Helping a friend who has a troubled family

[Sevens]

Can I help my friend who has bad family ties with the Law of attraction? Her relationship with her family was so bad and toxic she is comtemplating of running away and moving out, and is using 1 year's time to prepare everything.

Her mother was never married and she is suffering from constant verbal abuse. She has experienced physical(non sexual) abuse in the past. She is getting taken for granted and no one cared for her except for her dead aunt.
She lives so far from me, I'm from a different country and we communicate online. What I can do for her seems to be limited

What I wish more than anything now is for her family to reconcile and give her the love that she was denied so long ago, so that she would want to stay in her family...It's just so sad to see something like that. She is highly intelligent and deserves love.

Now I know about the free will thing in LoA....just...could I possibly use the LOA to help her manifest the loving home that she so desires? I wish for her to be happy...and while I won't stop her from running away, I do wish that somehow, this could be different and avoided.

Edit: Whoops I may have posted this in the wrong section. Could a mod kindly move this to the right one if I did post it wrong? Thanks

[Mariposa, (KnJ)]

Ok, so no one has posted yet so I will be the first.

I think your best bet is to introduce your friend to the LOA, I believe you probably already have but if she isn't interested or willing to embrace it herself you can send her and her family unconditional love but actually getting her to change her view would be the best bet for rectifying this situation.

She needs to believe herself that things can change since it's her situation and family.

I am sure others will help with more advice but that's mine in a nut shell.

I hope it helps.

Love and peace

[Sevens]

Thank you for your reply

Yes she knows the LoA and has been successful with it EXCEPT for people to people relations. She already seem to be unwittingly using it and I did introduce her to the term.

However she seems to believe that her family will never change as the last few times she did try to get family counselling didn't work out.

I've been  sending unconditional love to her and family, hoping to maybe help manifest some love at least. I'm not sure if I could change her views though, she seems determined and set about doing it. So I hope things will work out for the best.

[Berylac]

Hi,

"You cannot create reality. You can only create your own reality."

"Never do something for someone that they can't and should do on their own."

"Do what thou wilt shalt be the whole of the Law."

There's a hidden rule inside the Law of Attraction. You cannot help others to create their reality because they have their own will. You can bless them, pray for them but not with the Law of attraction. What happened if the Law decided to give a leeway on helping others with Law of Attraction? This world will be in Chaos, there will be no such thing as Will, Rights and Freedom.

Also, if you continue to use the Law of Attraction to help them, it will end up coming to you. Just take a simple analogy. There are 3 magnets. Let's name them A, B and C. A and B is what you hoped to see them together. You yourself is C. You cannot help A to reunion with B by placing them with unlike poles. If you try to visualize them, then you the magnet will either attract A or B to C but not A and B.

Secondly, I want to add that feelings and emotions are personal. And Law of Attraction strictly speaks about Thoughts and Emotions = Creation. You have the Thoughts, but could you provide Emotions? Emotions can only be gained by people who want it. Just take another simple analogy. Let's say that there's a poor kid who wants an ordinary pencil and you are rich and abundance, without using the physical means or money, you wanted to use Law of Attraction to help that kid to get a pencil, you have the thoughts but where's the emotions? You can't create the emotion. Pencil to you is trivial and does not really important to you because you can get it anywhere you want. Thus, you cannot provide the feelings and emotions but thoughts itself is never truly enough.

Here are the advice:

1. You can pray. You can bless him/her to uncover the desires for what you want best for him/her. Never do Law of Attraction for other people. You don't want a person in the void to perform a Law of Attraction to attract something you don't like just because he/she feels he/she's right and morale. Therefore, that's what I meant by: "You cannot create reality. You can only create your own reality."

2. You cannot help people permanently by doing for them, what they could and should do for themselves. This is their life, they have their own ways, their own perceptions and it's completely different from us. This is what I meant by: "Never do something for someone that they can't and should do on their own."

3. Will is a very strong word. If it's your friend's Will to move out and ignore her family members nothing could penetrate it. "Do what thou wilt shalt be the whole of the Law." Its force is above all force, for it vanquishes every subtle thing & penetrates every solid thing.


Disclaimer: All of the details above are just my perceptions and opinions, there are no right or wrong. Choose what best for you. What you believe, it will be the reality.

Regards,
Berylac

[Sevens]

Ok. =) thank you Beylac!

[bravelioness]

@sevens-I'm in the same situation with your friend.I try to talk matters out with them but they are just too closed-minded.They don't want compromise.They want us to be the one to adjust all the time & they're not doing their part.They always focus on all the negatives in the world,become paranoid about it,& even making their own cases of negative what-ifs.What do they get in return?Negativity-in their finances,relationships,& the environment around them (they always hear bad stuff in the news).I try to tell them not to focus on the negative as that would persist but they won't listen b/c it's "reality" & even got to a point where they called a psychiatrist b/c they think that my brain/mind is not normal.I try to change my perspective on them but they keep on repeating the same mistakes & they're too proud to admit that they also had been wrong at some point.It's like I'm pushing against a wall hoping for it to fall over when I know it would never budge.I understand your fried.When I'm financially stable,I'd also move out of the abusive environment in the family so that I could focus on what I want with ease & less resistance.


Just want to share though.

[Sevens]

I see ): It definitely sounds really bad and similar.

I hope it isn't wrong of me to want her family to slowly patch up, because you may be right. It might just be too toxic to go on.