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How to let go of these feelings?
« on: January 01, 2016, 03:34:29 PM »
I have been seeing this guy for over the last 6 months. At first he told me he was not looking for a relationship, because he wanted to travel in September. He didn't end up traveling, so we kept seeing each other almost every week. We do things that couples do. We go to the park together, we cook together, we watch series together, we sleep together (sometimes we spent  4 days in a row at each others place). I have so much fun when I'm around him. He makes me laugh, makes me feel calm as soon as he wraps his arms around me. But right after spending time with him I feel sad. The moment he leaves, or when I return back home I feel so sad. I become insecure. I start crying and feel so much fear. Afraid of losing him, afraid of not hearing from him for days. Soon enough he sends me a message and then I feel a lot better, but until that moment I feel choked and start questioning myself why we are not an official couple. I start over thinking, and start to make myself crazy by telling myself he is seeing other girls. I don't feel like I can talk to him about it, because he told me before how he thinks about relationships (he doesn't want to label things). Also I am afraid I'll mess up everything we have by starting a conversation with him about this. How can I stop  myself obsessing about him, and just be happy with or without him? I feel like my happy moments depend on him. I love him too much to just end it all.

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Re: How to let go of these feelings?
« Reply #1 on: January 30, 2016, 01:34:47 AM »
Hi :)

So from what you have written it seems that you have given all your power over to this person. You said that the moment he leaves, you become so sad. This is a big issue you need to work on, but you can fix it quickly! Your happiness comes from within, not from this person. When someone leaves, you should feel happy not sad. You should feel happy you got to spend time with them and feel excited to see them again. In the meantime, your life should be filled with OTHER things that bring you joy!

You do not want to manifest all your fears, so start focusing on things that make you happy! Find something you love to do by yourself, read new authors and be physically active in whatever way feels best to you. You need to love yourself as much as you love this person. Men love women who are beaming with self love. Men will get repelled by a woman who is very needy. So become the woman who deeply loves herself. You deserve your own love! You can do it :)

Xo, Julie - LOA Coach
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Re: How to let go of these feelings?
« Reply #2 on: January 31, 2016, 04:14:25 AM »
I get how you feel. You really like the person and you want to be with him. I would say don't worry too much cause this will only ruin your relationship. Just live in the now and enjoy this person being with you. Enjoy all the moments with him. Be happy and show how much you like spending time with him. Really relax and enjoy it and don't worry about anything else.

You can use a bit of visualization few minutes a day and imagine you and him in a relationship and then let it go. While doing it feel it deeply and believe in it.

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Re: How to let go of these feelings?
« Reply #3 on: November 23, 2018, 09:57:21 PM »
your life should be filled with OTHER things that bring you joy!

Hello, could you tell what to do in a situation when surrounded by too much stress?

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Re: How to let go of these feelings?
« Reply #4 on: January 16, 2019, 02:36:53 PM »
Hi! Iím new here and I happen to pass by your post and I wanted to share my thoughts with you :)) I understand how you made him the center of your life. That your happiness depended on him But that should not be the way. One way to cease the obsession is to direct your focus on other things like getting yourself busy just to free your mind from thinking about him every minute. Your happiness should not depend on a person. Enjoy everything in your life! 😉

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Re: How to let go of these feelings?
« Reply #5 on: January 16, 2019, 02:52:03 PM »
Hi! Iím new here and I happen to pass by your post and I wanted to share my thoughts with you :)) I understand how you made him the center of your life. That your happiness depended on him But that should not be the way. One way to cease the obsession is to direct your focus on other things like getting yourself busy just to free your mind from thinking about him every minute. Your happiness should not depend on a person. Enjoy everything in your life! 😉

The original post is three years old, and the OP hasn't been back since then! I doubt they will see your reply.

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Re: How to let go of these feelings?
« Reply #6 on: January 17, 2019, 02:10:32 PM »
Although the post is quite old, I would like to reply, for practice and in case someone with a similar situation reads this post.

I agree that feeling insecure and sad when a certain person isn't close to us is an issue we need to work on. That fear and sadness are signals to show us we don't love ourselves enough yet. When we're unable to fill ourselves with adequate self love, we will seek other people to feed that love to us.

Before we can enter a solid, loving, committed relationship, we need to love ourselves completely, or else we will think about losing the other person, not necessarily because of who they are, but because they give us something we can't give ourselves yet, and therefore we become needy. I used to be very need to a certain person in the past, but I learned from that experience that self love comes first before loving and receiving love from others.

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Re: How to let go of these feelings?
« Reply #7 on: April 07, 2019, 08:49:38 PM »
I get how you feel. You really like the person and you want to be with him. I would say don't worry too much cause this will only ruin your relationship. Just live in the now and enjoy this person being with you. Enjoy all the moments with him. Be happy and show how much you like spending time with him. Really relax and enjoy it and don't worry about anything else.

You can use a bit of visualization few minutes a day and imagine you and him in a relationship and then let it go. While doing it feel it deeply and believe in it.

yeah i know when someone ignore you it feels bad but i can say you just hugging pillow after heart surgery like it will heal your inside pain.

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Re: How to let go of these feelings?
« Reply #8 on: April 12, 2019, 02:21:52 PM »
For letting go I recommend in looking on YouTube. There are several interesting videos. I like those by Alan Watts a lot.

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