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How do you back off someone you are crazy about?
« on: April 07, 2019, 12:58:45 AM »
I've read before about backing off and telling the universe that I am not afraid of not getting a lady I'm crazy about.  It's very difficult to trust that it will work  When I ignore her she seems to get more distant. She seems to not care that I ignore her. I'm scared that I will never win her over.  it seems impossible to stop thinking about her so much. I ache for her mentally and physically.  I've been using a few techniques to try and love myself and focus on myself and trust the universe will give me what I want.  Sometimes she's very friendly towards me and other times she's cold and distant. I can't seem to stop acting like a 5 year old around her, always seeking her approval. Are there any tricks you used to  become confidently indifferent?  I try to keep busy being a DJ, writing and playing guitar. But when I'm not doing that she is the only thing on my mind.

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Re: How do you back off someone you are crazy about?
« Reply #1 on: April 07, 2019, 07:05:22 AM »
Why do you want to be indifferent? Just visualize you two together idk why there's people on this forum always wanting to play these weird games.

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Re: How do you back off someone you are crazy about?
« Reply #2 on: April 07, 2019, 08:48:52 PM »
its been hard to backing off but if your family support you than it will be easy for you

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Re: How do you back off someone you are crazy about?
« Reply #3 on: April 23, 2019, 02:42:39 PM »
We can attract the perfect partner, even if we have a very long list of criteria.

But we CAN'T attract someone specific and "force" them to love us.

I used to be infatuated with a woman too, several years ago, for several years. Like you, she was constantly on my mind. She liked me a little bit, but not enough for us to get into a romantic relationship. She ended up with someone else.

I learned that it is a mistake to become fixated on a person. Become fixated on love and relationships, but not a specific person.

When you try to "force" love, you end up playing "weird games" as TheLittleBat points out. If you focus on finding a healthy and loving relationship, you won't need to play games or back off. It will be "natural."

So if you have to back off, it means you are too fixated on the person. If you really want to give it a try, you either approach her directly and ask her out OR you leave her completely to "reset." After a reset, you may take another attempt but you still have to approach her directly.

Either YES or NO.

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Re: How do you back off someone you are crazy about?
« Reply #4 on: April 29, 2019, 12:22:01 PM »
A relationship takes 2 hands to clap.

If she is the one, she will make effort to connect with you.
If it is one-sided, then perhaps it is better for you to turn the focus towards yourself and doing the things you like.

I know the feeling of aching for love is hard to bear, but it will get easier with time. 

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Re: How do you back off someone you are crazy about?
« Reply #5 on: April 30, 2019, 07:53:19 PM »
Just visualize the end result as Neville Goddard suggests. The rest is just not needed. Also if you want show her you are interested slowly and let the Universe arrange the things for you.

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Re: How do you back off someone you are crazy about?
« Reply #6 on: May 02, 2019, 07:06:21 AM »
If you're thinking about her all the time there's a good chance you're coming from lack and thinking about how you don't have her.  Which is only going to create more of the same.  Think about her when you're visualizing the end result and then let it go and stop thinking about her.  You're so identified with this story of aching for her that you even named yourself Aching.  You might want to change your name and let go of that story because aching for her implies that you're lacking her.  And you'll just create more of the same.  You said you're scared that you'll never win her over.  Let your visualization, affirmations, prayer, or whatever you're using fill you with confidence and peace.  Don't worry about how things look in the natural.  Don't worry about if she's being friendly toward you or cold and distant.  Have faith that what you're doing is working.  Just spend some time each day imagining/affirming the end result.  Then let it go and go about your day in peace.  And be happy. 

I don't know why people want to manifest a specific person.  For all you know there could be someone else out there who would be a whole lot better for you.  Why not just imagine yourself with the right and perfect person?  Someone who has all the qualities you're looking for.  And maybe it will be her and maybe it will be someone else even better. 

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Re: How do you back off someone you are crazy about?
« Reply #7 on: May 08, 2019, 09:28:09 PM »
Again, have you asked her out? Why do you need to back off exactly? I feel really frustrated by your posts, you're not 16. Ask her out!!!!!
« Last Edit: May 09, 2019, 12:43:40 AM by siamesegirl »

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Re: How do you back off someone you are crazy about?
« Reply #8 on: May 10, 2019, 12:47:00 PM »
If you're thinking about her all the time there's a good chance you're coming from lack and thinking about how you don't have her.  Which is only going to create more of the same.  Think about her when you're visualizing the end result and then let it go and stop thinking about her.  You're so identified with this story of aching for her that you even named yourself Aching.  You might want to change your name and let go of that story because aching for her implies that you're lacking her.  And you'll just create more of the same.  You said you're scared that you'll never win her over.  Let your visualization, affirmations, prayer, or whatever you're using fill you with confidence and peace.  Don't worry about how things look in the natural.  Don't worry about if she's being friendly toward you or cold and distant.  Have faith that what you're doing is working.  Just spend some time each day imagining/affirming the end result.  Then let it go and go about your day in peace.  And be happy. 

I don't know why people want to manifest a specific person.  For all you know there could be someone else out there who would be a whole lot better for you.  Why not just imagine yourself with the right and perfect person?  Someone who has all the qualities you're looking for.  And maybe it will be her and maybe it will be someone else even better. 
I'm not convinced this poster is for real. He makes posts, doesn't revisit them or respond to anyone's posts or questions but starts another, and doesn't revisit those either. And he must have been married as he has a grown up daughter, so has clearly been able to ask women out.  I don't buy the story myself.

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