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Title: ghosting
Post by: alwaysfaith222 on September 02, 2019, 05:44:16 PM
Hi Guys,

So i have been talking to this guy for about three weeks and it was going so well. We were getting along so well and constantly texting throughout the day, we even met up and spent a really lovely evening together. Even after the one night we still texted everyday constantly. Last Thursday he just stopped talking to me for no reason even after telling me he wanted to take me out on a date. I sent a text asking if i was wasting my time with him and he said no he's just been super busy but not to worry. We talked some more that night but then again the following day he stopped talking to me. Its been radio silence ever since. I don't understand what has happened. Everything was so great between us.

Has anyone else been ghosted and managed to manifest them back and start up the communication

I have been doing daily gratitude, scripting, setting intentions and affirmations but i can't seem to break through?

any advice?

Thanks
Title: Re: ghosting
Post by: possum-power on September 02, 2019, 06:50:33 PM
Yup, thatís happened to me too.
Heís freaked out, thatís the sum of it.
Iím afraid thereís nothing you can do :-(
(except be aware that even if things started up again with him, heíll do it again to you, if heís that type, i.e. a bit too cowardly or confused to just say things openly)
Title: Re: ghosting
Post by: alwaysfaith222 on September 02, 2019, 11:18:02 PM
isnt that against the point of loa? thats there always is a way to manifest what you want because there are infinite possibilities?
Title: Re: ghosting
Post by: Alexbally on September 03, 2019, 12:36:03 AM
Please ignore Possum. She has a distinct hatred for men that is clouding her better judgement.
Putting it simply, you don't know what you don't know,so don't jump to conclusion.

Edit:
In reply to your question, impressing onto the subconscious is better done with a very relaxed mind, so you'd have better success with something done before sleep.
Title: Re: ghosting
Post by: ManifestWithArmine on September 03, 2019, 12:45:42 PM
Hi alwaysfaith222,

I am sure possom-power means well. With that said, if you'rr looking for an answer with the nature of reality at its root, it would be to go with a nighttime practice as alexbally has suggested. There are a few reasons for this, and I'll try to break it down:

When possum says that's happenes to her too... nothing is ever the same for the universe in terms of circumstances. What may look the same from the outside is a snapshot that can and will have completely different causes and transformations. Maybe he has freaked out, or one of countless other possibilities, one being that he is, in fact, distracted with other things. The universe has perfect timing, so never underestimate the idea that this red not minute may not be as perfect as if it comes together next month, or next week, or tomorrow... length of time is overrated bc it will not be late when you are not worried about it.

About there being nothing you can do... well, you shift tour state of consciousness to one where he is already on a date with you (or pick another point).

Being aware of the same thing happening because of this one phase in the process would be pretty much assigning this relationship out of your life. A perfectly great person and relationship would never have a chance to manifest if you are aware of "this happening again" or "this being the type he is". People show up as we define them in our minds or imagination. Nobody is a type. That's a way of never seeing a person for the whole of who they are.

If I were you I would fall asleep as though things have progressed and feel it real as you prefer. Make it natural. Assume both of you communicate well with each other. That is all, and it will open up at the perfect time.

Again, possom has her own viewpoint, but if this is the law we are learning, that's just not going to help you navigate relationships in a healthy and happy way. People will be who you decide they are.

Best to you.
Title: Re: ghosting
Post by: possum-power on September 04, 2019, 01:50:53 PM
Hang on, I said it HAS happened to me. Once, with a guy I started seeing almost a year ago. What happened was, I could feel very strongly (physically) that he was thinking a lot about me... but yet pushed me away and in a way that suggested he didnít care. It was so odd.

I let it be and three weeks later bing!
there he is again saying Ďare you seeing anyone?í. So we start dating.. if you can call it that (he was so stand-offish, often not responding to me for days or even longer and I am not the cling type so just let him be as reticent as he liked). Then he invites me to stay over, something I had daydreamed about many times. I had never been to his town. It was beautiful being together, the feelings were incredible. Then after that...wow.. a couple of weeks of more standoffishness he freaks... we fight about something insignificant, I think an excuse. It was clear to me that he was Freaking Out. And his apparent detachedness and Ďnot caringí attitude, that was because he was.. god, it was like he was actually afraid of ME!!
 :o

I think ..from all I know about his other romantic stories.. heís in a loop. He does this over and over with women..l fear of intimacy? Of strong feelings? Of vulnerability?
Anyway my point is, I had all these fantasies about changing him.

It seemed such a shame as my feeling was, behind that ĎI donít careí and actually pretty jerkish attitude towards women, heís a really amazing person and really loving.

Nuh, anyway.. I realised it just wasnít going to happen. Recognising that and moving on was the best thing I could have done, and Iím far happier now.


I think in western-style LOA people are often making the blatant mistake of thinking weíre the only ones influencing our reality*. What about other people? Do they not also influence theirs and ours? What about collective consciousness?

*to me it seems an incredibly arrogant and self-centred approach. Plus it doesnít make any sense logically.
Title: Re: ghosting
Post by: possum-power on September 04, 2019, 05:07:50 PM
Alex, I donít hate men at all. Actually, I love them, way too much for my own good often.

The thing is Iím very wary and fearful. Iím working on my cynicism (which is born of self-protection) and I believe itís working out. But I did need to find this exceptional man who would show me that heís willing to accept me, warts and all.. AND put in the hard work that healing my..and his.. emotional wounds from childhood and past experiences inflicted.

In his own words Ďitís worth ití

Title: Re: ghosting
Post by: Alexbally on September 04, 2019, 05:49:37 PM
Putting today's instalment of "The Possum Show" to one side .....

I think in western-style LOA people are often making the blatant mistake of thinking weíre the only ones influencing our reality*. What about other people? Do they not also influence theirs and ours? What about collective consciousness?

*to me it seems an incredibly arrogant and self-centred approach. Plus it doesnít make any sense logically.

We are all influenced by everything that we perceive and remember, every moment of every day.

Alex, I donít hate men at all. Actually, I love them, way too much for my own good often.

The thing is Iím very wary and fearful. Iím working on my cynicism (which is born of self-protection) and I believe itís working out. But I did need to find this exceptional man who would show me that heís willing to accept me, warts and all.. AND put in the hard work that healing my..and his.. emotional wounds from childhood and past experiences inflicted.

In his own words Ďitís worth it

Maybe but you do have an incredibly cynical and poor opinion of men.

Anyway...back to the OP's thread.
Title: Re: ghosting
Post by: possum-power on September 04, 2019, 05:59:49 PM
Sorry to have made a Ďshowí  :-[.. I talk too much.. but honestly I would personally love it if you all opened up more unreservedly, as for example Emily did.

Thinking it over, by far the most helpful things that people ever replied to me on his forum related directly to their own personal experiences. They were also the kindest and most reassuring to me..
Title: Re: ghosting
Post by: possum-power on September 04, 2019, 06:01:09 PM
I suppose my point on the thread was, thereís no point killing yourself and obsessing over one love...itís much better (if you can) to find ways to balance and feel good in yourself and then good things will come to you.
Title: Re: ghosting
Post by: Olivegarden on September 04, 2019, 09:57:06 PM
IĎm in a similar situation and until now I was not really successful with manifesting contact with him again. I tried the whispering technique today and will do it for a week or so. I donít know if itĎs useless though if someone just decides they donít want to have contact anymore
Title: Re: ghosting
Post by: Matt33 on September 05, 2019, 06:02:59 PM
This guy has violated your integrity, you will not let this happen! Let him go and move on to someone else. All the while you're chasing after him you boost his ego while crushing yours. When he realises he no longer has you in his grip he will come running back but you won't want him because you've risen above his level!
Title: Re: ghosting
Post by: lizbennet on September 19, 2019, 09:38:00 AM
You need to calm down. This doesn't mean anything until you give it meaning. You also need to understand that guys deal with being overwhelmed differently. They usually retreat to their caves to think.

If you like him, be patient. He will come back.
Title: Re: ghosting
Post by: possum-power on September 20, 2019, 04:23:13 AM
Makes sense. However, men who retreat to their Ďcaveí to think without saying first Ďexcuse me darling while I retreat to my cave to think, Iíll be back on Thursdayí, canít expect me to still be there waiting (in emotional agony), for whenever they might feel like coming out.
Title: Re: ghosting
Post by: Alexbally on September 20, 2019, 11:26:59 AM
This whole thread has been turned into a farce and a freak show. You lot know nothing about anything here.
I sincerely hope that you're happy with yourselves.
Title: Re: ghosting
Post by: halouniverse on September 22, 2019, 01:54:12 PM
Alwaysfaith222...Law Of Attraction is the law of the Universe...It is the way we bring to us, everything that we think in life, whether good or bad...So can we learn to multiply the good that we want, and get rid of the bad...Yes..we can edit the LOA in our favor, that is why we have forums and teachers and books, that will make us understand this LOA...
Say you want a new piano or a Ukulele, or guitar..this is on your mind and through the day you even see your fingers playing the Ukulele, and you even think and at times see the color of what it looks like...Than you go on youtube and see a person playing say a song..".somewhere over the rainbow" on the ukulele...now you start to hear that song on the Ukulele that you want so bad through the day, while you're at work..and than you start thinking about it again the first thing when you wake up....So you are creating a  vacuum in your subconscious mind of your desire..Now if you visualise as playing, hearing owning already it is yours..the mind will jump ahead of you and fill that vacuum that you already have this desire...and boom when you least expect it to happen...it is there..how it manifests or gets there it doesn't matter..just be simple, your mind understands simple things...don't complicate things with all kinds of stuff you read on the internet that are hard....Fill the vacuum of your desire... go ahead of your mind...feel it touch it smell it want it, hear it, create strong energy for this desire and visualise as already having it..create the vacuum..
     Now other people bring their priorities to them also...So if they do love you but they have on their mind other priorities..they will manifest them before they come to the smaller priorities...So even though this guy might be a ghost for a while his mind might be hard thinking about other things, and bringing to him...good or bad...So when you do a good visualisation of that person and creating that vacuum as you already have them or own them...You in a way depending how strong your energy is, are making him think of you..and if you are on his mind you are making yourself his priority because his mind will think about you more...On top of that... remember...you bring to yourself every day what you think of...Just make it simple...Have funn my friend and enjoy your manifestations..
  Oh and regarding, Possum-power...I have read a lot of her posts..I really like the way she thinks, and the way she comes to some of her conclusions, she is very sensetive  at times, and yes I can even say emotional, but the emotional will help you get what you want...emotional can add so much more energy in your manifestations..so much more will to investigate how things happen and build a stronger interest .....Have funn ...possum-power...
Title: Re: ghosting
Post by: possum-power on September 23, 2019, 02:19:02 AM
Oh thank you, halouniverse, you actually made my day quite a lot brighter with your kind words!

So it seems maybe to be more about just relaxing and daydreaming a lot, in a very pleasant way...imagining nice things or even just assuming them?

If so then hey, I guess Iím doing natural LOA all the time! But especially during my commute to work, then the daydreaming gets really good  :)

Often my daydreams seem as real to me as real life, or nearly, lol. But it is just a very pleasant activity. Funny as Iíve never given my kids devices or films during journeys, since I thought itís so very important to gaze out the window daydreaming, and did not want them to miss out on that. Musicís perfect.

Anyway blah blah (sorry). It seems that guy I mentioned, the ghoster, who was last in contact with me six months ago, maybe got manifested by me talking/thinking about him? I got wild feelings all night..this was three days ago.. and ..a lot of my weird psychic love-stuff..and I totally thought it must be my current love (the one Iím slowly learning to trust), but it was odd as it was so tumultuous emotionally, felt like longing, almost desperation, then love, insanely strong.. then.. well..it was a journey!*

I told my boyfriend all about it in the morning as of course I totally assumed it was him! He said, he must have been dreaming (!). Then.. just a couple of hours later, I get a message from ghost-guy, saying ..wait for it.... he is sorry and he feels bad over not treating me well, and would I meet up with him.

!!!!!!

What it took for him to write that message.. it must have been hard. Emotionally.. Donít think he is very used to saying sorry  ::)

*I wonder if he had gone through a breakup and maybe thatís what I felt, and then he turned to me hoping I might be distraction or comfort? Hm itís a possibility..
Title: Re: ghosting
Post by: Alexbally on September 23, 2019, 11:47:52 AM
Once again, off topic and nothing to answer the OP's question.
Air your dirty laundry on your own thread.
Title: Re: ghosting
Post by: possum-power on September 23, 2019, 12:48:29 PM
Topic is ghosting.
Title is Ďghostingí!!
Couldnít really get much more relevant to the topic.

Itís interesting, if you observe closely, people learn mostly from own and othersí experiences, and NOT from being told stuff. Advice is very seriously overrated imo.

I wish more would share their own experiences.
Plus, when others do that I find those by far the most readable posts, I really like it personally.
Title: Re: ghosting
Post by: Alexbally on September 23, 2019, 01:09:18 PM
"Own experiences" are biased, tarnished with ones own moral perspective. This is unhelpful.
Ones that you agree with are merely only validating your perception, they are not always correct.
Also, your post offers nothing to the op, or anybody for that matter. It merely stated what happened with your Saturday. Pointless really.
Title: Re: ghosting
Post by: siamesegirl on September 23, 2019, 03:44:18 PM
Hi Guys,

So i have been talking to this guy for about three weeks and it was going so well. We were getting along so well and constantly texting throughout the day, we even met up and spent a really lovely evening together. Even after the one night we still texted everyday constantly. Last Thursday he just stopped talking to me for no reason even after telling me he wanted to take me out on a date. I sent a text asking if i was wasting my time with him and he said no he's just been super busy but not to worry. We talked some more that night but then again the following day he stopped talking to me. Its been radio silence ever since. I don't understand what has happened. Everything was so great between us.

Has anyone else been ghosted and managed to manifest them back and start up the communication

I have been doing daily gratitude, scripting, setting intentions and affirmations but i can't seem to break through?

any advice?

Thanks

OP are you still wanting to meet up again with this person?
Title: Re: ghosting
Post by: Anna1408 on September 24, 2019, 08:41:51 PM
This has never happened to me, so I can't give any encouragement that way.

But if it DID happen to me and I wanted him to start contacting again, well I'd do what I would do if I were going to manifest anything else in my life, and that would be to construct a simple visualization that focuses on the end result, and to remain as much as possible in the relaxed state of assuming that what I focus on is going to show up at some time or other in my reality. His past behaviour or what went wrong before, I would not give that any energy whatsoever.

Other people's stories can be helpful or not helpful, but it's like people have already said here: our experiences are all going to be different and noone can really predict what will happen on your particular journey. So with that in mind, I'd just go ahead and start visualizing or intention setting, if I were you, and let things unfold in their own unique way.

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