Did I do the right thing?

[beautifuldreamer]

Sigh,

I feel like giving up.

I told my guy we shouldn't be friends or work together after his girlfriend had a fit about me not asking permission to speak to him. He expressed that she was intimidated by me in some ways, so I thought it best for me to exit the picture.

After I told him this, he texted me saying that his gf now feels bad that I won't work with him and wants to meet. After thinking about it, I realized that I was not comfortable with the idea because I felt like I was being dragged into their problems. So I told him I wanted to stay uninvolved.

He replied telling me that he did not like the tone of my message. But thanks for the well wishes and he wishes me the same.

This is the message I sent him:

Hey X,

I thought about it and I don't want to be involved. I think you and your gf have things to work out on your own. I don't feel comfortable being dragged into this. I hope you understand. I don't have any negative feelings towards either of you. Wish you guys the best.

[truelove]

Hmmm, that sounds like a totally reasonable message. I don't know how he is reading it, but perception is a funny thing.
It could be that it's just not what he wanted to hear. He may be feeling disappointed that you are stepping back and made a knee jerk reaction from that.
Just continue to do what you were doing, loving your life and being happy with how it is.. getting down about this stuff will ultimately bring down your vibration.
Follow your heart and inspired guidance too.
I know everything is going to be fine, things are moving and changing, there is always some disruption from that.

  xxx

[lise]

If his girlfriend didn't like that you might be working together, she wanted to meet you and she felt bad about it not happening (perhaps because it's totally unreasonable) I don't think it's too much of a stretch to say she said ask her to meet me and her who doesn't like the tone of the message ( maybe she doesn't like the idea that you're suggesting they have things to work through?) if she's read it and doesn't like it, she will want him to agree with her and quite possibly he's wrote it after getting an earful!

I'm not saying it's her entirely,   he wrote it but I think if she's asked him to ask you to meet her, she's going to want to know what your response was and when he's told her she's not going to be best pleased.

I think what you said was perfectly ok . If an ex of mine had a gf and told him he couldn't work with me and then said oh you can but I want to meet her (presumably to check you out/ Mark her territory ) I'd tell him to tell her to f##k right off.

[57angel]

Beautifuldreamer, you said it well in your text message to him Don't let them affect you in any way, show to them that even if he is working with you or not, you are as beautiful and as confident as you are now It is their problem that they have to deal with for their relationship to survive Do everything that you want to do, for as long as you do it from a very good and happy emotional guidance system, no matter what will that bring to both of them. It is you and your happiness is what matters most today and for always

[tereza]

Yeah, I agree your response to him was fine. Rather diplomatic actually. I'm not sure why he responded the way he did. Perhaps he was quoting the girlfriend, perhaps it was a knee jerk reaction and he was upset you didn't agree to it. Whatever it is, it really doesn't matter.

[beautifuldreamer]

Thank you everyone for your input. He clarified that even though he didn't like the tone he understands how I feel and that he looks forward to us being friends under better circumstances.

This only a part of my journey.

[adam425]

well done!! You stayed true to yourself and your wants and needs. Your right this is YOUR journey. Good for you. Making that decision especially with an ex.. this situation and what you just did will help you a lot in your life journey

[beautifuldreamer]

I feel him coming closer to me. I feel as if no contact was definitely the way to go and I have no worries that he will be in my life again soon. Maybe this is what detachment feels like, wanting something or someone but not at the risk of your well-being. Being able to step back and not feel like you are losing this person, because you know you have not. Its like what is best for you comes before all things.

I was initially sad because I felt guilty for not meeting with her and that he said he did not like my tone. But I went back to read the message and realized that besides that one sentence saying he didn't like the tone, he was completely understanding and very optimistic of us being friends again.