Something I just want to make clear, partly because it makes so much sense to me but also because it may help other people.
What you want doesn't matter. It's what you believe that matters.
That's my biggest realisation. Yes, I want my ex back. But I have to work on my beliefs which surround that desire because they're not (currently) supportive.
It's been said that if you write down your beliefs, you write down the story of your life; sure, there are missing specifics but the fundamentals of what we believe are what show up in our life time and time again. I could write 5 statements about myself, for example, and all 5 of those could be found reflected in my world.
Ask yourself about your desire; does it feel good? Positive? Easy? Even neutral? Then, it's on its way. Any other feeling - doubt, fear, anxiety - means you need to work on your beliefs.
I've noticed a lot of negativity on here of late; that's fine, it's a journey, it's to be expected, but belief can be equated to trust and if we're not trusting, if we're not letting go of the edge of the swimming pool and venturing out towards deeper waters, then we might as well give up and go home.
Belief - okay, so not necessarily in a fervent, religious sense. I'm a carpy, cynical Brit with a dry sense of humour and a positively ambivalent attitude towards organised religion. But belief can be quiet, assumed, no big dramas either way.
I had the most insane manifestation today; I'm not going to go into details, but it was the craziest, most incongruous thing you could ever imagine. And after it had happened, I sat there and figured that this 'thing' that I'd manifested was something which I believed could happen, something I'd seen myself in before - a visualisation, I suppose. Now, this hadn't been anything terrifically well-rehearsed, nor diligent, but it was something around which I had no blocks. It was a good thing that I didn't question the 'how' surrounding it either, or I would have been absolutely felled by 'how' it came about. But I had no blocks. Doesn't mean I had a welcoming parade, dancing girls and flashing lights either. Sometimes, I think people believe that belief is something massive. A lot of the time it's not. It's just....not having drama or doubt or fear around it.
I hope this has helped someone - just remember; it's not about what you want, it's about what you believe
Tins