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angel_star · « **Reply #15 on:** December 19, 2011, 01:45:49 PM »

Iloverainbows I am sure things are going to turn out great for you. You can spend those 9 days with utmost strength and dignity because you are such a lovely person. I wish you lots of smiles, laughter, joy, happiness and love in this festive season. You'll come back and tell us abut your progress soon

I Love Rainbows · « **Reply #16 on:** December 28, 2011, 10:41:39 PM »

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angel_star · « **Reply #17 on:** January 05, 2012, 12:41:03 AM »

Iloverainbows, your story is very inspiring and moving too. I pray for you from the bottom of my heart. Things are going to turn out even better and you'll be filled with absolute joy in this new year

God bless you and him.

true_love · « **Reply #18 on:** July 11, 2012, 12:22:01 PM »

iloverainbows, i am interested in finding out how things are going for you back in australia?

I Love Rainbows · « **Reply #19 on:** July 11, 2012, 05:40:13 PM »

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I Love Rainbows · « **Reply #20 on:** July 31, 2012, 03:30:15 PM »

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Ginny · « **Reply #21 on:** July 31, 2012, 04:21:17 PM »

Rainbows - you probably know this better than I do, but an unprovoked attack like that is not coming from a place of emotional health. If he was in a good and healthy place and over you, he would just leave it be, and there would be no need to lash out. Until you mentioned the drinking, I thought he might have a brain tumour or something like that.

That said, I know that doesn't make it any nicer to have to deal with.

I wish I had something useful to say, but I just wanted to give you my support. Maybe you could try to send healing energy his way?

lise · « **Reply #22 on:** July 31, 2012, 04:49:49 PM »

Well done on attracting the contact from him - albeit not the most pleasant contact but contact nevertheless. He clearly has strong feelings for you and in some ways this is better than indifference. Maybe in the same way, that a series of things made you focus on him, a similar chain of events has happended for him? You have made massive changes since you left - all for the better - it sounds like his changes have been for the worse and he is lashing out.

My friend's ex husband is / was an alcoholic and some of what you describe sounds so familiar e.g the accusations of things that not only had she never done but things he himself had done. Sometimes she was absolutely incredulous at the things he would come out with. The thing was, I think he actually believed this stuff himself.

I think you can do both things you suggest ie help him (spritually rather than physically) and he still be the one who actually helps himself. For the change to be long term - he does need to do it for himself and to an extent by himself.

The way you have changed things around for you - it will only be a matter of time before this falls into plan - however you want it to - he's just got to play a bit of catch up. Who knows that e-mail might be the start of it?

Shreeya · « **Reply #23 on:** July 31, 2012, 05:10:05 PM »

Ilovetherainbows, you are really brave and lovly lady..... ur guys is unfortunate who is not with you....
Wishing all the happiness to you....

Love & Prosperity...

JustForToday · « **Reply #24 on:** July 31, 2012, 05:58:48 PM »

iloverainbows....

your story truly touched me, you have been through alot. i am almost in tears and out of words. you are a powerful, strong and lovey lady. your soulmate is blessed to be loved by you.
you are inspiration to me! you go your way so powerfully!!
i could clearly feel how you must have been feeling during that journey. you did it!!! awesome

i know what it feels to be with an alcoholic, i know about all those hurtings and respectlessness. your soulmate is really messed up and still, but you know that.
what i adore about you---- you dont give up on him, you still love and that unconditionally, which is the most challenging thing to do. but you do!!
i understand that he is still your soulmate. that wonderful and unique connection, the deep love you felt. well, hard to put in words, but i do know.
that is REAL love. love that never ends, no matter what happens.
you did the best you could do.... set your boundaries by going back to australia and look after yourself, make yourself happy and distant yourself from his problems. he has to work through them on his own until he is ready to be with you again.
alcoholism is an evil desease, i have seen alot when i was in hospital and god may him help to come over it.
i know though, that you will get what you deserve, the seeds you have sown will bring you happiness and the love you gave, will come back to you tenfold.
your love will heal him, this is what i feel right now. i wish for you from all of my heart!! no action, no love stays unseen or unheard.

you know-- my soulmate is in england too... i am in germany... we met online as well and i can say we share the same connection as you describe it. he is torn deep inside as well, not alcohol is the problem, but another one, which he needs to work on which doesnt allow him to accept love in any way.
he hurt me alot- again and again. my love though never went or have been less. we are seperated since feb this year. i attracted him back before, but the time we came back together, i just felt that i couldnt stand it anymore. i felt like i couldnt allow someone to hurt me that much again. the last contact he made was end of april, on by bday. but i refused again. now i wish i hadnt but i cant change what happened, its just what i thought would be the right thing at this moment.
this is the longest time wth NC, 3 months now. he comes into my mind, i love him and i dont try to change that.
maybe i needed this time and i am sure, he needs it as well.
i realized that i wont give up on him. love has no conditions and the love he could gve me, is above all i have ever felt in my life. your story just confirmed that!

so.... iloverainbows....
we are in similar situations, why dont we just fly over? kidding

i thank you for your post, it gives us alot!!
your soulmate does love you deeply, otherwise he wouldnt have emailed you and let out all his anger towards you- it is a sign from him (and above), that youre still in his heart, but that he needs alot to work on before you can be together again. happy and forever.
awesome, that you attracted that!!!

keep on rocking!!!

I Love Rainbows · « **Reply #25 on:** July 31, 2012, 06:02:49 PM »

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Ginny · « **Reply #26 on:** August 01, 2012, 12:26:51 AM »

Rainbows, you know I support you regardless, but how do Frank and Jim fit into this?

Autumn · « **Reply #27 on:** August 01, 2012, 01:05:24 AM »

I'm really touched by your story Rainbows. You really love this man, unconditionally, exactly the way he is without any expectations in return. You have been strong, positive and upbeat throughout, despite problems. You've learnt to love and put yourself first and yet never allow your care for this person to decline.

Similarly I also admire you Crazysoul, for your strength and belief in what you have with this man. You're right, sometimes people need to work through feelings in order to be emotionally ready for a relationship and by giving him this time you too are demonstrating unconditional love for him.

Reading through your stories gives me so much strength to push through with what I have to do. It helps calm me and to believe that no matter what happens, true love will always wait for you. It will never change, make demands of you or leave. But just be there like a rock. Thank you.

P.S. I'm also curious about Ginny's question. So how do Jim and Frank fit in with this?

I Love Rainbows · « **Reply #28 on:** August 01, 2012, 04:27:44 PM »

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Ginny · « **Reply #29 on:** August 01, 2012, 09:17:35 PM »

So, would the plan be to have relationships with all three of them?

Nothing wrong with that if you do, I'm just curious. I guess, I'm also wondering: you say he cheated, and that he says you cheated - but how can anyone 'cheat' in an open relationship?