OK This just hit at 3am here in Kyoto. Great insight, yet the timing!
When thinking about LOA and relationships the following is really important.
1. You partner must has a heart. They can be everything that you want. Yet, if you don't include that they have a heart, I think you might suffer.
2. They must support you in your LOA efforts and ideas. If they don't bin them. Why? You'll get all excited about what you think is possible. You'll want to talk about it, share your ideas. Take them through your vision board etc. If they don't think it is possible for you, they will bring you down and stop you with their own negative programming.
You'll notice it by how YOU feel when talking to them.
I've seen so many divorces and break ups in a certain community that I'm a part of it is unreal. One partner changes, the other doesn't and then there becomes a conflict between the old and the new.
It doesn't mean they have to agree with what you are wanting to manifest or get. Yet, if you say, I'm going to get X or I want X. There response must be Great, go for it! Even if they don't believe it is possible for themselves.
My girlfriend said to me, not the other day, Andrew, you must learn there are certain things
you can't always get. There is a part of me that must believe this. I'm EFTing that one! I think that is a social taught belief along with you can't always get what you want...b.s.
If they don't support you have some work to do on YOU!
When the pair of you want the same goal or both drop your stuff at the same time, the results are amazing!
If you're in a relationship and you can't lose it or the other person (lack programming), notice their natural patterns. If you say I want X and they immediately say no, not possible.
Don't tell them what you are after. Of use their skill to your advantage. My Dad is the world's best, panic, worrier, hole picker, plan destroyer.
I'm currently living on of my manifestations for 2010. I'm in Japan for 3 months. He was worried about money, income, job, language, food etc. These things hadn't even occurred to me. I just wanted to come out here because it would make ME happy.
I quit a job 2 years ago and his immediate response why, how could you give up all that money? His belief was there is not enough money, what about the rent? No consideration was given to the fact that I might be really unhappy. Everything for him is based on money and how much does it cost. He hates bills, if you have product A and product B, he'll always go for the cheapest option.
I was at the airport parking the car for a trip and his first question how much does that cost. That didn't matter to me, what mattered to me, was the fact that I could get home as soon as I was able to.
I'm slowly changing his mind (mine?) to being far more open about money with him. Since I'm slow realising what is important to him. He said recently why are you doing all of this (building my own business), I said...school fees don't pay for themselves. This he seemed to get and understand.
When he asks a money question I say do you want to talk about this, you don't like talking about money. Every time I go away and do some more EFT as I've attracted it to me.
Granted, if I see all these in him, they must also be a part or me too. I'm working on that.
3. Finally, as you think about the qualities of another person or what you want in a relationship. Add as much detail as possible. Somebody wrote to me and said I would love to be in a healthy reciprocal loving relationship. What does that mean exactly? You can't pick up healthy reciprocal loving in the supermarket and put it into your bags. You may think you know what you mean, but does anybody else including the universe. Nothing is set in stone, as you change so can your ideas and wants.
Right now that I have that off my chest I can go back to bed!
August 20, 2011, 09:49:09 PM
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