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At Christmastime a few years ago, I was giving out Christmas gifts to
friends. At the local bar (which I made a beeline for every Friday
and/or Saturday) I made friends with some of the regulars, including a young
woman -- the sister of the female bartender (do people say 'barmaid'
anymore?) -- who was always there in the bar every weekend.
I wasn't THAT close with the sister, but wanted to give her a little
something, so I gave her a copy of a little book by Stuart Wilde
That little book, in case you haven't read it, is about how with your
attention you bring into your world what you desire, and how to do so
deliberately. (You can find it at or through any Barnes and
Noble/Borders bookstore, or online.)
I thought anyone with a desire would enjoy that little book, and
wished her a Merry Christmas.
Fast forward three months.
I visited the bar, and the Bartender was busy. She shouted to me
over the noise, "My sister had an amazing experience with that little book you
Now I was curious. I hadn't mentioned to her that I gave her sister
that book, so what happened that made her mention it?
The bartender was extremely busy, but finally when there was a lull
she came back to my end of the bar and told me what happened.
Her sister wanted to get together with a singer in the Irish band
that plays in the bar. She had seen him and spoken with him but they had never
connected. She REALLY wanted this guy.
So she intended, using the principles in the book, to have a
relationship with THAT man. She imagined the two of them together. After a short
time of her picturing the two of them together, they happened to talk and go
on a date.
They slept together and she became pregnant.
However, she was also with another man that same week and so was not
sure whether the baby was the singer's (the man she really wanted) or the
She told the singer that she was pregnant. She also told the singer
that she slept with another man in the same week and was not sure who the
The singer's reply? He proposed marriage! He didn't care who the
father was, he said, but only wanted to marry her and raise a family together
This was what she wanted, what she pictured and what happened.
Astonishingly, within a couple of MONTHS.
I had always believed, and in fact still do, that Infinite
Intelligence (in whatever way you imagine it) is a LOT better at matchmaking than I
am, so despite this story I would be careful to not specify the person. I
might instead say "THIS person or someone even more wonderful for me."
For two reasons:
1. God (Infinite Intelligence) might have happier plans for you than
you have imagined. (Haven't you been wildly infatuated with someone and then
months later wondered what all the fuss was about?)
2. That person you are intending marriage with may actually be
wanting someone else! (On the other hand, maybe they want YOU!)
Scott Adams, the creator of the famous cartoon (and television show)
Dilbert, mentioned in a magazine interview how he'd gotten results from
affirmations. A friend of his told him about the concept of affirmations, and said
you need only write down your intention 15 times a day, no faith or belief
necessary, and results would happen. Scott decided to test this notion.
His intention was a relationship with a certain someone, so he wrote
down his affirmation 15 times a day for a couple of weeks and the results
happened exactly as he wanted.
He later used affirmations in exactly the same way to score a 94 on
his GRE, create the best-selling cartoon on the planet, and to resolve a
medical challenge, among other things.
So I wrote to Scott and asked him about his first affirmation
experiment: "When you were affirming a relationship, did you specify the PERSON
(as in, 'I now have a wonderful romantic relationship with Sally from the
accounting department') or did you only specify the KIND of person (as in, 'I
now have a mutually wonderful relationship with a woman just like Sally from the
His brief reply was that he specified the woman.
(By the way, Scott has a unique way of writing his affirmations,
which I'll get into in a future issue of this newsletter.)
-------This issue's Do-It-Yourself experiment---------
Write down what you really want in your world.
Write it down as if you have it now. ("I now am...", "I now have..."
I now joyfully earn $1,000 or more each week as a successful _______.
I now have a mutually delightful, enriching, romantic relationship
with ____ or someone even more wonderful for me.
I now weigh ____ pounds, overflowing with energy, and everything that
I eat turns to health and beauty.
(Note: These are only examples.)
When you wake up in the morning, FIRST THING, read your list aloud.
In the middle of the day, read the statements again.
At night, LAST THING before going to sleep, read the statements
Maintain a sense of joyful expectancy that your results are on their
way. This will be easier and easier the more you do the above steps.
Stuart Wilde uses the analogy that the Universal Law is as impersonal
in delivering results as a shipping clerk in a mail order company. You
receive according to your thoughts, beliefs and desires, and your request is
sent to you according to those alone.
If you are skeptical, decide to test this notion personally for a
certain period of time and watch what happens. (For more details on this
process, pick up a copy of Stuart Wilde's book, "Miracles.")
I do recommend that you include along with your affirmations some
that are related to self-esteem, that way you will feel like you are allowed
to have whatever it is you are desiring.
I am a little embarrassed to admit this, but I have had
extraordinarily good results that I have completely undone merely by not having enough
self-esteem to maintain the success. (For instance, earning $1,000 a day in
income, without the accompanying thought "I deserve to be wealthy and
prosperous" did a lot to make that income very short-lived.) So be sure to include
the fact that you're worth it. (You are, by the way!)
Have fun exploring, and best wishes to you.
p.s. In case you haven't heard...
A man had gone to heaven and was being escorted by his Guardian Angel
on a tour, and was brought to that part of heaven where prayers are
answered. There in this HUGE room was a stack of beautiful gifts, from floor to
ceiling, a mile high. A parade of Angels was picking things up and
bringing them down to Earth, responding to sincere prayers from all over the
world. The man noticed that over in the corner there were much bigger,
fancier, more beautiful items, far more luxurious than the rest of the things in
the huge room, but none of them were being delivered to Earth. "Why aren't the
Angels bringing any of those items down to Earth?" the man asked.
"Oh," said his Gurdian Angel. "Nobody ever asks for those."
going to try that as well, trying each tool will help us to find the best for us