Why do i feel like this?

[vageesha]

oky! so after so much of trying and doing things and trying a whole lot of things it came down to that i have to deal with my limitting belifes and i had so much of it building up inside me one after another i did try EFT! once i did it i felt very uncomfortable  and limitting belifes were taking control of me i was falling into the state of depression again that is when suddnly something hit me!

As one of our PLOA members BELLE told me i went online and searched up for a away to solve out my limiting belifes i read that ad i build my own way!
i wrote down my intenstion, my desire.
and i wrote down what limitting belifes i have bout it and all of it
then wrote down why i have those belifes
then i flipped all of the limiting belifes into positive statements
i wrote down reasons why i want this desire
and i wrote down all my bf's good characteristics that i love him about
then i state all the positive statemnets i wrote as intenstions using very powerful words like I intend to have..........I choose to attract..........Or I now have.......... then at last i flipped all of my remaining limiting belifes into positive statements.
after this excersise i wrote a whole liste of people that i hated or dodnt like or that i didnt appriciate there selfs towards me with saying I FORGIVE YOU FOR......then i turned around all those i forgive you statemnets into I Love you becouse and all those peoples good thoughts they have for me or what i loved about them.

Doing all this really changed me now i find myself lacking limiting belifes or they come and go within few minutes and don't bother me as much! Also i find my mind trying to find new limitting belifes towards my desires.

BUT..what bothers me the most right now is that i have both very high happy feelings and very low Doudts often back and forth back and forth kind of like there Balanced or something. And i find myself easily visulizing and feeling happy that his with me often very strongly  and the third person of my love stroy don't matter to me anymore. i wanna know why i feel like this? and it comes down to that it don't mater to me if my bf talks to me or not! and i find myself forgetting him at times. 

[judasentinel]

Lucky you, vageesha!! Keep it up.

A lot of us are still struggling with letting go and if what Bele told you helped you, I think Im going to give it a shot too.

[Love<3]

So happy for you V.!!!
You are definitly my inspiration:)

Hope you get the other things sorted out:)

Chris.

[schenderson22]

Vageesha, like many you came her searching for a way to feel better.  Many think it's to get their loved one back b/c they feel without their loved one they cannot be happy.  You are learning how to be happy being single.  Many feel that being single means being alone.  That isn't the case.  I was single for ten years but never alone.  In the beginning of my relationship, I couldn't have felt more alone.  You came here to feel better.  You are learning how to feel better.  You ARE making progress.  Remember to focus on the end result.  If you need more help with EFT you may want to look into www.thetappingsolution.com  It has really helped me to understand how limiting beliefs are just an energy block.  Once you work them you will be okay. 

Let me know how I can be of more help.   

[vageesha]

thnku! Juda  thnku Chris   thnku! schenderson so it looks like im doing good huh? yes! SCHENDERSON i am tryig to visluize the end results and i am doing it pretty well iam keeping greatful n positive well i ask to be positive! so i am and i am crushes on new people  i will give EFT a try again thnku very much SCHENDERSON!

[Era]

Hey there!!
You can have what you want just by feeling good and happy. Isn’t that great? This is one of the key principles of manifesting our desires. When we feel good, we attract good. Like attracts like. That’s the way of the law of attraction.
Have a good one!

[BELE]

vageesha: Nice to hear you are doing better. Your situation seems to be rather similar to mine. I have a long document in my computer with a long list of reversed statements regarding how I want my life to be (instead) in several different areas. I mostly feel great and when some negative feelings surface from my subconscious I do as I always did, I just watch them as objects and sometimes also dive into them to experience and explore them to their full extent before I let go.
 
My problem has always been THE ART OF RECEIVING. I have had so many wonderful opportunities in my life (and they keep coming); a long line of wonderful women, several great career opportunities and others, but I blow most of them by my inability to receive. They kind of made me nervous and inactive. The women decided I wasn’t interested and moved on. The career opportunities were offered to somebody who appeared more interested. And so on. Not that the life I am living isn’t great, but looking back on my life this far, I certainly shouldn’t have been this lazy. Although I have done a lot, I could have accomplished a lot more than I did.

[BELE]

vageesha: Oops! I suppose that wasn't as clear as I thought it would be. One more try! What I mean is that you have arrived in a situation where you are no longer tied up by limiting beliefs as before and therefore are free to want and attract whatever your heart truly desire. When limiting beliefs surface, you can easily experience them and the connected feelings to their full extent and then let go of them. If they tend to stay longer, just focus on them as objects and if they still don't go away, dive into them as a child to be sure to experience them to their full extent before you relax and let go. Don’t get depressed if some bigger upcoming issues would kick you out of balance for a while. You will get back to a blissful state when you have dealt with them. This process tends to go in cycles. As least this is how it works – and has worked for several years – for me.

[vageesha]

ERA thnku very much!    it feels great! when you said that! i love it thnku! BELLE omg! this is the first time i ever heard you say this things did you see what i did? writing down limiting belifes thing? try it out! if you like and see what it does to you ok? it changed me! a whole lot! than i thought and be greatful everytime! i am not expecting everyhting to go well...so right now i am trying to be happy myself and let it all happen if it happens and i find myself in love with this guy it makes me happy and gives me more hope and faith cuz then i can easily live mylife and not think anyhting bout my bf! im very greatful to that guy! 

[BELE]

vageesha: What I did was very similar, but not exactly the same. First I wrote down all things and aspects of things I was not totally satisfied with in my life. Then I turned all the statements around to what I wanted instead and rewrote them as if they were already true. Finally I changed them to statements of gratitude; mostly “I am so happy and grateful because…”. I will try to find time to do it with my limiting belief too. Basically, I only have one that is shadowing my life right now. The problem with this one is, it’s actually true in probably 99 % of all cases. So, I just need to convince myself my case belongs to the remaining 1 %.
 
Maybe I should more clearly have answered your initial question. The thing is, when you are free of your limiting beliefs you are no longer obsessed by your former boyfriend. The limiting beliefs are also no longer at the helm of you boat. You are! This doesn’t only mean that you can take command to steer and navigate your boat wherever you want. You are at the helm whether you want it or not! This means that you can also – or may accidentally! – rock your boat! When you think negative thoughts, the response is stronger and more immediate than ever. This is most likely why you experience “very high happy feelings and very low Doubts often back and forth back and forth” – just like a rocking boat ehh! So, now you should really take care to follow Ankur Sanchetis advice and "Attract Carefully, In case, It becomes a Reality"!

[vageesha]

I think your right BELLE i have to becareful i am thinking of doing another limitting belifes solution thing! and clear what is left inside of me! i will pull the rest out! Since it feels like im 50/50 positive n Dodts i will make it more positive!

i have another question .... you guys! i have feelings and is loving sombody else right now! this person knows my whole situation n his PLOA member as well  we both have the same goal juz like all of us do..so when you love somebody else and feel good and still do visulize my bf with me and end results does this or not send him any kind of sign?

2nd Question ...... it says it depends on if he wants or not right? idk if he wants or not..so if he don't want he won't come back right? this makes me a bit down.. but i will teach myself to deal with it HE comes bak or not ill live a happy life? 

[schenderson22]

If I understand your first question you are asking if you love someone right now is it counter productive to bring someone back to you?  If that is the case, if you are happy and in love, why would you want to bring someone else back to you?

To answer your second question, we all have free will.  However, if you find the one you love who has left has EVERY characteristic you desire in someone, you can bring them back.  If you find that person is lacking some characteristics then you are getting your desire.  The Universe will never give you less than what you desire.  Am I correct on my assessment?

[loveofabundance]

just remember schenderson, your man is divorced with kids, which is "less" than what you asked for and you're perfectly happy with him!  just because someone doesn't have every quality on the list doesn't mean they're not the right one for you.  Sometimes it's an opportunity to realise what's important on the list and what is negotable!

[vageesha]

schenderson22 i understand what u are saying i see so that how it goes! and nono! yes i love that guy but we are both attarcting our exes back we do it so that we can forget and be happy and not feel lonely or miss our exes u see?

there are some charactics of my bf that i don't want well... i can fix them right?

[schenderson22]

It is very counter productive to be with someone and attract your ex at the same time.  You attracted someone who thinks like you.  Believes in LOA etc.  He is now in your life and both of you need to forgive yourselves and the ex's and move forward.

there are some characteristics of my bf that i don't want well... i can fix them right?

The answer is "yes".  The way you do that is to be grateful for the opposite behavior.  My bf used to drink too much, have zero patience with his kids and a short fuse.  Instead of fighting with him, I would start saying to myself "I am grateful for his sobriety, high level of patience and love of life".  Don't get me wrong, the Universe put in motion "events" to change his behavior which seemed kind of traumatic at the time.  However, now he is a loving, patient, and sober individual.  I couldn't be more grateful for the changes he has made in his life.  I am grateful that he has finally figured out how to be happy on his own.  We have a very blessed life.