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Law of Attraction for Relationship => The Art of Letting Go => Topic started by: new_believer on August 13, 2018, 10:32:07 PM

Title: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: new_believer on August 13, 2018, 10:32:07 PM
Hi guys, I haven't been posting here for a while but I have an update about my girlfriend who is now my ex again. Honestly, it's annoying how our relationship keeps panning out.

Over the last few months, we got back together with her after she promised me never to leave me again. I listened to her and gave her another chance but as time went by, she started claiming to be unhappy with me again. She claimed that I was not meeting her needs and that what I was doing was enough for her. She broke up with me about a week ago and I told her I wouldn't take her back again and that she should leave me be. She said that the relationship was improving but it was not good for her as a person and that she chose herself over me and that she would do it a thousand times over, that I was selfish and I needed to learn how to be with someone.

In a nutshell, she changed the padlock to her door, blocked me off of all social media and spammed my emails. All these things she told me over the phone. She even broke up with me over the phone! She just will not commit to me and to be honest, she keeps telling me that I don't know how to take care of her, that i'm an obstacle in her life and she needs to find someone who can take care of her. I obviously don't agree with that thinking but if that's how she feels, I best let her go and find what she really wants.

I feel like I am good for her. I feel like we can make it till the end but it takes two to tango. We ended things rather amicably but it was so sudden. I told her that if she ever reconsiders and finds that i'm still willing, she can give me a call otherwise, she should leave me alone to heal and move on. She apologized for breaking up with me so many times and wasting my time. I feel like she's full of shit. I love her and I want to be with her but she will sabotage us when we start making progress. We can't live like that!

I feel like she loves me but she'd rather be with someone else. She claims I am an abusive person and blames me for her leaving. I need some advise from you guys on this. What do I do? I am in no contact yet again.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: Alexbally on August 13, 2018, 10:49:26 PM
she changed the padlock to her door

Does she live in a stable?

What do I do?

Why ask us what you should do? It's your life, your relationship, your choice!

If you want to know what I would do....I would get on the phone to my best looking mate, get him all reared up as my wing man and go out together to the nearest pub / bar full of cheap women that wear next to no clothes. And not go back home until Wednesday.
Job done.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: possum-power on August 13, 2018, 11:04:23 PM
While I think Alexballyís advice here is quite sound, I better just add something as I think it might potentially be very helpful... if hard to hear!

Ok, Iíve hesitated answering your posts before, I didnít want to be harsh but I just canít not be honest! So, it seems to me, from both your style of writing and what you say, that you have a strong tendency to be whingy, whiney, and extremely self-centred. And self-pitying too.
So I think you need to work hard on this stuff if you want to successfully be back together with her, ever.

She must really like you to keep on coming back in spite of all. Thereís the positive bit  ::)

Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: Hannahfierce8 on August 13, 2018, 11:43:26 PM
Iím in the same nutshell 😂 she even blocked my phone number. Told me she didnít love me or wasnít in love with me that she was never coming back.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: new_believer on August 14, 2018, 01:02:15 AM
Ok, Iíve hesitated answering your posts before, I didnít want to be harsh but I just canít not be honest! So, it seems to me, from both your style of writing and what you say, that you have a strong tendency to be whingy, whiney, and extremely self-centred. And self-pitying too.
So I think you need to work hard on this stuff if you want to successfully be back together with her, ever.
Wow, that stings. I hear you possum. It is extremely unatrractive for anyone to listen to a self pitying person. Thanks for the hard truth. I appreciate it!

Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: new_believer on August 14, 2018, 01:06:50 AM
she changed the padlock to her door

Does she live in a stable?

What do I do?

I know how it sounds and no she does not.

Quote

Why ask us what you should do? It's your life, your relationship, your choice!

If you want to know what I would do....I would get on the phone to my best looking mate, get him all reared up as my wing man and go out together to the nearest pub / bar full of cheap women that wear next to no clothes. And not go back home until Wednesday.
Job done.


It is my life. I must not be rational right now.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: possum-power on August 14, 2018, 02:43:01 AM
Ok, Iíve hesitated answering your posts before, I didnít want to be harsh but I just canít not be honest! So, it seems to me, from both your style of writing and what you say, that you have a strong tendency to be whingy, whiney, and extremely self-centred. And self-pitying too.
So I think you need to work hard on this stuff if you want to successfully be back together with her, ever.
Wow, that stings. I hear you possum. It is extremely unatrractive for anyone to listen to a self pitying person. Thanks for the hard truth. I appreciate it!



Oh baby I'm really sorry! I was so brutal :-(
And wrong because it seems you are nice after all. :-)

I just think that when things go wrong things are always half-half, I mean it is never more one person's fault than the other's... and you seemed always so convinced that it was mostly her fault, her being wrong or faulty... you know what I mean.

Well I don't know you guys, maybe she is a pain-in-the-ass, but all the same. Don't blame her for stuff. Even if she blames you. All that stuff is such a waste of time.

Concentrate only on reasons and solutions. Not figuring out who's to blame and why. That way you have a chance of the relationship lasting a bit longer.

Good luck!!!!
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: Alexbally on August 14, 2018, 02:55:03 AM
Definitely should go out and get balls deep in some new poontang NB.

Worry about the ex thing later after you've unleashed some fury on some hoodrat first.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: new_believer on August 14, 2018, 03:04:59 AM
Ok, Iíve hesitated answering your posts before, I didnít want to be harsh but I just canít not be honest! So, it seems to me, from both your style of writing and what you say, that you have a strong tendency to be whingy, whiney, and extremely self-centred. And self-pitying too.
So I think you need to work hard on this stuff if you want to successfully be back together with her, ever.
Wow, that stings. I hear you possum. It is extremely unatrractive for anyone to listen to a self pitying person. Thanks for the hard truth. I appreciate it!



Oh baby I'm really sorry! I was so brutal :-(
And wrong because it seems you are nice after all. :-)

I just think that when things go wrong things are always half-half, I mean it is never more one person's fault than the other's... and you seemed always so convinced that it was mostly her fault, her being wrong or faulty... you know what I mean.

Well I don't know you guys, maybe she is a pain-in-the-ass, but all the same. Don't blame her for stuff. Even if she blames you. All that stuff is such a waste of time.

Concentrate only on reasons and solutions. Not figuring out who's to blame and why. That way you have a chance of the relationship lasting a bit longer.

Good luck!!!!


It's all good Possum. I can handle some cold hard truth. I need to get my vibrations on the up and up. I'm vibrating too low, too far off from my core self. There is a little bit of truth in what you said.
I'm also in quite a bit of pain and frustration as i'm sure you'll understand.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: new_believer on August 14, 2018, 03:06:54 AM
Definitely should go out and get balls deep in some new poontang NB.

Worry about the ex thing later after you've unleashed some fury on some hoodrat first.
Yo Alex, you could make for an excellent wingman. Thanks man. I do need some new poontang to get those dopamine levels up.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: possum-power on August 14, 2018, 03:15:29 AM
Who in the world are these 'poontang' people you guys always talk about? Are there these girls hanging out who you just walk up to and say 'fancy a shag?' and they say 'yes please'. Wow. Not round where I live.
Or are you guys all talk?  ;D

Ah or ...perhaps you have a few 'friends with benefits' just waiting breathlessly for your call??
(note to self: 'FWB means this guy will have zero respect for you and treat you like the local convenience... if any of your friends suggest such a thing kick him in the balls and run...')
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: Alexbally on August 14, 2018, 03:20:36 AM
Shit, I'm the best wing man. Women love me....I'm adorable!
I'll even take one for the team if the girl you like has a fat friend with her.

You're getting the idea now though. There's nothing quite like going out on the prowl to help make you feel like da man again. The ex thing won't go away just because you did the hibbidy jibbidy with someone else....what the ex don't know won't hurt her.

Embrace the freedom brother! The newer the berry, the sweeter the juice....or is it the older the berry...who cares? Just go get some.

Possum, sweety, poontang is slang for the hairy axe wound.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: siamesegirl on August 14, 2018, 03:28:22 AM
poontang (n.)
"sex with a woman; woman regarded as a sex object; female genitalia," c. 1910, of uncertain origin, probably via New Orleans Creole, from French putain "prostitute," from Old French pute "whore" (cognate with Spanish and ProvenÁal puta), probably from fem. of Vulgar Latin *puttus "girl" (source of Old Italian putta "girl"), from Latin putus (originally "pure, bright, splendid").

But also possibly from or influenced by Old French put, from Latin putidus "stinking" on notion of the "foulness" of harlotry [Buck], or for more literal reasons (among the 16c.-17c. slang terms for "whore" in English were polecat, which might also be a pun, and fling-stink). Shortened form poon is recorded from 1969.

Sounds delightful.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: Alexbally on August 14, 2018, 03:34:16 AM
You just had to go and make it vulgar SG. You could have just left the description as "the hairy axe wound" but nooo....
You disgust me woman.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: TheLittleBat on August 14, 2018, 04:33:35 AM
The misogyny lol
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: Alexbally on August 14, 2018, 04:54:17 AM
Mwahaha
Yep, right on sister! Gotta love it  ;D
You know I love women LB. A little too much maybe.

Now make yourself scarce fair wench or woe betide you shalt taste thy wrath.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: TheLittleBat on August 14, 2018, 05:12:25 AM
Sex-obsession is a sign of emptiness and lack of self-respect.

Now make yourself scarce fair wench or woe betide you shalt taste thy wrath.

Wow threats lol classy DangerMouse.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: Alexbally on August 14, 2018, 05:17:24 AM
Who said anything about being obsessed with sex?
I'm just pointing out that the guy could do with getting laid and the positive attitude that it will bring him.
I'm not telling him to go and nail every trollop that he can lay his hands on. Although I would not talk him out of this either.

Sex is good. It makes people feel good. If it doesn't make you feel good LB then maybe you're just not very good at it.

As you missed the blatantly obvious....that quote was me completely joking LB lol. You would know if I was threatening you properly.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: TheLittleBat on August 14, 2018, 05:20:51 AM
Sex is good. It makes people feel good. If it doesn't make you feel good LB then maybe you're just not very good at it.

Not being addicted to sex in an unhealthy way doesn't reflect who I am personally. But keep on DangerMouse.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: Alexbally on August 14, 2018, 05:23:49 AM
It sure doesn't, Lucy.

So are you saying we should not have sex anymore?
Or we should draw up a timetable of when it is acceptable to have sex?

New Believer, go out and get laid buddy.....but only on a Thursday.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: possum-power on August 14, 2018, 10:53:00 AM
Ok Iím quite certain Iíll get massacred here, but hey... who cares. Anything for a good cause.  :D
(and Iím really mystified about how this sex discussion came out of poor newbeliever wondering how he can make things work with his ex - he must be wondering what hit him and where all these lunatics jumped out frim hahaha)

But anyway, so... about sex. Itís not about sex or no-sex, we all know itís fantastic, right?
Itís about the APPROACH to sex.

Itís just a great shame, when there is SO much potential!

So here is an article my lovely friend Luke sent me way back, he thought it would help me to understand this stuff and he was right.
https://www.collective-evolution.com/2017/11/21/why-many-women-dont-have-orgasms/ (https://www.collective-evolution.com/2017/11/21/why-many-women-dont-have-orgasms/)
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: Alexbally on August 14, 2018, 12:13:24 PM
You ladies have got things completely wrapped around your arses because you chose to focus on my choice to use descriptive, male bravado language which infringed on your own judgements, opinions, beliefs and expectations about the approach to sex, instead of just seeing the message behind those male bravado words.

It's hilarious how some think it's ok to exert mind control over somebody else to get sex, yet get all offended when another person goes out looking for sex in the old fashioned way, but hey, we live in a mad world these days I guess. All the power to you haha.

The message to go out and find another consenting mate is a sound one, designed to help him embrace the state of change that he is in and to seek new and better experiences than he presently is enduring. It's fair to say that things are not working with his ex, ok, so move onto the next one then. It's really that simple.

Look beyond the words to see the message.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: new_believer on August 14, 2018, 03:33:53 PM
Who in the world are these 'poontang' people you guys always talk about? Are there these girls hanging out who you just walk up to and say 'fancy a shag?' and they say 'yes please'. Wow. Not round where I live.

You'd be surprised Possum. The world is not what you think it is. We're animals as much as we're human.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: new_believer on August 14, 2018, 03:45:43 PM
Ok Iím quite certain Iíll get massacred here, but hey... who cares. Anything for a good cause.  :D
(and Iím really mystified about how this sex discussion came out of poor newbeliever wondering how he can make things work with his ex - he must be wondering what hit him and where all these lunatics jumped out frim hahaha)

But anyway, so... about sex. Itís not about sex or no-sex, we all know itís fantastic, right?
Itís about the APPROACH to sex.

Itís just a great shame, when there is SO much potential!

So here is an article my lovely friend Luke sent me way back, he thought it would help me to understand this stuff and he was right.
https://www.collective-evolution.com/2017/11/21/why-many-women-dont-have-orgasms/ (https://www.collective-evolution.com/2017/11/21/why-many-women-dont-have-orgasms/)

Possum, you have a point and so does Alex. What works for him may not work or be acceptable to you and vice versa. What matters is that the rights of either party aren't infringed upon. I agree with Alex's method. Makes sense to most males, it's cryptic to females because they're on the receiving end.

All I want right now is to figure out how to make this on and off relationship with my ex stay ON. She called me yesternight by the way (in my time zone). We talked and she said she wants to move on but she can't go cold turkey on me. She wants us to keep in touch until she's able to let go. I said no of course. It is far too obvious that she wants to use me as a security blanket or to justify her actions. I told her i'm not opposed to the occasional hookup where we can exchange emotional investment for sex like a business deal or something.

I want to be with her but I don't want to be used either. I told her that she should refrain from contacting me to allow me to heal. She said she's not sure she can do that and I'm just wondering what she wants at this point. She didn't imply anything concerning being with each other other than the fact that she wants to move on with her life. It's just difficult for her. I felt like I did the right thing but my judgement at this point is really clouded.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: possum-power on August 14, 2018, 04:24:50 PM
Ok I do get both your point. Reluctantly.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: possum-power on August 14, 2018, 04:27:49 PM
Though the terminology. Jesus.
Maybe you could work on that when in mixed company?
Since it has the probably-not-desired effect of making any listening female never want to have sex again.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: Alexbally on August 14, 2018, 04:59:43 PM
You'll get over it I'm sure Possum, try not to worry about it and instead just see the funny side of life. I do appreciate that you may not find my colourful choice of language as tasteful sometimes but at the end of the day, they're only words used to describe 'moving on.'
I have no interest in flowering up my choice of dialect just to make it appealing to ladies when I am addressing a guy directly, sorry Possum, I'll only do that when I'm addressing a lady directly.
Or do you wish to be treated equally with men?

New Believer, you have to be kidding me, right?
You really want this to remain as on, after everything that's happened over the 2 past attempts with her?

I sincerely do respect your feelings of wanting to try a 3rd time....I've been there dude and I feel ya knockin' but maybe it's time that you consider moving on. If you do decide to move on, grab your sack and be a man about it. Don't let her use you as her security blanket because you'll regret that a lot later on down the line. It's pretty clear that she does not want to be with you and I know that must hurt.

Should you decide to persue things further with her for round 3, my suggestion is you should look into what you can do with a clear mind. A good place to get to for mastery of the mind is theta state. Learning how to alter the brain waves at will brings moments of clarity and intuition. You can change you and your very experience, just practice and be persistent at it.

I suggest having a serious think about your options and if you still feel that you need help, come back and ask again.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: siamesegirl on August 14, 2018, 05:45:59 PM
Though the terminology. Jesus.
Maybe you could work on that when in mixed company?
Since it has the probably-not-desired effect of making any listening female never want to have sex again.

That's the point. There's no way I'd have casual sex with anyone as for me those kind of feelings are attached to someone I love rather than a random I fancy and wouldn't appreciate a guy viewing me in that way. I appreciate we're all different. Maybe I'm a closet Victorian.


Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: Alexbally on August 14, 2018, 05:53:35 PM
Or a librarian  ;)

Try to keep this thread more on topic shall we?
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: possum-power on August 14, 2018, 06:10:06 PM
No thank you, of course I donít!! In fact I wish I had not been standing within earshot at the time, or that you could 'un-read' things you just read.
Omg this has practically finished me off. I leave you guys to it.

ps I picked up the point about using guys as a security blanket. Wonder if it is about the same as using girls for sex. Never really thought about it tbh..

Gawd would it not be just so much simpler if we humans were like, one gender only or something? Though I suppose it would probably be less fun
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: TheLittleBat on August 14, 2018, 06:36:43 PM
That's the point. There's no way I'd have casual sex with anyone as for me those kind of feelings are attached to someone I love rather than a random I fancy and wouldn't appreciate a guy viewing me in that way. I appreciate we're all different. Maybe I'm a closet Victorian.

👏🏻
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: siamesegirl on August 14, 2018, 07:05:53 PM
Or a librarian  ;)

Try to keep this thread more on topic shall we?

Weren't you the one that veered the thread towards casual shagging in the first place? :D
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: Alexbally on August 14, 2018, 08:22:55 PM
Casual shagging / moving on....same thing essentially. So it was not off topic whatsoever. He asked what he should do at the beginning, moving on was advice given.

And if you think women are not interested in casual sex just because you're not then you are sorely mistaken.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: siamesegirl on August 14, 2018, 08:47:28 PM
Casual shagging / moving on....same thing essentially. So it was not off topic whatsoever. He asked what he should do at the beginning, moving on was advice given.

And if you think women are not interested in casual sex just because you're not then you are sorely mistaken.

I didn't say some of them aren't Alex, I said I am not, so now as you suggested let's move the thread on to the OP's dilemma!
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: Alexbally on August 14, 2018, 09:02:17 PM
Sounds like a wonderful idea finally
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: possum-power on August 15, 2018, 01:11:29 AM
Ok Iím quite certain Iíll get massacred here, but hey... who cares. Anything for a good cause.  :D
(and Iím really mystified about how this sex discussion came out of poor newbeliever wondering how he can make things work with his ex - he must be wondering what hit him and where all these lunatics jumped out frim hahaha)

But anyway, so... about sex. Itís not about sex or no-sex, we all know itís fantastic, right?
Itís about the APPROACH to sex.

Itís just a great shame, when there is SO much potential!

So here is an article my lovely friend Luke sent me way back, he thought it would help me to understand this stuff and he was right.
https://www.collective-evolution.com/2017/11/21/why-many-women-dont-have-orgasms/ (https://www.collective-evolution.com/2017/11/21/why-many-women-dont-have-orgasms/)

Possum, you have a point and so does Alex. What works for him may not work or be acceptable to you and vice versa. What matters is that the rights of either party aren't infringed upon. I agree with Alex's method. Makes sense to most males, it's cryptic to females because they're on the receiving end.

All I want right now is to figure out how to make this on and off relationship with my ex stay ON. She called me yesternight by the way (in my time zone). We talked and she said she wants to move on but she can't go cold turkey on me. She wants us to keep in touch until she's able to let go. I said no of course. It is far too obvious that she wants to use me as a security blanket or to justify her actions. I told her i'm not opposed to the occasional hookup where we can exchange emotional investment for sex like a business deal or something.

I want to be with her but I don't want to be used either. I told her that she should refrain from contacting me to allow me to heal. She said she's not sure she can do that and I'm just wondering what she wants at this point. She didn't imply anything concerning being with each other other than the fact that she wants to move on with her life. It's just difficult for her. I felt like I did the right thing but my judgement at this point is really clouded.


new-believer I've been thinking a lot about this. Ok I think I have def been guilty of using men like this - I mean, as emotional support and I suppose it was extremely unfair as if e.g. as an ex, they were still into me then it's not so easy to say 'no', is it? Hmm there was also a very nice Irish boy who used to call me 'bitch from hell' whenever we met - but in a very odd way as he would also smile and look a bit wistful or something, too. It puzzled me A LOT. I really didn't strike myself as being a bitch from hell. Never knew how to react to that, made me really nervous. But as we used to often be out with the same group etc. and yes I did end up sleeping in his bed on different occasions, but just for some company, you know.. I mean not, anything else. Ok maybe a kiss. I mean I thought it was nice, but I guess that was not quite the full story. Shit.
So I now have to accept that in the past I was just as bad as any guy who picks up a woman just for sex?! Ok. Coming to terms with a new reality here. In a way I think this is just as well ..and I do feel pretty shitty about it now.

SO I think you are probably entirely right to state your needs about it too. I.e yes I'll do it but I want to have sex with you too! Ouch. Jesus. If this had happened to me I would have been well screwed. Oh literally.
Ok, it is a learning process for all, right?!?!
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: possum-power on August 15, 2018, 02:15:37 AM
Hm sounds to me like you really need to find out what she wants and is thinking.
Can you not go out together and talk it through?
Asking her face-to-face might not be such a bad idea...   just a thought.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: new_believer on August 15, 2018, 04:46:01 PM
Iím in the same nutshell 😂 she even blocked my phone number. Told me she didnít love me or wasnít in love with me that she was never coming back.

How did this go Hannah? Has she reached out to you yet?
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: new_believer on August 15, 2018, 04:55:37 PM
New Believer, you have to be kidding me, right?
You really want this to remain as on, after everything that's happened over the 2 past attempts with her?

I sincerely do respect your feelings of wanting to try a 3rd time....I've been there dude and I feel ya knockin' but maybe it's time that you consider moving on. If you do decide to move on, grab your sack and be a man about it. Don't let her use you as her security blanket because you'll regret that a lot later on down the line. It's pretty clear that she does not want to be with you and I know that must hurt.

Should you decide to persue things further with her for round 3, my suggestion is you should look into what you can do with a clear mind. A good place to get to for mastery of the mind is theta state. Learning how to alter the brain waves at will brings moments of clarity and intuition. You can change you and your very experience, just practice and be persistent at it.

I suggest having a serious think about your options and if you still feel that you need help, come back and ask again.

As much as it is outrageous, I just want to figure out a way to end this sine wave without actually losing her. She thinks being alone is better than being in a fulfilling relationship with someone which in my opinion is a bit immature. I know she needs time to mature and I also know that it may be time to call time on this union of ours. Whenever she reaches out, we find ourselves right back in each others arms. I can't take anymore of the push and pull. Is there a way that ebb and flow can b arrested without losing each other?

Alex, for sure man, i'm much wiser now when it comes to women and their nature. I'd rather bear the brunt of loneliness than be used ever again. I've been practising self love and my self respect is worth more to me now. Like i've been advised many times before, i'm putting myself first because that is all I have.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: new_believer on August 15, 2018, 05:14:27 PM
new-believer I've been thinking a lot about this. Ok I think I have def been guilty of using men like this - I mean, as emotional support and I suppose it was extremely unfair as if e.g. as an ex, they were still into me then it's not so easy to say 'no', is it? Hmm there was also a very nice Irish boy who used to call me 'bitch from hell' whenever we met - but in a very odd way as he would also smile and look a bit wistful or something, too. It puzzled me A LOT. I really didn't strike myself as being a bitch from hell. Never knew how to react to that, made me really nervous. But as we used to often be out with the same group etc. and yes I did end up sleeping in his bed on different occasions, but just for some company, you know.. I mean not, anything else. Ok maybe a kiss. I mean I thought it was nice, but I guess that was not quite the full story. Shit.
So I now have to accept that in the past I was just as bad as any guy who picks up a woman just for sex?! Ok. Coming to terms with a new reality here. In a way I think this is just as well ..and I do feel pretty shitty about it now.

Hi Possum, you and I both know you had sex with him...probably multiple times. :-). It's a woman's nature sometimes to have fun with a man and play with his heart for an ego boost depending on where she is in her life and her level of maturity. It is extremely unfair in my opinion but when it was happening, you may not have been aware of the harm you were causing by leading him on or adding him to your lair until you found something better. I'm not judging though, you're a typical interesting girl. I'm starting to believe that investing yourself emotionally in another person 100% is a bad idea.

You're an interesting person possum, i'll give you that.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: new_believer on August 15, 2018, 05:16:16 PM
Hm sounds to me like you really need to find out what she wants and is thinking.
Can you not go out together and talk it through?
Asking her face-to-face might not be such a bad idea...   just a thought.

Been there, done that, not doing it again. It's time she did the work and if she doesn't work hard to be with me as well, good riddance...
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: Alexbally on August 15, 2018, 05:40:04 PM
Hey NB

It's good to see you have your head screwed squarely onto your shoulders still. I do totally understand your position with her....you're a man (just like me) with both needs and wants which do still involve her presently. I also understand that if she just walked away then that would have kind of made your life and decision much easier as it would have been made for you.

There is relationship advice and / or there's LOA advice here....
Relationship advice from my perspective here is simple....walk away dude! Take this experience and be a better man for it into a new and better relationship with somebody else. As one door closes, another opens. You never know but out of the thousands of good ladies that have walked past you lately, you potentially have missed many opportunities at having something new and better. The next girl really could be "the one."

Loa advice would be learn to step back inside yourself. Start to know yourself again....and I mean learn every internal reaction. Learn to calm and clear the mind. Alter the brain waves so that you can be sharper, focused, clearer and precise with a single thought. Start from nothing in your brain / mind and build upon it. Then observe and become aware of how things change in accordance with them.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: TheLittleBat on August 15, 2018, 05:49:03 PM
It's a woman's nature sometimes to have fun with a man and play with his heart for an ego boost

Yikes. No wonder she left you, no woman would date a boy with your mentality. I hope she runs as far away as she can from you.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: siamesegirl on August 15, 2018, 06:01:05 PM
It's a woman's nature sometimes to have fun with a man and play with his heart for an ego boost

Yikes. No wonder she left you, no woman would date a boy with your mentality. I hope she runs as far away as she can from you.

I think he is saying this to make excuses for her, maybe?
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: TheLittleBat on August 15, 2018, 06:32:23 PM
It's a woman's nature sometimes to have fun with a man and play with his heart for an ego boost

Yikes. No wonder she left you, no woman would date a boy with your mentality. I hope she runs as far away as she can from you.

I think he is saying this to make excuses for her, maybe?

It's not about her, though. It's about him. His thoughts, feelings and beliefs are projected outwards and he gets that reality.
He has shitty thoughts about women and this other girl so he'll keep getting shitty situations. It's not about them, it's always about you.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: new_believer on August 15, 2018, 06:40:03 PM
It's not about her, though. It's about him. His thoughts, feelings and beliefs are projected outwards and he gets that reality.
He has shitty thoughts about women and this other girl so he'll keep getting shitty situations. It's not about them, it's always about you.
My mum is a woman, I have sisters, they're women. I love and respect them. I had a girlfriend, she was a woman. I'm trying to get her back because I love her and want to be with her but it is proving complex. My thoughts and feelings are indeed projected outwards and I am working on that. The truth is, I have seen and been with my fair share of women who have no qualms playing with a man's heart. Playing with someone's heart is not gender exclusive. It happens both with men and women. The moment I say something about women doing it, all of a sudden, I have shitty thoughts on women. I mean, Possum just came clean and admitted it! There's nothing wrong with that at all. This world has become quite strange.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: new_believer on August 15, 2018, 06:56:11 PM
I think he is saying this to make excuses for her, maybe?

Siamesegirl, maybe it's me trying to excuse her bad behaviour or an internal belief based on external experiences. I'll figure it out.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: new_believer on August 15, 2018, 07:27:17 PM
This link is highly informative. Thought I should share it for those in my position.

http://www.powerfulintentions.org/forum/topics/getting-your-ex-lover-back (http://www.powerfulintentions.org/forum/topics/getting-your-ex-lover-back)
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: possum-power on August 15, 2018, 07:30:31 PM
Well I think you sound like someone who thinks deeply about stuff and is capable of seeing diff perspectives - yes surely both a good friend and a good partner. So your original complaining tone - well I guess it came out of sheer frustration!!

How about giving her - not an ultimatum exactly but rather just saying, what you need out of the situation. Idk maybe something like 'I'm happy to stay in contact and keep seeing you, but then we're together and have to be trying to figure stuff out together. I won't have it that you use me as an emotional crutch till something else comes up for you... That isn't going to work for me'

Then it's her choice. You could also tell her you'll wait a while for her to decide - say a week or so - but after that she's on her own.
(just a suggestion, you don't want to be waiting there for 300 years, do you  ::))

Btw I'm sorry about my original post, I was cross anyway ...it's a bit like shopping when you're hungry. Bad idea.

p.s. I didn't sleep with him  >:(
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: new_believer on August 15, 2018, 07:31:33 PM
Hey Possum, I definitely won't wait around forever for her to come back to me. I will move forward, not backward. She has decided to exit my life, I already have my answer. Whether she comes back or not is not up to me. I'd love it if she and I were to work out but if we don't, well, life is so much more than any one relationship.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: possum-power on August 15, 2018, 07:32:29 PM
Ooh yes 'positive selfishness', I love it  :D
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: TheLittleBat on August 15, 2018, 08:51:38 PM
Everyone is you pushed out. Stop blaming women for your problems and start looking inwards and blaming yourself.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: new_believer on August 15, 2018, 09:46:51 PM
Quote from: TheLittleBat link=topic=26509.msg
222815#msg222815 date=1534346498
Everyone is you pushed out. Stop blaming women for your problems and start looking inwards and blaming yourself.

What has made you so bitter and vicious littlebat?  Chill out.  Everyone is entitled to an opinion. Even if you don't think it's right
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: TheLittleBat on August 15, 2018, 09:51:30 PM
Quote from: TheLittleBat link=topic=26509.msg
222815#msg222815 date=1534346498
Everyone is you pushed out. Stop blaming women for your problems and start looking inwards and blaming yourself.

What has made you so bitter and vicious littlebat?  Chill out.  Everyone is entitled to an opinion. Even if you don't think it's right

You're blaming other people for your problems instead of yourself. You clearly lack self love and self respect. That's not women's problems.
That's YOUR problem and why women want nothing to do with you. Between you and I - you are the one who is bitter and vicious.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: new_believer on August 15, 2018, 09:58:17 PM
Well I think you sound like someone who thinks deeply about stuff and is capable of seeing diff perspectives - yes surely both a good friend and a good partner. So your original complaining tone - well I guess it came out of sheer frustration!!

How about giving her - not an ultimatum exactly but rather just saying, what you need out of the situation. Idk maybe something like 'I'm happy to stay in contact and keep seeing you, but then we're together and have to be trying to figure stuff out together. I won't have it that you use me as an emotional crutch till something else comes up for you... That isn't going to work for me'

Then it's her choice. You could also tell her you'll wait a while for her to decide - say a week or so - but after that she's on her own.
(just a suggestion, you don't want to be waiting there for 300 years, do you  )

Btw I'm sorry about my original post, I was cross anyway ...it's a bit like shopping when you're hungry. Bad idea.

p.s. I didn't sleep with him 
Thank you possum. I was no angel in the relationship we had but frustrated doesn't even begin to explain how I felt.  I appreciate the compliments. We got no beef you and I.  Your suggestion makes sense but I honestly feel like no contact is the way to go right now.  She is used to having me around and my availability has been taken for granted time and again.  Can't keep doing the same thing  over and over again expecting different results.  It's a big risk I'm taking I know and I could lose her but I need to heal as well.  I can't put her above me anymore.  Heck,  she always puts herself first when push comes to shove anyway. 
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: new_believer on August 15, 2018, 10:14:51 PM
Quote from: TheLittleBat link=topic=26509.msg
222815#msg222815 date=1534346498
Everyone is you pushed out. Stop blaming women for your problems and start looking inwards and blaming yourself.

What has made you so bitter and vicious littlebat?  Chill out.  Everyone is entitled to an opinion. Even if you don't think it's right

You're blaming other people for your problems instead of yourself. You clearly lack self love and self respect. That's not women's problems.
That's YOUR problem and why women want nothing to do with you. Between you and I - you are the one who is bitter and vicious.
Oh dear littlebat, I have dealt with people like you,  male and female alike.  Listen,  I know I have problems with self love and self respect.  I've aired it out here in a forum of strangers to seek wisdom and advice.  You don't need to remind me that.  I'm already dealing. I'm not blaming women for my problems.  In fact,  the context here is my now ex girlfriend keeps leaving and coming back to me with reckless abandon.  I want that to stop because a relationship cannot be sustained with such behaviour abounding. I mean, doesn't it baffle you that she goes, then she comes back repeatedly?
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: AngelusofftheSea on August 15, 2018, 10:25:55 PM
Hey New Believer,

I see you got some great advice here. To be honest , your answers are right in your own words, as well as solution. If by chance you want help with that feel free to DM.

You need to decide what you REALLY want out of this. Re read your words, sit down and think later, and your answers are right there. Trust me, it is easier for others to see sometimes for us, then we ourselves, that is OK we have all been there. It is called singing back the way.

There is one simple method to stop it all. I personally think you are strong enough to do it....LOL 

Either way good luck to you.

Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: TheLittleBat on August 15, 2018, 10:34:40 PM
I mean, doesn't it baffle you that she goes, then she comes back repeatedly?

No. Because it tells me these things about you: you think you're not good enough, you think you're second best, you think bad things and unhealthy thoughts about her, you think bad things and thoughts about women, relationships, etc. It doesn't baffle me at all.

It actually makes a lot more sense the more you talk the more the answers as to why she left are showing.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: new_believer on August 15, 2018, 10:46:03 PM
No. Because it tells me these things about you: you think you're not good enough, you think you're second best, you think bad things and unhealthy thoughts about her, you think bad things and thoughts about women, relationships, etc. It doesn't baffle me at all.
That makes a lot more sense now that you say it like that.  I agree with some of what you're saying. My question to you is this, everyone on here has flaws, even you. Is it right to leave a relationship everytime your significant other is not at their best and then return when things feel better or are better? Once we're together,  are we not taking in the world together? If it were me,  I'd support my S.O if they had issues with their psyche,  not bail on them only to return on a whim. In my opinion,  relationships aren't just about happy times and being confident and motivated 100% if the time.  It's about watering your own grass and make it as green as possible. 
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: TheLittleBat on August 15, 2018, 10:53:35 PM
That makes a lot more sense now that you say it like that.  I agree with some of what you're saying. My question to you is this, everyone on here has flaws, even you. Is it right to leave a relationship everytime your significant other is not at their best and then return when things feel better or are better? Once we're together,  are we not taking in the world together? If it were me,  I'd support my S.O if they had issues with their psyche,  not bail on them only to return on a whim. In my opinion,  relationships aren't just about happy times and being confident and motivated 100% if the time.  It's about watering your own grass and make it as green as possible. 

Again, it's not them. It's you. Your view of them is: they have problems, their issues is causing problems in our relationship, etc. and then that gets photocopied and reflected into you reality.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: new_believer on August 16, 2018, 02:27:41 PM
Hey New Believer,

I see you got some great advice here. To be honest , your answers are right in your own words, as well as solution. If by chance you want help with that feel free to DM.

You need to decide what you REALLY want out of this. Re read your words, sit down and think later, and your answers are right there. Trust me, it is easier for others to see sometimes for us, then we ourselves, that is OK we have all been there. It is called singing back the way.

There is one simple method to stop it all. I personally think you are strong enough to do it....LOL 

Either way good luck to you.

Thanks Angelus for this. I know I have to accept the end of this relationship and stop holding on to her as if my life depended on it. She may be back, she may not but the important thing is I stop this paralysis and move on. Even if it means losing her forever. I love her and the universe knows it and knows of my desire to be with her. How about I trust it to do it's work? Right? Either way, it's a win-win. If she comes back to me, hopefully, we'll both have improved as people. If she doesnt, I'll get someone who I can have a happy and fulfilling relationship with. All systems are pointing towards me moving on with my life regardless of the consequences.

Waiting around for the unknown will only hurt me and prevent me from progressing with my life.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: AngelusofftheSea on August 16, 2018, 03:03:51 PM
You're welcome.

The answers and power is ALWAYS within. But, as people we sometimes don't trust so ask others, or worse the monkey brain comes out and makes us think we need to fix, do all these techniques, try to control, when truly you need to take 100% responsibility and see why this situation is here.

When you start actively using LOA, taking responsibility , setting goals or casually  saying wouldn't it be nice if. Your subconscious and power within, or your soul again the level you are at or understand comes into play.

 Many see things that happen as negative or bad after that, as situations and people will change as you have changed. So if you want a better relationship, deeper, more meaning then if the person no longer resonates to that, is NOT on the same wavelength or deep down YOU know it is not best, they will move on or if the person in question will move on.

Just your emotions, habits or monkey brain that misses perhaps the drama, or memories will cling to.


Knowledge is power but you are responsible for the more you learn spiritually.

The vacillating energy, drama, no respect is happening for a reason. So look within and see why.

If you see the reason and feel part of her not respecting you is you deep down abandon or don't respect yourself then change that.

If you feel that you have been growing but she not, then see why.

whatever is your part in learn, forgive yourself and her. That is not only taking responsibility but growth. Many have no idea how to say thank you, give thanks, be kind or gratitude, I see that is not a problem for you.

You are right you need to let go of old relationship for a new to come in with her, or not.

If you are strong which I sense YOU are, many are not there. You can now see a new relationship with her. Have no doubt, no fears, don't continue to dissipate your energy by asking others, ignoring the problem  by putting a band-aid over it.

Go into silence, say no more to her, about her, or in doubt. See the change in your minds eye in meditation of what you want for the relationship. See end result. Nothing else. If you are disciplined if it takes days, weeks or months have no doubt. When you start to doubt have a person that helps you see or 'hears' end result and reminds you to not be negative it is done as you asked.

Since you can be disciplined that means no more looking at social media, 'hearing' what she says when mad. Contacting. you let it go. Like Neville you have faith all will be well.

If you are ready to let go of what no longer serves you in her and this relationship now, see you both moved on in a good way. See no drama, and define what type woman, life and relationship you want. Understand it takes change of your thought, to what you will continue to do to  bring that. Meaning that type of person might have taught you a lesson, bless and realize now you are looking different so you define thereby breaking the habit, thought pattern etc of bringing that type person. Now a new person matching all your wants and needs comes in because you became that state of being or aligned with that. Of love, respect etc.

Since you have looked talked of what you want, what is important and willing to let go you can do this.

One time took 4 months for me until a formal decision came through and the verdict was exactly as I saw it. I never wavered and when did had someone I trusted say no, remember this is... It was not a relationship and time was due to awaiting a decision. It came back word for word in a few paragraphs as I saw it.

You have the power. Ask,  believe and receive. Have no doubt. See that is no longer acceptable in your world, and see what is. Feel it, and live in that state of being. Accept what you want.

ETA: PASS the test. Just like a computer program it might ask you are you sure you want to do this? You automatically click yes, without why do you ask this, drama etc?

So when drama or vacillating energy still comes, click NO and reinforce to your mind, power, whatever you believe. No I am sticking to a healthy life, decisions, relationship with no drama. Eventually those ppl or situations will dissolve into native nothingness as you will not play their games, and refuse to be on their lower level of thinking. Let them think you a jerk, or your problem whatever it takes align now with your new state of being and don't deviate. 
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: possum-power on August 16, 2018, 09:20:49 PM
Hope for future - and happiness (but a little melancholy too)
This came on earlier when I was listening to stuff on youtube... I loved it. Endings and new beginnings -so scary but so beautiful too.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=abGe6uM9Ias&list=RDabGe6uM9Ias&t=1 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=abGe6uM9Ias&list=RDabGe6uM9Ias&t=1)

(I spent so much time these last few v difficult months realising that I'm good on my own - that life's amazing - and that, while love is fantastic, I actually don't need someone else to complete me)
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: new_believer on August 17, 2018, 04:21:50 PM
Hope for future - and happiness (but a little melancholy too)
This came on earlier when I was listening to stuff on youtube... I loved it. Endings and new beginnings -so scary but so beautiful too.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=abGe6uM9Ias&list=RDabGe6uM9Ias&t=1 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=abGe6uM9Ias&list=RDabGe6uM9Ias&t=1)

(I spent so much time these last few v difficult months realising that I'm good on my own - that life's amazing - and that, while love is fantastic, I actually don't need someone else to complete me)
Thanks for the share Possum. Life is indeed amazing. I get emotional highs and lows but I know I'll be okay in time.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: RSer on August 17, 2018, 05:00:46 PM
You were also doing RS / loa for all this months on her ?
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: new_believer on August 17, 2018, 06:08:39 PM
You were also doing RS / loa for all this months on her ?

I was mostly using LoA. My understanding of RS is limited and I would always have wanted her to come back to me organically.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: possum-power on August 17, 2018, 10:25:23 PM
I think itís a wise approach, specially if the alternative is obsessing to the point of insanity (seems for so many it is...instead of seeing the real solutions that are buried inside ourselves all the time).

Itís hard and a process. Grieving when you lose someone or a relationship is hard to face but so essential...

Healing from stuff naturally goes with a pendulum swing, so u can expect there to be some really tough Ďdownsí too, on the path to getting better. Does not mean it is not working.

(easier said than done i know! I am very Ďall or nothingí so should try taking own advice haha)
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: AngelusofftheSea on August 17, 2018, 11:38:07 PM
 Simply, ancient occult knowledge, or  secret law understands that every time the event is talked about ,commented upon, Or written of  a new thought form is created which coalesces with the original and strengthens it, provided they are both true to the same wave length. Remember words have power. Emotions and energy.

A firemen usually doesn't put out a fire with more.

If you don't want it in your world you no longer let it, speak of it, and if you want manifestation and you go into silence and see it, then you don't continue on with it with others.

Many if they understood the law, would see how simple it is. When they go on and talk of it day after day, week after week, or have others add energy to it then complain weeks later, I tried but it didn't work would understand why.

That is why many don't even discuss good things, if others can't be happy for. You will see them delete with a dot... that is why.

The other reason is creative process, when you dissipate your energy even on something good, then ask why it stopped coming. There will be times you should keep silent, accountable to only yourself, or a trusted few that can help you see it to end if you need reinforcement as it keeps the energy stuck or others get involved, if you are not strong enough. 

If I truly was considering and what you asked me, I would simply change title, lock it and be done with this thread. I wasn't going to put for the drama factor here, but the law is the law. In teaching or knowing it gives you power. Period.

Hope this knowledge and thought blesses if not, continue on to whatever helps your situations. *Reason I put here, is your thought process of where you might go with this whole thing. 

Ex. The missing suitcase with Neville's student. Had she cursed the people who lost it, kept up the drama of the missing suitcase, wavered, and told others, she would have to stick with the claim of it. Instead she went into silence, when asked of it due to presents she said they are on their way. Stayed that way for 6 weeks, and soon the missing suitcase, which had been filed and letter written as case closed was 'found' and returned.

It takes pure discipline to see the end result, not waver, have faith, until the end.

For further details:

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Iím frustrated thatÖ

I hate myÖ

I canít figure out Ö

Iím stressed aboutÖ

Iím worried thatÖ

I should be able toÖ but I canítÖ

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The Law of Attraction brings you what you think about.  To think is to ask.  Every thought is an intention.  The Law of Attraction is totally neutral ó it doesnít filter what you ask for.  If you think about what you want, you get it.  If you think about what you donít want, you get that too.


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If you want to manifest your desires, then it makes no sense to write statements like the above.


I wish more people would get this part. It is sooo simple. I do not get why people continue to go on and on about what they do not want and type it here on the forum. It is as if they have no real idea how the Law works? Or, people do not like to think. It makes no sense to type on and on about the unwanted Bull Shit. NONE.

Here's another:

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If I gave it any thought, I activated the Law of Attraction.


Piece of cake. But can more people get this?

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If youíre determined to think about what you donít want, I certainly canít stop you.  The best I can do is to hold you accountable for your results, which can help you become more aware of what youíre doing to yourself.  But if you really want to beat yourself up, go for it.  Just note that I wonít be joining you for the subsequent pity parties down the road.  Iím not coming to save you, nor is anyone else.  Only you can save you.

This is why those who go on an on about the negative, then two weeks, a month later say something like "How come this bad stuff is happening to me when I been trying to apply the Law?
DUH!
lol

*end of rant*


Awesome quote extracted from here: http://www.powerlawofattraction.com/forum/index.php?topic=20008.msg166223#msg166223 (http://www.powerlawofattraction.com/forum/index.php?topic=20008.msg166223#msg166223)
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: RiserAmong on August 18, 2018, 02:10:06 AM
Simply, ancient occult knowledge, or  secret law understands that every time the event is talked about ,commented upon, Or written of  a new thought form is created which coalesces with the original and strengthens it, provided they are both true to the same wave length. Remember words have power. Emotions and energy.

A firemen usually doesn't put out a fire with more.

If you don't want it in your world you no longer let it, speak of it, and if you want manifestation and you go into silence and see it, then you don't continue on with it with others.

Many if they understood the law, would see how simple it is. When they go on and talk of it day after day, week after week, or have others add energy to it then complain weeks later, I tried but it didn't work would understand why.

That is why many don't even discuss good things, if others can't be happy for. You will see them delete with a dot... that is why.

The other reason is creative process, when you dissipate your energy even on something good, then ask why it stopped coming. There will be times you should keep silent, accountable to only yourself, or a trusted few that can help you see it to end if you need reinforcement as it keeps the energy stuck or others get involved, if you are not strong enough. 

If I truly was considering and what you asked me, I would simply change title, lock it and be done with this thread. I wasn't going to put for the drama factor here, but the law is the law. In teaching or knowing it gives you power. Period.

Hope this knowledge and thought blesses if not, continue on to whatever helps your situations. *Reason I put here, is your thought process of where you might go with this whole thing. 

Ex. The missing suitcase with Neville's student. Had she cursed the people who lost it, kept up the drama of the missing suitcase, wavered, and told others, she would have to stick with the claim of it. Instead she went into silence, when asked of it due to presents she said they are on their way. Stayed that way for 6 weeks, and soon the missing suitcase, which had been filed and letter written as case closed was 'found' and returned.

It takes pure discipline to see the end result, not waver, have faith, until the end.

For further details:

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I donít understandÖ

Iím frustrated thatÖ

I hate myÖ

I canít figure out Ö

Iím stressed aboutÖ

Iím worried thatÖ

I should be able toÖ but I canítÖ

Why am I having so much trouble?

The Law of Attraction brings you what you think about.  To think is to ask.  Every thought is an intention.  The Law of Attraction is totally neutral ó it doesnít filter what you ask for.  If you think about what you want, you get it.  If you think about what you donít want, you get that too.


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If you want to manifest your desires, then it makes no sense to write statements like the above.


I wish more people would get this part. It is sooo simple. I do not get why people continue to go on and on about what they do not want and type it here on the forum. It is as if they have no real idea how the Law works? Or, people do not like to think. It makes no sense to type on and on about the unwanted Bull Shit. NONE.

Here's another:

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If I gave it any thought, I activated the Law of Attraction.


Piece of cake. But can more people get this?

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If youíre determined to think about what you donít want, I certainly canít stop you.  The best I can do is to hold you accountable for your results, which can help you become more aware of what youíre doing to yourself.  But if you really want to beat yourself up, go for it.  Just note that I wonít be joining you for the subsequent pity parties down the road.  Iím not coming to save you, nor is anyone else.  Only you can save you.

This is why those who go on an on about the negative, then two weeks, a month later say something like "How come this bad stuff is happening to me when I been trying to apply the Law?
DUH!
lol

*end of rant*


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Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: new_believer on August 20, 2018, 03:06:44 PM
I think itís a wise approach, specially if the alternative is obsessing to the point of insanity (seems for so many it is...instead of seeing the real solutions that are buried inside ourselves all the time).

Itís hard and a process. Grieving when you lose someone or a relationship is hard to face but so essential...

Healing from stuff naturally goes with a pendulum swing, so u can expect there to be some really tough Ďdownsí too, on the path to getting better. Does not mean it is not working.

(easier said than done i know! I am very Ďall or nothingí so should try taking own advice haha)

Hi Possum, spot on. I believe in the LoA. That's what I'll focus on for now. Right now grieving and healing are my focus because I need a clear head in order to move on. My heart yearns for her but I must be strong and keep going even without her in my life. Time to fix myself and get better for her or the next woman. The pain is no joke!
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: MrMaverick on August 21, 2018, 12:49:53 AM
I still have no idea why are you on LoA forum for this question ????????
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: new_believer on August 21, 2018, 04:05:32 PM
I still have no idea why are you on LoA forum for this question ????????
Because I used LoA to get her back but I couldn't keep her. She still left again. I guess it's the fact that we didn't solve any problems in ourselves.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: MrMaverick on August 21, 2018, 05:20:34 PM
Because I used LoA to get her back but I couldn't keep her. She still left again. I guess it's the fact that we didn't solve any problems in ourselves.

Good luck keeping women around if you have no masculine polarity, which seems to be the case here. You're far too lenient with you time, attention and companionship.
LoA isn't gonna solve shit for you if you lack the fundamentals. You will keep attracting and losing it eventually.
I'd start by studying some fundamentals (https://www.amazon.com/Way-Superior-Man-Challenges-Anniversary/dp/1622038320/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1534852065&sr=8-1&keywords=way+of+superior+man).
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: possum-power on August 22, 2018, 01:01:48 AM
OMG you guys are total supremist megalomaniacs.
What kind of joint did we poor ordinary people stray into anyway?!?!?!
(bad night)
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: Lightwinger on August 22, 2018, 12:56:58 PM
My answer is not the definitive answer, but perhaps she doesn't resonate with your vibration anymore??
Maybe your vibration is higher than hers, or hers is higher than yours?
You attract who you are, not what you want.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: possum-power on August 22, 2018, 04:55:06 PM
I really like that, Lightwinger.
It's a diff way of looking at things. And really positive I find.

Does not mean it could not change in the future but for RIGHT NOW... yes, something just not adding up. It's like continuing to bash away at some project in the same ol way even when it's obvious it's not working.
Like trying to force two positive poles of a magnet together and just plain old refusing to give up on it (I'M GOING TO MAKE IT WORK! C'mon, positive thinking, positive thinking... positive.... ..... positive........... zzzzzzzzz)

(and the universe up there or wherever, going 'oh jesus christ what the HECK do I have to do to make them get the friggin MESSAGE!!!?!')
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: MrMaverick on August 22, 2018, 05:04:56 PM
OMG you guys are total supremist megalomaniacs.
What kind of joint did we poor ordinary people stray into anyway?!?!?!
(bad night)

What are you even talking about?
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: new_believer on August 22, 2018, 05:17:09 PM
Because I used LoA to get her back but I couldn't keep her. She still left again. I guess it's the fact that we didn't solve any problems in ourselves.

Good luck keeping women around if you have no masculine polarity, which seems to be the case here. You're far too lenient with you time, attention and companionship.
LoA isn't gonna solve shit for you if you lack the fundamentals. You will keep attracting and losing it eventually.
I'd start by studying some fundamentals (https://www.amazon.com/Way-Superior-Man-Challenges-Anniversary/dp/1622038320/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1534852065&sr=8-1&keywords=way+of+superior+man).

Hi MrMaverick. Good insights there. I'll check out the book and take your polarity opinion under advisement.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: new_believer on August 22, 2018, 05:31:00 PM
My answer is not the definitive answer, but perhaps she doesn't resonate with your vibration anymore??
Maybe your vibration is higher than hers, or hers is higher than yours?
You attract who you are, not what you want.
For sure Lightwinger, our vibrations at some point became different, higher or lower, i'm not sure but we keep changing as people don't we? Does that mean that a relationship has to run its course whenever our vibrations change?
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: new_believer on August 22, 2018, 05:33:47 PM
I really like that, Lightwinger.
It's a diff way of looking at things. And really positive I find.

Does not mean it could not change in the future but for RIGHT NOW... yes, something just not adding up. It's like continuing to bash away at some project in the same ol way even when it's obvious it's not working.
Like trying to force two positive poles of a magnet together and just plain old refusing to give up on it (I'M GOING TO MAKE IT WORK! C'mon, positive thinking, positive thinking... positive.... ..... positive........... zzzzzzzzz)

(and the universe up there or wherever, going 'oh jesus christ what the HECK do I have to do to make them get the friggin MESSAGE!!!?!')

Yeah Possum, forcing a relationship to work especially when one party wants out is detrimental. I've learnt that going with the flow of change and of life is the best way to do things. Swimming against the current will only end up hurting me.
Title: Re: She left again and vowed never to return!
Post by: possum-power on August 22, 2018, 11:43:48 PM
OMG you guys are total supremist megalomaniacs.
What kind of joint did we poor ordinary people stray into anyway?!?!?!
(bad night)


What are you even talking about?


Hm yes I think I misunderstood! Too impulsive. Sorry.
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