Hey guys. I'm new to this forum, but I've been reading a number of posts and would like to give my 2 cents since I see so many questions about the best and most effective way to get an ex back. Hopefully I can answer most of the questions seen on this board. You can view this post as a "Getting an Ex Back using LOA for Dummies" thread
First off, there is no guaranteed way to get your ex back. Why? Because every human has FREE WILL
. Plain and simple. You cannot telepathically force someone to love you, nor can you expect the Universe to do it. Spend some time and think about that for a moment. The Universe will bring to you what you truly love. Manipulating someone to come back to you is not an act of love. Now that we have that clear, let's move on.
So, if we can't use LOA to force
someone back into our life, then what can we do to have the best chances
of bringing them back? Well, here's what I think is what really
needs to happen...LET GO!!!
This is arguably the most important action you can take to bring them back, but also the most challenging. However, there are many reasons why this is so important, and I'll cover the top two reasons for you.Reason #1
- By trying to get them back, what are you saying to the Universe?
Ding ding! That you don't have them! You're focusing on the lack because you're using your energy on trying to obtain something that you don't have. If you have faith in the Universe then the first thing you need to do is stop taking matters into your own hands. You can think to yourself "If I do XYZ then one day they'll come back", but what you're really saying to the Universe is "I don't have this and I don't want it because if I did really want it, then I would already have it."
What is one of the most important concepts to grasp when using LOA? We all know this...BELIEVE that it's already yours!
So why do we always act like relationships are an exception to this? They're not! We hold the power to manifest whatever we desire!
So if we want a relationship with someone, we need to believe that we already have that relationship
. I find the best way to do this is to think back on the beginning of my relationship. I would think of the feeling
I had knowing there was someone there for me and give me added strength and support in my life (notice how I said "added", this is important). I remember how content I felt. I loved myself and as a result was able to share that love with my partner and vice versa. I didn't have worries about the relationship because I had more positive feelings towards the relationship than negative. I was happy where we were. Reason #2
- You need to attract a NEW
relationship; not an OLD
It's obvious that the old relationship didn't work. I don't feel I need to explain much on this reason as you already know by now that something went wrong. The good thing is that LOA doesn't have a memory! Yay! So, it's crucial that you let the old relationship die a dignified death. The reason why I say it's crucial is because the Universe is going to give you whatever focusing your energy on. So don't focus on the bad times of the relationship. When you find yourself thinking about the past relationship, re-read reason #1. You'll realize that it's not the relationship itself, but the positive feelings
you had towards that person when you were together that you should be thinking about.
Alright so now that we've covered the most important action to take when attracting an ex back, let's go over some things we can do while they are physically
away.Send loving thoughts
This is great to do as long as it's for the right reasons
. We're not sending loving thoughts or using remote seduction to manipulate them back into our arms. We already discussed why manipulating is a big no-no, as well as how contradictory it would be since trying to get them back is only confirming that we don't have them. Re-read those last two sentences... a few times.
We send loving thoughts simply because we love them. We are grateful to have them in our lives and want them to feel loved
when we aren't physically
there. Take your time on this one and let that sink in for a while. You are not doing this to have a relationship with them because you have already received that from the Universe, right? So instead you are doing this as a way of showing your love to them when you aren't physically in their presence
You can treat this idea as a long-distance relationship (and for those that are currently in a long-distance relationship you can feel free to use this right now with your current partner). In a long-distance relationship, there are periods where you don't see each other. Treat this as one of those periods. During this period, you can send loving thoughts to them as a reminder of the love that you share. See these thoughts as a gift to them for being so wonderful. But, as with any gift that you give to someone, you should not expect anything in return. We are giving this gift as an act of love, and if it's true love that you have for them then you will freely give this gift to them and find joy in knowing that you are giving them a good feeling
.Improve Your Magnetism
I won't go into the details of magnetism as this post has become long enough as it is, but there are many benefits to increasing your magnetism. The exercises can also go a long way during times like these. I recommend reading "The Art and Science of Personal Magnetism" by Theron Dumont.
Well, I'm going to stop here, but I hope this helps anyone who has questions on what they should be doing in order to attract their ex back. I wish only joy and happiness for you because that is what you were meant to have!
Additionally, I'm a graphic designer myself and I find it really helps to take any thoughts I have and create them to be an edible picture so that I can burn that image into my subconscious. In this case, I've designed an image on the loving thoughts visualization and would like to share it with everyone. Everyone will see the ball of energy differently, so I'm just sharing what I see when I imagine it. You can use it, or not, but it's there nonetheless. It's my gift to you