answers for the future

[dany]

Dear all,
almost a year has gone by since the break up and my ex is already dating for 8 months now...
In the past months i asked for him to come back then ask for my soul mate , then for him again, then for a soulmate ( but deep down always wishing it was him)...i just felt confused, depreessed, angry, sad...there were days where i felt hope, others were i felt the pain...anywhay 10 months has gone by and even though on the outside i look perfectly fine i am not,  still feel like crying every night.

But here's my question: this month a very cute man asked me out. We when out for 3 dates and althoug he wanted to kiss me in the end of our third date i did not feel the same. He is very cute and funny and nice but i still want my ex to come back ( although he looks very happy with he's girlfriend). My girlfriends tell me i'm crazy and that  just should give this new guy a chance but i feel that i'm not ready for this! but what if he's my soulmate and was send by the universe? i'm afraid i'm wasting a good oportunity...
any thoughts?

Thank you!

[Mergirl]

At the soul there is no question, there is no uncertainty, there is no doubt. If he was your your soul-mate, the one you're supposed to spend your life with you would  know it without even thinking about it At the soul things should feel like it's meant to be and you don't why but you just feel something good within. This is just my opinion and my understanding of how to know if I have found the one.

Hope it helps.

[HelpingitHappen]

dany,
Nice to meet you. After reading your post, I must say that if you really want your ex back, if thats what you truly want, then let him go, completely.
You have met this new guy and I'll have to agree with Mergirl that you would know without a doubt if he was one of your soul-mates.
He is most likely a representative of one of your soul-mates. If you want to attract your soul mate to you, then you must be very specific what it is you want. By this I mean, looks, size, weight, personality, is he a responsible person? is he a terrific lover? Everything you want in a relationship should be specified. Don't be afraid that your asking too much, there are no limitations here. You CAN have it ALL, and you will if you BELIEVE it.
As for your ex, send him love and ask the Universe for peace in his life, bless his girlfriend also. Then go about your life working towards all the other goals you have in mind, BELIEVING that each one of them has already manifested in your life.
During this "you" period of time, you will find that your personal power returns ten-fold and if your ex does not come back, it won't matter to you because you are a powerful woman and at some point, something, (a guy) better will pop into your life and blow you away. One day you will think back on all this and think how silly it was to put so much stock into your ex, when he clearly was not "it".
If by the grace of God, your ex does want to return to your life, then now you have the power to choose without being blinded by the emotional issues that you carry now.
The secret here is to let go, detach and let the Universe work through you. Don't block it, don't tell it who, or when, or how to do its job. Just let it be.
You will find that your vibrations will rise, and thus so will all your dreams and goals, they too will have an easier time reaching your life.
In short, let the Universe bring to you what you truly want, if its your ex, then Great!! If its not, thats OK to, it just means that the rewards for the lessons learned through your ex will bring forth the happiness that you want and deserve.
Give it time, give it space. Give it all your faith. Then become the you that you want to present to your soul-mate, whoever he is.
This is what I am doing. I am at the point now that it doesn't matter to me what my ex is doing, I don't care. I have set goals and am obtaining them. I will be the perfect man for my ex, or if not, someone else even better for me.
I love my ex, I have nothing against her, I bless her every move. Personally, I think most of her moves have been about trying to forget our relationship of 6-7 years, kind of silly. You don't forget things that have had such an impact on your life.
I am grateful to have been loved by her, grateful that I loved her, but especially grateful for the lessons I learned through that relationship.
We will meet again, I know. And, at that point, I may not have the attraction I have now for her, then again, I might, but my ability to choose will not clouded by the emotional turmoil of our break up, or our past relationship.
I will have regained my power, and thats what its all about.
You can do anything, you are power incarnate. Get that power back, Use it for the betterment of your own life and worry not what anyone else is doing, especially people that have taken your power away from you in the past.
I hope this helps you see the amazing abilities you possess.
Love to all
BW

[dany]

Thank you both so much!
I think that about this new guy i already had the answer deep down, i just needed to hear it...'cause i was afraid i was waisting an opurtunity to be happy, but the feeling is not there....
About my ex and his girlfriend it is so hard for me to have these thoughts of hope and love because we all work at the same place and i see them almost every day...so even if i try to forget i bump into them and then cames the pain and i know this is my main issue...to stop these feelings and to let go but i don't know how to do that if i have to deal with them ever day... i've ben dealing with this for moonths nd have not yet succed..i justwish there was a magic trick i could use...

[Mergirl]

About my ex and his girlfriend it is so hard for me to have these thoughts of hope and love because we all work at the same place and i see them almost every day...so even if i try to forget i bump into them and then cames the pain and i know this is my main issue...to stop these feelings and to let go but i don't know how to do that if i have to deal with them ever day... i've ben dealing with this for moonths nd have not yet succed..i justwish there was a magic trick i could use...

In this case, getting rid of the emotions, you should try EFT or meditation.

[Vicki Christina]

http://www.theabundanceparadigm.com/funnel_events/3476
 
I got the above link from IronUr, and it was pretty powerful for releasing negative emotions and energy for me.  VC

[Marianna9351]

Hello,
   When I started my process for manifesting a soul mate, I manifested one guy who fit almost all my requirements.  I remember thinking” this is the once, since the universe has sent me this opportunity, he must be”.  Boy was I wrong.  Neither of us was into each other, despite the universe sending me this guy.  Even my friend who introduced us said later that now she realizes that he was not right one for me.  I learned that I might have to go through several men or a few before the soul mate arrives.  Not every opportunity the universe bestows you is the one, it is just an opportunity who could be the one if there are sparks etc...

[dany]

Hey! Yep medition would probably be nice, just don't know exactly how to relax and get into the zen state, and about eft i honestly don't know how that is very well, can you explain please?
Thank you for the video vicky!
Yes that can be truth but for know what i want the most is answers, cause u don't know if i still should go out with, even if i don't feel  nothing rigth now...that's waht a want answers but above all hapiness!

Thank you guys you are all great : )!