This is really hard

[dj9928]

I've been negative all my life, its my natural way of thinking I guess, I don't even have to think it comes natural to me so trying to change my thoughts to postive and focus on positive is really draining, its like trying to learn another language almost, anyone else get this? I find during the day I always slip back to old ways, its a constant battle.

[dj9928]

I am not giving up on this, just hope it gets easier

[JustForToday]

I've been negative all my life, its my natural way of thinking I guess, I don't even have to think it comes natural to me so trying to change my thoughts to postive and focus on positive is really draining, its like trying to learn another language almost, anyone else get this? I find during the day I always slip back to old ways, its a constant battle.

oh, i didnt want to "thank you" that....

youre not alone, i lived my whole life only being negative too and i struggle too each day. but everyone is able to learn and so is your subconscious. you trained it to be negative and now you have to teach it to be positive. its just matter of re- thinking, time and practise.

we have only 2 choices-
either continue living like that and attracting bad things
or
changing our mindstate, even when its hard at first, but then attracting good things into our lifes---- i choose the last version.
it is hard but once you get use to it (as well as you got used to think negative)
you will have a happy life.
 

[Maverick]

Alright dj9928

Everyone has to go through this process...
Nothing comes easy, it takes much practice.

I used to be all negative person. But I came over with that. I agree our situations are different. But let me tell you mine was worst.
Now I won't get into that, as I really hate to remind about those things.

Once I came across this quote somewhere

Its so hard when I have to, and its so easy when I want to

It was like an eye opener for me. I used to try a lot to stay positive,  But that did not help. One day I had a nervous break down. I was so mad that I made up my mind that I will improve my life, NO MATTER WHAT.

I will tell you what I did and what worked for me.
Being a negative minded person I was scared of doing most of the things. And not doing things, not getting involved in something increases negativity.
We do something when we are positive about it, but we try to avoid doing something when we are negative. But you don't get positivity unless you work on negativity. Its the vicious cycle.

To get over with this, I did all this things that I was deathly afraid of doing. Thats the only way you can be positive QUICKLY.

Reasons?
1) When you get out of your comfort zone, you figure out certain awesome qualities about yourself.
2) If you keep pushing your comfort zone, then there comes a time when you don't really care what others think.
3) You start loving yourself because you find yourself doing the things that most of the people dream to do.

When you do the things that you are deathly scared of doing, you get to know about your awesome side.

So, find some relaxing place. Think about yourself. List down all the fears you have on a piece of paper. (Even if you are scared to see cockroach, list it).
Next, push yourself into that situation. And keep pushing it until you are no more scared. Thats how it works around.

P.S. - This post is relevant only if you want to replace your negativity with positivity. This does not directly help you into manifesting. But you can think of this as catalyst. This method helps you gain positivity and positivity is all you need to apply LOA properly.

[dj9928]

Great post Maverick

[Shrikanya]

You di say that it is like learning a new language. So how long you will take to learn a new language? To change your thoughts positive will take equal amount of time and using the language makes you learn quicker.

[dj9928]

You di say that it is like learning a new language. So how long you will take to learn a new language? To change your thoughts positive will take equal amount of time and using the language makes you learn quicker.

Took me 5 years of school to learn French and I'm still not fluent

[tereza]

To get over with this, I did all this things that I was deathly afraid of doing. Thats the only way you can be positive QUICKLY.

Reasons?
1) When you get out of your comfort zone, you figure out certain awesome qualities about yourself.
2) If you keep pushing your comfort zone, then there comes a time when you don't really care what others think.
3) You start loving yourself because you find yourself doing the things that most of the people dream to do.

Getting out of my comfort zone is something that I've started practicing in my life a few years ago, though not to quite as much an extreme. If you are deathly afraid of doing something, then there might be a good reason for that. I think it really depends on what you're doing and in general you shouldn't do anything that might be dangerous or put yourself in a potentially bad position. If you're going to take risks, at least make sure you've got a back up plan.

Aside from that, I find that getting outside of my comfort zone by doing things that I normally wouldn't do or didn't think I could do, like talking to people while waiting on line, parallel parking or traveling alone...gives me confidence and that makes me feel really good. It also shows me that I can handle life and even if stuff doesn't go exactly as planned, I know how to bounce back. If you're interested in that sort of self-improvement stuff, I recommend reading the 7 habits of highly effective people, by Stephen Covey. It's a bit wordy and will take quite a bit of re-reading but...I didn't even finish the entire book and it still managed to be a life-changing book for me.

Anyway, as for thinking positive. It's like exercise. At first it really sucks and there will be days where you're like...screw it and just don't even try. But eventually, it gets easier and starts to feel normal for you. I don't know if it's possible to be happy 24/7, I kind of think there needs to be some lows in order to appreciate the highs. So I wouldn't be so hard on yourself if there are times where you're not feeling positive about things.

Oh and you can't get fluent in another language just by learning in school. You have to actually go out and use it in real life frequently. Kind of like driving a car. You can read about how to drive and mentally know how it's supposed to work, but it's not the same as actually driving a car.

[57angel]

When you say that this is really hard, it is like accepting and believing that it is indeed so hard, therefore you are given manifestations that will support to that belief. Commit to yourself that you will get to positivity, to happiness and to peace no matter what happens. Have an inventory of what your heart so desires, and the beliefs associated with that. If there are beliefs that don't support to your desires, acknowledge them and let them go! You don't deserve to keep negative feelings and beliefs! You aren't here to be punished, rather, you are here in this physical world to be happy and to spread love and inspirations

[dj9928]

Thanks guys, I see this is something I am going to have to work on hourly, I'll look at it like I did when I gave up smoking, I said to myself right I'm not gonna smoke for the next hour, and if I do its no big deal, I never smoked.  I'm gonna think positively for the next hour..

[onlyhappiness]

Just take it 1 day ( or hour ) at a time

[JustForToday]

Thanks guys, I see this is something I am going to have to work on hourly, I'll look at it like I did when I gave up smoking, I said to myself right I'm not gonna smoke for the next hour, and if I do its no big deal, I never smoked.  I'm gonna think positively for the next hour..

thats a good idea-
just reminded me on when i went to visit a drug addiction group with an old friend- they said "JUST FOR TODAY" and i liked it really much....
so maybe try this one instead of "JUST FOR AN HOUR" lol

[DreamCatcher]

I've been negative all my life, its my natural way of thinking I guess, I don't even have to think it comes natural to me so trying to change my thoughts to postive and focus on positive is really draining, its like trying to learn another language almost, anyone else get this? I find during the day I always slip back to old ways, its a constant battle.

Exactly. It's like learning to climb the rope and learning to swim. It's hard at the beginning and then things will get easier and easier.
At some point suddenly you see how much progress you made.
Here's fun part: you may even try change your emotions directly to positive ones without scrambling for positive thoughts
http://www.powerlawofattraction.com/forum/how-to-use-law-of-attraction-12/unintentional-manifestation-6481/
Positive thought is very "relative". When you're getting out of state of helpless depression into the state of anger - this is actually "positive" move, although most others would tell you - this is not.
If you'd learn to jump into your emotions directly and then conjure supporting thoughts - this may work faster for you.

Gleb

[beautifulmesss12sc]

I remember when i first started this ... i was like it was draingi me as well
so i just started by smiling alot to everyone i saw... some ppl smiled back some did not but i didnt let it get to me ... then i wld say ty to ppl that helped me or served me (cashier, banker, whatever) with alot of sincerity and id say ty im so grateful ty

and when i find myself getting into those negative beliefs like geesh how can i nchange this situation ... i just know how important it is to me to cvhange it ... oh boy do i ahve my days where i just want to shuty my brain off...and when im busy its not as hard.. so if i have a quiet day i come to these bords and read and i think of ppl and things i love ... still hard sometimes and some days i dont succeed ... but all u can do is practice .. or as they say "fake it til you make it"