Changing Beliefs

[Baklavaaa]

Hey all! I've learned that limiting beliefs can be a source of resistance for manifestation, and that the only remedy is to change them.

I've heard from some people you can't change your beliefs, or that it takes years and years to finally change them. Is this true? I've heard from other sources that you can change your beliefs immediately. All you have to do is chose them or let go of all the core beliefs behind them?

Is it supposed to take years to rid yourself of limiting beliefs, insecurities and fears? Or can you really change them quickly if you're willing to let go?

[Ginny]

I think some beliefs you can change instantaneously, whereas others are more tenacious. Particularly difficult are the beliefs that you don't even know you have (people are very complicated and contradictory sometimes - they think they think one thing when in fact they think another)

I've seen an example on this board recently (to give an example what I'm talking about). Someone posted asking why all this negative stuff happens to them when all they ever do is think positively. But they've posted reams and reams about how crap their life is, how everyone is out to get them, and it's all so unfair and they can't do anything about it. They think they are being positive, but obviously they aren't. That kind of thing happens more frequently in the human brain than you think. The girlfriend who says, "of course I trust him" while snooping through her boyfriend's texts, or the person who affirms that they love and value themselves while putting up with an abusive relationship.

People are very complicated

[lise]

I agree with Ginny. I think they're a lot easier to change if you're aware you have them to begin with and sometimes even when you recognise you must have them because you're not attracting what you want eg money it can be difficult to trace where that belief comes from. I know for some people recognising they have it can be enough to change it. For me, I prefer to think where has that come from, what led me to think that way consciously or unconsciously? and then find a way to change it.

If you can find where it comes from and generally it's a series of experiences that created attitudes about a topic whether that's money, relationships, work etc I've found the Morty Lefkoe info pretty useful in changing them. What he does is basically get you to look at those events again and say whilst it's understandable you made connections based on that experience at that time, are there alternatives ways of looking at it now that can lead to changes in thoughts in the long term.

Most events are just events it's us who add interpretation to them. Eg being offered a part time job is an event. If you've been unemployed for a long time that event might be interpreted as a wonderful positive thing. If you currently work full time and were hoping for a promotion being offered part time work might be interpreted as a negative. When similar things happen in relation to work etc, you may then begin to have limiting beliefs about your ability to earn money or compete in the work place. This might be viewed differently in retrospect.