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Do you unfollow them?
« on: November 18, 2017, 01:35:15 PM »
Do you think its better to unfollow and let go to attract them back or keep NC but follow and habe them on facebook? Hes unfollowed me on social media and I'm thinking after 6 months apart i should too, just keep him on facebook.

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Re: Do you unfollow them?
« Reply #1 on: November 18, 2017, 07:01:41 PM »
Hi,

Following them and checking their social media isn't good. You wouldn't do that if you were in a relationship with them. You should always live in the end. Don't be needy and desperate.

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Re: Do you unfollow them?
« Reply #2 on: November 18, 2017, 08:26:39 PM »
Look if you don't feel like seeing his updates just unfollow him and it might help a lot. In general it helps to feel more cool with the whole thing. Of course do not delete him, you never know when he might want to contact you. At some point he will so that's why keep open the gates for him contacting you. Until then maybe proceed with NC and just focus on other fun stuff and let go. What Hapoalim says also is true, it will help a lot.

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Re: Do you unfollow them?
« Reply #3 on: November 19, 2017, 04:36:12 AM »
If you were in a relationship with someone surely you would follow their social media (as opposed to "checking" with its negative overtones)? I'm a member of a number of groups that have married couples as participants. They are Facebook friends with one another and follow one another on Twitter. I don't understand how this is perceived to be a thing you would not do with your partner.

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Re: Do you unfollow them?
« Reply #4 on: November 20, 2017, 09:22:46 AM »
Thank you, it seems like keeping it makes sense for living in the end. Checking constantly and getting anxious over it is up to me. I'm currently starting a break for social media all together to help stop checking on him. It does hurt to see him on social media and but thats my mindset. I feel like taking him off closes a door. and

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Re: Do you unfollow them?
« Reply #5 on: November 20, 2017, 02:10:32 PM »
Do you think its better to unfollow and let go to attract them back or keep NC but follow and habe them on facebook? Hes unfollowed me on social media and I'm thinking after 6 months apart i should too, just keep him on facebook.
I think it depends on how you are.
Suppose I am in a normal relationship with my BF then I would definitely like his posts. He is not much into posing but I am sometimes. We both like each other's post but not all.
Now, I am in NC. I unfollowed him on insta so that I don't feel anxious. He didn't. He still follows me. He likes my posts. But I don't.
However he unliked all pictures (with me in it) which he liked when we were on relationship. Guess what like a kido i did the same. 😂 😂 I don't know what he is trying to achieve. 🤔 🤔
Now on fb he is my friend. But I want to quit on checking becuase it really doesn't serve any good.

So, I would say stay away from his social if it doesn't contribute to your own good or happiness.

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Re: Do you unfollow them?
« Reply #6 on: November 20, 2017, 02:43:27 PM »
If you were in a relationship with someone surely you would follow their social media (as opposed to "checking" with its negative overtones)? I'm a member of a number of groups that have married couples as participants. They are Facebook friends with one another and follow one another on Twitter. I don't understand how this is perceived to be a thing you would not do with your partner.
The way I see it is if you follow them on social media while you are together you aren't doing it from a place of lacking or neediness or looking for a confirmation about what is going on in their lives. Checking social media while you aren't with them just reinforces that you are lacking them in your lives and are checking to see what is going on in their lives and possibly if they are in a relationship. The chances that if you see that they have added a new friend or whatever won't make you feel good.
My best friend and her husband are also friends on FB and follow each other..but it is from a healthy place..trust and they don't analyse every small thing they see on each other's page. Veronica and Agnes both have done YouTubes on social media. Look them up.

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Re: Do you unfollow them?
« Reply #7 on: November 20, 2017, 07:46:50 PM »
After my person "broke up" with me, I was hurt and instantly blocked him off my Instagram because I didn't want him to keep lurking on my profile and look at my pics. I was so hurt that I deleted a lot of photos from my IG because those pics reminded me of moments where things were going bad with my guy. Initially, blocking him helped me get over him because I was forced to not look at his social media. In the meantime I just focused on myself and spent more time with my friends. However, I realized that maybe i'm attracting the wrong message by blocking him off everything. I still have him on FB and Snapchat, and he looks at every single one of my snaps. I don't look at his stuff. So then I unblocked him because I let go of all the negativity and it made me feel a lot better. About a month of NC has passed after the break up and I feel like following him again... but idk if that will catch him off guard or if that's a good idea?

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Re: Do you unfollow them?
« Reply #8 on: November 22, 2017, 09:17:06 PM »
The best way forward in this case is to detach yourself from him, work on yourself to rebuild your energy and improvement of yourself, then contact him in 6 months time, make sure your profile photo is happy and positive then message, "hey it's (your name), long time no see!"

That's it! No how are you, how have you been, that signifies desperate behaviour in an unscrupulous way.

You must unfriend him in order to aline your vibration so when you message him you are in a right vibration.

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Re: Do you unfollow them?
« Reply #9 on: November 25, 2017, 10:36:19 PM »
There is no need unfriending them if you don't feel like it. Just unfollow them on fb. It is always good to keep the door open for them. Unfriend only if you feel you want it. You can unfollow and still not be bothered and get into alignment.

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Re: Do you unfollow them?
« Reply #10 on: November 26, 2017, 12:55:03 PM »
Do you think its better to unfollow and let go to attract them back or keep NC but follow and habe them on facebook?

LOA is about your energy. What you give out you get back, energetically. When, you are in a desperate and longing condition you will probably attract more of that. This is relevant not whether you follow or not, generally speaking. Again, it is about your energy, your thinking, your feeling. What are you nurturing with your actions and thoughts right now? Do you enjoy it, have fun, be happy?
However, in case you have problems to let go when following then do not follow. Always remember, first you have to change yourself, before something else changes.
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Re: Do you unfollow them?
« Reply #11 on: November 27, 2017, 12:52:48 AM »
Hi,

Following them and checking their social media isn't good. You wouldn't do that if you were in a relationship with them. You should always live in the end. Don't be needy and desperate.


Thank you, yes I agree looking at their social media can really put  you in a bad state. I've started not going on it and it helps to focus on your own life more

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« Reply #12 on: November 27, 2017, 12:56:55 AM »
Look if you don't feel like seeing his updates just unfollow him and it might help a lot. In general it helps to feel more cool with the whole thing. Of course do not delete him, you never know when he might want to contact you. At some point he will so that's why keep open the gates for him contacting you. Until then maybe proceed with NC and just focus on other fun stuff and let go. What Hapoalim says also is true, it will help a lot.

Thank you, to be honest I don't want to see it anymore becuaise it throws me off. But he is obviously uncomfortable with contacting me so I think its good to keep open to contact. I've avoided social media all togeher and wont look at his which is helping, and it makes me live my own life more which is also good.

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« Reply #13 on: November 27, 2017, 12:59:55 AM »
If you were in a relationship with someone surely you would follow their social media (as opposed to "checking" with its negative overtones)? I'm a member of a number of groups that have married couples as participants. They are Facebook friends with one another and follow one another on Twitter. I don't understand how this is perceived to be a thing you would not do with your partner.

Absolutly thats how I feel too. I feel like its closing off a form of communitcation and a casual daily thing you would have with them. It does make me feel bad seeing him though so I am just avoiding social media all together and I find its helping. And all he would see is me being more busy and less acctive

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Re: Do you unfollow them?
« Reply #14 on: November 27, 2017, 01:09:00 AM »
Do you think its better to unfollow and let go to attract them back or keep NC but follow and habe them on facebook? Hes unfollowed me on social media and I'm thinking after 6 months apart i should too, just keep him on facebook.
I think it depends on how you are.
Suppose I am in a normal relationship with my BF then I would definitely like his posts. He is not much into posing but I am sometimes. We both like each other's post but not all.
Now, I am in NC. I unfollowed him on insta so that I don't feel anxious. He didn't. He still follows me. He likes my posts. But I don't.
However he unliked all pictures (with me in it) which he liked when we were on relationship. Guess what like a kido i did the same. 😂 😂 I don't know what he is trying to achieve. 🤔 🤔
Now on fb he is my friend. But I want to quit on checking becuase it really doesn't serve any good.

So, I would say stay away from his social if it doesn't contribute to your own good or happiness.
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Hey thank you, I agree I feel its more 'normal' to stay on it with them.  Ive started not looking at his and avoiding social medua all together and I find it very helpful.

I know what you mean, trying to figure out what your person is saying by their actions can be difficult but its best not to look into it. Just tbink about being happy with them. My guy has me on facebook, but unfollowed me on instagram a month ago. We havent had contact for 6 months. I still follow him and till recently like his posts. Id say its good he follows you but understandable you dont. And even if he doesnt id say hes still looking.

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