Thinking about THEIR exes and other "rivals"

[TeletubbieJellyPie]

I noticed that in my thoughts about my non-commited long distance girlfriend, one of the most frequent images that gives me negative feelings is when I imagine her thinking about other guys or her ex-boyfriends, ex-lovers, etc.

And the manifestation had its effects. In fact I started looking at her public internet profile (Facebook) out of desperation and found old photos of her kissing some exboyfriend, whom I also personally know, and whom she still often talks with. Which made me feel even much worse since I read an exchange of messages between them as well...

My most basic fear is, obviously, loosing her, but if I have to be specific, I think the best way I can loose her is to some other guy...

Could you give me any suggestions on how to transform this?
How do I remove the other guys from my thoughts/manifestations?

[Galina Shibileva]

Hi!

Have a look here: http://www.powerlawofattraction.com/forum/6/bible-of-getting-your-ex-back-dns-post/msg1970/#msg1970

[TeletubbieJellyPie]

But we didn't break up!! 
I hope it never happens. Won't I manifest such an event if I read these break up guides??

[Galina Shibileva]

I think that how we feel is a choice we make for ourselves.... so in your situation is the same according to me... It's always a choice to have those thoughts or not.

You are getting paranoïd of loosing her and this sends negative vibes, I think you already understood that. But your thoughts you choose them...

About this article I adviced you, I suggest you to take the "big" lines that explain actually what to do or not to do so you can stay a desired person and so your partner be interested only in you... Ignore the "ex" thing.. I already posted a reply in this article and so here's the copy - just to know what makes the other to be attracted by you... You may find something usefull...


I would like to draw your attention to those I found particularly good and true :

1.People are attracted to lovers who are self-confident, who know themselves, who are independent, strong-minded, and FUN! When you're sitting around moping over your ex, you're not having any fun!!

2.So, improve yourself. Work on yourself. Love yourself! This is what attracts him or her back to you! People have natural chemistries. You and your ex obviously possessed a natural chemistry. It doesn't matter how far apart you keep sodium (Na) from chloride (Cl) the instant they are close enough to each other, they WILL form salt (NaCl), period! Same for you and your ex if you get back on track. So make it about you starting NOW!

3.When other women show interest in you, it sends a strong biological signal to your ex that you are desirable to other women. She’ll wonder if something about you is new.

4.See, one thing I've seen on this board and boards like them, is that too many people here are trying to micro-manage, control, or over-analyze the process. In some other arena, it would be the use of manipulation

5.Someone perfectly using the Law would be happy, and expectant. They would move on with their life with no concern that their former lover would eventually return

6.UGLY TRUTH 3: When you want an ex back, what you are saying is "I don't want to be responsible for my own happiness. It is too hard and difficult for me to do. So, please, can you just do this job for me by being my lover again? Can you please be the god of my life? Because I don't want to do it myself."

7.THEY HAVE GIVEN THEIR POWER, WILL, OR INDEPENDENCE TO THEIR EXES Since your power BELONGS TO YOUR EX, the Law respects THEIR WISH and not yours on the matter!

9.Silence creates mystery.

[TeletubbieJellyPie]

Thank you Galina! I understand now

Regarding Point 3. "When other women show interest in you, ..."
Well, I actually spent a lot of time AVOIDING things that might attract other women because I remember that at the very beginning of the relationship, she reacted in a very jealous way when other women came to me. Even if I just spoke about another woman, I remember she looked away and her eyes were full of tears!

Since that event I stopped talking to other women who could be interested in me.
Don't you think it is possible that this kind of jealousy will feed her insecurities even more?

I'm not a woman, but when I see other guys taking interest in my girlfriend my instinct is to feel lost and depressed... and be more reluctant to show her that I love her. What if she feels the same way?

[Galina Shibileva]

I dont think the author here ment that you need to go out and hang out with other women, but I understand it more like take care of yourself and look sexy and attractive, talk to other women...and dont be closed... You don't need to flirt with them...


What about your insecurities??? She is the one talking to exes and putting pictures? Why don't you ask her??

[TeletubbieJellyPie]

...but I understand it more like take care of yourself and look sexy and attractive, talk to other women...and dont be closed... You don't need to flirt with them...

Isn't that a bit like seduction?

What about your insecurities??? She is the one talking to exes and putting pictures? Why don't you ask her??

Because I don't want my insecurities to become truth through manifestation?