am happy about that." that way they will stop being interested to ask you or even to say something to it. 
once you reached that state, dont talk to anyone who doesnt know loa. its not good. let them tell us their stories, but we keep our secret   

and until they stop----- switch your ears on torgue and let it go one ear in and on the other ear out!! HAHA

 :)keep away or distant to negative thinking or speaking people, not good for loa, they dont understand how miracles can happen 

[Dr Scully]

I agree.  I have some negative friends... one is a close girlfriend who keeps telling me to "move on and meet someone new".  I don't want to meet anyone else right now - of course I could, but it wouldn't be fair to the new guy when I believe 100% that my ex and I still love each other (he pretty much told me so the other day).  She asked me last night and all I said was that I felt better, I didn't tell her the conversations my love and I had in the last week, she would just get judgemental and tell me he doesn't love me and is stringing me along.

It's funny because this particular friend is the most clingy, needy, obsessive person on the planet! Maybe she's projecting her feelings onto me?   That could be what your friends are doing. 

I've also noticed sometimes friends get nervous about their own relationships when couples break up.  My friend would always say that my bf and I were the perfect couple, it seemed like we would be together forever. So maybe she's nervous that her own relationship isn't as stable?   Don't talk to these negative people!  Say I'm fine with a smile and switch the conversation.

[Mariposa, (KnJ)]

Oh jeez!   

Funny subject!  I have practically everyone in my life wishing I would just give up on my honey.  Even some of my LOA friends I think secretly wish I would just move on.  I just keep on keeping on!  I know my heart, no one else does, only me!

I only talk to those who I know will support me NO MATTER WHAT! 

The rest have learned to not ask, I wouldn't listen anyway. 

Plus, I don't need their negative energy. 

[Mr Brightside]

I dont really tell people my plans, i know what im doing so what is the point.. there is no turning back now lol. But i agree if i know people are going to be negative about something i would rather not even talk about it.

[hellokiki]

I have experienced the same problems when I told my friends I still miss him and wants to get back with him.  Many of them would say "how can you still be in love with him" or just tell that he is not the right one for me and I should move on.  I just stopped talking to them about him because it would make me feel unhappy and unhappiness is a negative feeling which is not good.  But because I truly trust the Law of Attraction will give me what I want (ie, getting back with my guy), somehow my friends would just start to have more positive things to say OR even support my thoughts.  So just trust the Law of Attraction and things will work out fine

[Kas]

YES! I have some non-believers in my life too! One of them being my brother.  He just thinks of all this is crazy and that I'm wasting my time.  My mom has her periods of believing and non-believing.  It's hard to keep important things in your life a secret from such close family members but I try my best to keep quiet on all the LOA stuff. 

"Ignorance is bliss" -- from OTHERS' point of view.  The less they know the better it is for them.

[57angel]

Hmmmm well those negative people that surrounds us maybe just help us confirm to ourselves, from the innermost part of us, how we truly want what we ask for What is important, we will just let those negative thoughts that those negative remarks pass by to the other ears, having that solid truth we know from the innermost core of our being - that we can be, do and have everything we want , at the right and perfect time, at the right and perfect way

[simplyjess]

I used to talk to people about it, and was very close to doing it again today. But I stopped myself as soon I realized how "drained" I felt along the way. From an energetic perspective, it's better (from my personal experience) to contain it within yourself. That said, I do enjoy sharing on this forum though since it's such a supportive community here

[Kas]

I've also realized that when I keep my desires for certain manifestations to myself, I am able to attract easily. 

For example, I told everyone that I was going to get a certain percentage on my exam a few weeks ago and I was so excited about.  I ended up NOT getting the results I wanted (that was partially because I didn't study enough). But I also know that I allowed others' doubts/negativity to affect me.   

I have since made up my mind to keep my desires to myself.  And when my desires start manifesting, I'll just tell my family and friends that I'm lucky.  Non-believers believe in luck more than they believe in YOU co-creating your life!  They have a hard time believing that you can REALLY get what you want!

[tina_attract]

I have a lot of non-believers, but whenever I manifest something amazing, or just when they compare me now to how I was before, I can see them start to believe. A lot of my friends are actually into the law of attraction now, though not as much as I am.

[karaheissman]

You should make your own decisions for your life. But, it would also help to listen to the people around--especially those that you know really care for you. Your sister and your best friend must not want anything but the best for you. They just want to see you happy and stop hurting. That is perhaps why they are urging you to move on.

Hearing what other people has to say can help put things into perspective. Other people's opinions can give us an alternate view of our situation. It would help asking why you think both of them wanted you to move on or why they do not want you to keep hoping.

If you have been following LOA correctly, then you must know that detachment rather than fixation or obsession will help bring your ex back.