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Responding immediately says, "I'm always available when you want my attention". Responding a few hours later says, "I acknowledge you, but you're not my top priority". Ignoring him altogether says, "Ibhave no interest in you so don't bother with me anymore". NEVER totally ignore someone you want. Absolutely don't make him a priority, but don't blow him off. That's maybe just as bad (or worse) than responding immediately.

I have to disagree with something you say here. If someone does that to me there is two options: I know the person has a busy life and I understand that I cannot have an answer immediatly. But for that option to work I need to really know the person involved and have trust. Otherwise its The option 2: I know its "ego games". You will be sure that you will be pushed out of my life very quickly and lose all my respect. I have 0 attraction to people who do those things to me. This works maybe only with people who have low self esteem and so they find it attractive to be disrespected. In fact I value and love people who answer immediatly who respect me! All intelligent and wise people know that if you take hours to answer its just because you have to fake something, its to make yourself somehow higher than you are. I never do that and when I do Im not aware of it.

My opinion is that it does not matter how much time you take to answer not even what you say: its all about your mind. How you feel about yourself! I always answer to my gf the second I see it; except sometimes when Im doing things thant doesnt allow me to reply in that moment. And yes im telling her "you are my priority" not only with my messages but directly. I see no reason to be with someone to let my ego rule the relationship. Whats the point? And when I say "you are my life or my priority" I dont feel weak or needy! I say that from a power position! But sure if you say the words "you are my life, my priority" with needy and desperate state of mind you may lose the other person.

It is true that YOU SHOULD HAVE YOUR OWN LIFE. Be your own individual and not being needy and desperate for messages or attention. It is true that you should have activities other than waiting a call or a message.... But in no way you should let your ego run your relationships. Love and ego are not same thing. When you are focused on you and your life you truely take time to answer sometimes. But intention is key here: your ego games are never really hidden. Be careful, when you play with fire it can burn you =)

Finaly ask yourself this question: what do I want? An authentic relationship that is based on love and respect or something fake to impress others with my ego games? ... Be aware that you may attract people with fake masks and attitudes but playing games is never forever: soon or late the person sees what you really are: so always be yourself and work on yourself insted of working on your lies :p
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replied :) Even I felt good after replying. Thank you.
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Responding immediately says, "I'm always available when you want my attention". Responding a few hours later says, "I acknowledge you, but you're not my top priority". Ignoring him altogether says, "Ibhave no interest in you so don't bother with me anymore". NEVER totally ignore someone you want. Absolutely don't make him a priority, but don't blow him off. That's maybe just as bad (or worse) than responding immediately.
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"Don't waste it making him think you aren't interested if you are." and this pretty much sums it up in my disaster situation with my ex...
How to fix the consequences of acting uninterested, although I was? Just did not want to show off being needy. He gave up. that's where it got me :D
Hello guys,

Today I wanted to talk about the gift of absence and why you should give it to your EX.

A lot of times in life you will encounter people that won't value your presence, especially when you give too much of it to them. In case of an EX, if your EX dumped you it is clear that they don't want you in their life. Please don't bullshit me in the replies telling not to globalise, that not every case is the same and so on... You will be just bullshiting yourself, not me! When your EX dumps you it is because they did not want your presence. Period. If they did they wouldn't dump you. If they had really wanted you in their life they would have found a way to work it out and still be with you. They didn't so they dumped you! Accept that as a fact if you ever want to do the right thing and get them back!

Now that you have accepted it you can go on. A lot of times people will take you for granted especially if you are always around, no matter how bad od disrespectful they treat you. When you let people mistreat you you send out a vibe of desperation and lack of self-love. When you do, you Universe will just give you more of those situations where others will abuse you and make you feel miserable. When you let that go on for a longer period of time people will naturally have less respect for you because you frankly have no respect for yourself. If you did you would have stood up to them and make them treat you right.

In case of breakups, it is a common thing... One partner lets the other have his way with him, treat him like shit, disrespect him, make him miserable, let him go away and come as he pleases, and what happens eventually is that the other partner gets used to do whatever the hell he wants because he knows his actions have no consequences. Over time he loses respect for the other one and love fades away, he starts getting cold, distant and uninterested. And then the other starts screwing up even more. Instead of setting the foot down and standing up for himself, letting the other one know he is going to lose him forever if he doesn't change his behaviour, he starts chasing him even more, putting up with all the mistreating and disrespecting from the other one. And eventually all the love fades away and they get dumped for good.

I think many of you will find yourself in this little paragraph above. Now that you realised your mistakes it is time for you to fix them. What people do wrong after getting dumped is they start chasing. They blow up their EX's phone, spam their inbox with desperate messages, begging and pleading for them to take them back. And then they get even more insults and end up being hurt even more. They even get blocked and cut out of their EX's lifes for good.

NEVER CHASE AFTER BEING DUMPED!

As I said in my previous posts, The greatest gift you can give to someone is the gift of your time. Or we can also call it the gift of your pressence. You must value your own time if you want someone else to value it. Do you think your time is valuable? Do you really feel that your time is worth so much that other people should be extremely happy to spend even 30 minutes with you? I do. I personally think that my time is so valuable that even people that I talk to for one minute should spend all week being happy that I even talked to them. In fact I value my time so much that I rarely share it with anyone. I have a lot of people wanting to spend time with me, especially girls, but I don't spend time with them. In fact I am really picky about who I will share my time with. And guess what? Universe just gives me more people who value my time and who want to be with me. That is how Universe works. You value your time = others value your time, You don't = others don't too.


Now what you did wrong about your EX is that you made them not value your time or your presence. And chasing after the breakup will surely not change their minds! It only happens in movies. Guy gets dumped, he starts chasing his EX everywhere she goes, buys her tons of flowers, sings in front of her building, sends her desperate letters about how he loves her so much and she is the best thing that ever happened to him and after days or even months of chasing she helplessly understands that she loves him and that he is the best guy in the world. WRONG! It never works like that in real life, and NO, your EX is not the best thing that has happened to you. Someone who hurt you and stomped on your heart is far from the best thing that has happened to you. When someone stops valuing the gift of your presence you should give them the gift of your absence. Your EX clearly did so what you need to do is cut all contact. Do not reach out by any means. No birthday messages, no dead family member messages, no merry christmas messages, nothing. Complete silence!

When you do this, you will leave time and space for your EX to really think about their decision without your pressure. When they see that you are not reaching out for long time they will start thinking that maybe their decision was wrong and that you are not a doormat as they thought you were. When they do they will reach out to you I guarantee 100%. They will find an excuse to contact you. When they do just make sure you show them that the breakup didn't affect you and that you are good on your own. With that you will show them that they can't do whatever the fuck they want and get away with it. You will show them that if they decide not to value your presence again they will get your absence for the rest of their lifes. And that's when they will change their minds. It is in human nature not to value what he can easily have. Lets face it. In my county we don't value drinking water because we have a lot of it. It is almost free and every house has a foucet with drinking water. And we shower with it, we make water balloons with it and throw it at other people, we throw buckets of it on each other when we finish school. And in arab countries drinking water is expensive, they keep it only for drinking and they do not use it for anything else. That's the analogy I want to show you here. When you can have something easily you just won't value it.

So when you show your EX that they can't have you easily and that the only way for them to have you is if they treat you with love and respect that is when they will feel attracted to you again and want to be with you. But you will only make them realise this if you let them spend time without you, not the other way around.

Best of luck and have a nice day. :)

My ex broke up with me and just by texting and saying its over. We were fighting since last 3-4 weeks and then tens days ago he texted me those and did not give any reasoning. He said he does not feel the pull. I was devastated as I trusted him a lot.
Today after 8days of NC post break he texted wishing me for annual celebration. I was very happy and felt gratitude. I was thinking if I should reply. Then I saw this. I read this twice, thrice and I have chosen not to reply. I really want him back with a heart full of heart + an apology for what he did. I am not sure if  this is right thinking or I have taken the right step but by not replying but I am happy and I trust the universe. :)

Thank you so much for this post. Sometimes while loving others we forget our self worth. But if we don't value ourselves no one else will.

This is an amazing forum. Wish me luck.


If he initiated contact, I'd message him back "thank you so much". Don't respond instantly. Give him time to know you're busy. Don't be available. That's a big opening. Don't waste it making him think you aren't interested if you are.

If he initiated contact, I'd message him back "thank you so much". Don't respond instantly. Give him time to know you're busy. Don't be available. That's a big opening. Don't waste it making him think you aren't interested if you are.


Thank you :)
Well, I always used to do this. But this time my friend told me that he just want you to be around not as lover but as an option. I dont want to be an option. I want to be precious. So I thought I should not reply. Please advice.

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"Don't waste it making him think you aren't interested if you are." and this pretty much sums it up in my disaster situation with my ex...
How to fix the consequences of acting uninterested, although I was? Just did not want to show off being needy. He gave up. that's where it got me :D
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I am a beginner to RS etc I am looking to use it on someone I am actually already dating but I'd like more attention from and more commitment from. I'd also like more desire. He has a lower sex drive than I do and I would like it a lot more often. We are in fact seeing each other but he likes his space too much and he also pushes me away sometimes and has commitment issues. I'd like to see him a LOT more (several times per week would be very nice) and I'd like us to talk on a daily basis and for the connection between us stronger as well as the desire. We have a lot of passion between us but his drives lower than mine and I'd like to enhance that. I have just started trying RS today (not sure on other techniques other than RS?) but I struggle to see his face clearly, I can see an outline and his hair, I am not great at visualization, does this matter? Also I struggle to sit still longer then 5 minutes sometimes even that. Can you give me advice on this and on helpful techniques that work quite quickly? I also want him to text me as he can go a few days without texting sometimes longer when he wants his "space". I want him to text me on a daily basis of his own accord, to flirt with me, to tell me what I mean to him, to not get enough of me, to be sending me pictures of himself to me and for us to talk all of the time and to also have the sexual desire between us constantly.

I am willing to do as many RS or other techniques as needed to improve this situation and to bring us closer together and seeing each other a lot more and increase his sexual desire for me. Tips for those who struggle to visualise? Tips on how I can bring this about? Tips on very effective techniques? Tips on MP3's proven to work and effective? Anything at all? I am willing to do as many techniques multiple times per day as possible to bring this about. I do not want to text him first as I always do, I would like him to do all this on his own accord and change things for the better between us and bring us closer together. I would love to see him several times per week, what I got to do to help make this happen RS etc wise? What exercises have people used effectively? I am also going to be teaming all of this with LOA. Thank you!
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Hello guys,

Today I wanted to talk about the gift of absence and why you should give it to your EX.

A lot of times in life you will encounter people that won't value your presence, especially when you give too much of it to them. In case of an EX, if your EX dumped you it is clear that they don't want you in their life. Please don't bullshit me in the replies telling not to globalise, that not every case is the same and so on... You will be just bullshiting yourself, not me! When your EX dumps you it is because they did not want your presence. Period. If they did they wouldn't dump you. If they had really wanted you in their life they would have found a way to work it out and still be with you. They didn't so they dumped you! Accept that as a fact if you ever want to do the right thing and get them back!

Now that you have accepted it you can go on. A lot of times people will take you for granted especially if you are always around, no matter how bad od disrespectful they treat you. When you let people mistreat you you send out a vibe of desperation and lack of self-love. When you do, you Universe will just give you more of those situations where others will abuse you and make you feel miserable. When you let that go on for a longer period of time people will naturally have less respect for you because you frankly have no respect for yourself. If you did you would have stood up to them and make them treat you right.

In case of breakups, it is a common thing... One partner lets the other have his way with him, treat him like shit, disrespect him, make him miserable, let him go away and come as he pleases, and what happens eventually is that the other partner gets used to do whatever the hell he wants because he knows his actions have no consequences. Over time he loses respect for the other one and love fades away, he starts getting cold, distant and uninterested. And then the other starts screwing up even more. Instead of setting the foot down and standing up for himself, letting the other one know he is going to lose him forever if he doesn't change his behaviour, he starts chasing him even more, putting up with all the mistreating and disrespecting from the other one. And eventually all the love fades away and they get dumped for good.

I think many of you will find yourself in this little paragraph above. Now that you realised your mistakes it is time for you to fix them. What people do wrong after getting dumped is they start chasing. They blow up their EX's phone, spam their inbox with desperate messages, begging and pleading for them to take them back. And then they get even more insults and end up being hurt even more. They even get blocked and cut out of their EX's lifes for good.

NEVER CHASE AFTER BEING DUMPED!

As I said in my previous posts, The greatest gift you can give to someone is the gift of your time. Or we can also call it the gift of your pressence. You must value your own time if you want someone else to value it. Do you think your time is valuable? Do you really feel that your time is worth so much that other people should be extremely happy to spend even 30 minutes with you? I do. I personally think that my time is so valuable that even people that I talk to for one minute should spend all week being happy that I even talked to them. In fact I value my time so much that I rarely share it with anyone. I have a lot of people wanting to spend time with me, especially girls, but I don't spend time with them. In fact I am really picky about who I will share my time with. And guess what? Universe just gives me more people who value my time and who want to be with me. That is how Universe works. You value your time = others value your time, You don't = others don't too.


Now what you did wrong about your EX is that you made them not value your time or your presence. And chasing after the breakup will surely not change their minds! It only happens in movies. Guy gets dumped, he starts chasing his EX everywhere she goes, buys her tons of flowers, sings in front of her building, sends her desperate letters about how he loves her so much and she is the best thing that ever happened to him and after days or even months of chasing she helplessly understands that she loves him and that he is the best guy in the world. WRONG! It never works like that in real life, and NO, your EX is not the best thing that has happened to you. Someone who hurt you and stomped on your heart is far from the best thing that has happened to you. When someone stops valuing the gift of your presence you should give them the gift of your absence. Your EX clearly did so what you need to do is cut all contact. Do not reach out by any means. No birthday messages, no dead family member messages, no merry christmas messages, nothing. Complete silence!

When you do this, you will leave time and space for your EX to really think about their decision without your pressure. When they see that you are not reaching out for long time they will start thinking that maybe their decision was wrong and that you are not a doormat as they thought you were. When they do they will reach out to you I guarantee 100%. They will find an excuse to contact you. When they do just make sure you show them that the breakup didn't affect you and that you are good on your own. With that you will show them that they can't do whatever the fuck they want and get away with it. You will show them that if they decide not to value your presence again they will get your absence for the rest of their lifes. And that's when they will change their minds. It is in human nature not to value what he can easily have. Lets face it. In my county we don't value drinking water because we have a lot of it. It is almost free and every house has a foucet with drinking water. And we shower with it, we make water balloons with it and throw it at other people, we throw buckets of it on each other when we finish school. And in arab countries drinking water is expensive, they keep it only for drinking and they do not use it for anything else. That's the analogy I want to show you here. When you can have something easily you just won't value it.

So when you show your EX that they can't have you easily and that the only way for them to have you is if they treat you with love and respect that is when they will feel attracted to you again and want to be with you. But you will only make them realise this if you let them spend time without you, not the other way around.

Best of luck and have a nice day. :)

My ex broke up with me and just by texting and saying its over. We were fighting since last 3-4 weeks and then tens days ago he texted me those and did not give any reasoning. He said he does not feel the pull. I was devastated as I trusted him a lot.
Today after 8days of NC post break he texted wishing me for annual celebration. I was very happy and felt gratitude. I was thinking if I should reply. Then I saw this. I read this twice, thrice and I have chosen not to reply. I really want him back with a heart full of heart + an apology for what he did. I am not sure if  this is right thinking or I have taken the right step but by not replying but I am happy and I trust the universe. :)

Thank you so much for this post. Sometimes while loving others we forget our self worth. But if we don't value ourselves no one else will.

This is an amazing forum. Wish me luck.


If he initiated contact, I'd message him back "thank you so much". Don't respond instantly. Give him time to know you're busy. Don't be available. That's a big opening. Don't waste it making him think you aren't interested if you are.
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Success Stories / Re: RS on random person for a test
« Last post by siamesegirl on Today at 06:28:22 PM »
Thats why it worked. If second person not know you, RS won't work

Not true necessarily. If the other person doesn't know you, when you meet them in person they will feel recognition.
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Remote Seduction / Influence / Re: Will RS work in this situation?
« Last post by siamesegirl on Today at 06:27:38 PM »
Why checking someone's profile means "desperation"? If you put hot guy on picture and check her profile 1000 times, this won't mean desperation...

>to fix you.
Fix what? Why you decide my goals? I want seduce her, not relationships that will "fix me" 

>But it's not fun, it's creepy
It's only your personal opinion. Stop judging me for what i want.

>We all want to experience love
>What is the point of sleeping with someone
I'm not a woman. We guys think different. Thats why femenism happened. Because this is man's nature to want sex over relationships. Thats why we want to sleep on 1st date. That's why we cheating. Thats why we have lovers when our wife's can't give us sex when we want it.

>If you don't love that person, the relationship will create a heartbreak for one or for both. Not a desired outcome.
I don't care about heartbreak for her. No one cares here. Every day you see threads "how attract married man?" or "how to seduce my friend's wife". So all of these people i'm bad one? They're better than me?
Atleast my girl is single and i will marry her, while these people want to just seduce someone.

I don't think this is the place for you. You seriously need to grow up. Look at this:

I'm not a woman. We guys think different. Thats why femenism happened. Because this is man's nature to want sex over relationships. Thats why we want to sleep on 1st date. That's why we cheating. Thats why we have lovers when our wife's can't give us sex when we want it.

Stop generalising about what men want. Not all of them want what you want.

And you say you don't know anyone in real life? What are you, a hermit? Don't you have a job or go to college/university? You must meet people in real life.

Good luck with finding hook ups on line if that is what you want. What is "creepy" is defined by the recipient, so if you send messages that are unpleasantly received, that is for them to decide if it is creepy or not.

If someone has the time to check someone's profile 1000 times they have too much time on their hands and need a real life!


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Success Stories / Re: RS on random person for a test
« Last post by Lucky7s on Today at 06:09:57 PM »
"We already were familiar with each other so none was afraid to say "hi", do some small talk etc. "

Thats why it worked. If second person not know you, RS won't work
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