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Can I use loa to manage my finances? I need help!

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Loreen:
I want to know If I can use loa to get my finances in order. The problem is that my husband loves to spend money . I am the one in charge of the bills and I'm a saver. He makes things so difficult to manage because he is using all the money! I am so tired of nagging him for years and years over this and now I'm into loa I would like to know how I can put it to use in this area. Please I need some advice~

Jennifer Broadley:
Hi Loreen, Great question, because it addresses the question 'what if the thing that's offending me isn't part of me". What I've learned is that we make progress when we take 100% responsibility for what we attract into our life experience. So, not 'why is my husband the way he is' but 'why have I attracted this experience into my life? What are my choices in how I respond? What do I want as an outcome?'.

And I think focussing on that last question, and moment-by-moment choosing to think only better feeling thoughts. That's when you'll see LOA at it's most powerful. The thoughts we think are the CATALYSTs to the better feelings. And what we vibrate out is what we attract back.

Like 'I'm good at managing money. And I know I can put an amount away each month. And in a safe place, over time, that will grow. And I chose my husband because he was good at ...   . And together we have complimentary skills. And a bit of spending on fun and extra's is definitely fun. And so is saving for the bigger experiences and choices. I'm infinitely creative. Where are the opportunities for me to learn in this ...' You know, kind of choosing your thoughts little, by little until you start to sense an uplift in emotions.

Hmmm ... keep us updated.  ::)

Loreen:
Jennifer~ thank you for your great post it will definately help.

So, ok this is really about me then?? My emotions?? I have been really really trying to have different positve thoughts around this. This past month I tried not to look at the savings account too much hoping that the money thats "supposed" to be there is there. Nope never fails, its always low and I get mad and I have to scramble figuring out how to pay the bills. My husband is never concerned with money or paying bills. Its really hard.

I have in the past saved a good amount, but when he hears how much, its like he thinks that he can just spend it all in 1 day after it took me so long to save. Its so frustrating!

I will take your advice and see what happens.

Jerome Faraday:
Hi Loreen,

I think there are LoA techniques that you can try, but in this case, it seems your husband is frustrating them through creating his reality. Perhaps, the best way to use LoA in this case is to act. I would tell him straight up how you feel. Keep it focused on your feelings. Don't say you spend too much. Tell him something like "I feel frustrated when you overspend because..." Maybe compromise with him and say you'll splurge a little on both of you if he reins in his spending on himself. Oftentimes I think we regard LoA as all mental, but we can control a lot through confident action. I would meditate and visualize successfully talking to him and him agreeing to understand your needs and meet you halfway. Then, go out and do it.

Wishing you the best and blessings,
JF

CortneyHouser:

--- Quote from: Loreen on October 11, 2010, 07:22:21 PM ---I want to know If I can use loa to get my finances in order. The problem is that my husband loves to spend money . I am the one in charge of the bills and I'm a saver. He makes things so difficult to manage because he is using all the money! I am so tired of nagging him for years and years over this and now I'm into loa I would like to know how I can put it to use in this area. Please I need some advice~

--- End quote ---

So you wanna keep him from spending so much money? Too Easy...

First Learn to control your mood - check my website to find ways to control your mood and books you can use learn more about mood control.

Second, think about it most of the time - Keep you mind of you man spending money wisely. Don't say "I want my man to stop spending money". Say "I want my husband to spend money wisely". Visualize for at least 90 second at a time throughout the day.
See it in color, sound, focus on the emotion, See yourself in the picture. Visualize his spending habits.

(You know you are doing it right when you feel that he spending right already)

Last, practice EFT to help you let go of the past - it's hard to send out a strong vibration when you have a lot of baggage. Look it up on youtube

If this still don't work, send me an email and let me know ;D

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