Good habits to keep a negative day from ruining your mind?

[BluesMan]

I am new, and my name is Shay and I am 22 years old.

Ever since I got arrested for a 2nd DUI I just came across this stuff out of nowhere. I've been sober for 22 days, but that is not exactly right after I been in jail. Ever since I have been staying strong and staying dry I always seem to find at least one good reason to think positive and it's the number of days I have been sober. With that being said, I have been trying to apply the LOA for the past tow weeks, I am reading "The Secret" now, and I have read two other books "Instruction Manual To Life" by Joe Vitale and "Power Of Positive Thinking" by norman vincent peale. I have requested more books from the library, but that's another story.

Anyways, today was pretty bad in my eyes. I woke up ready and full of fluids and food prepared to donate blood and make my appointment on time at the DMV. However, when I got there, I did see the truck,  but there was a huge line that lead outside of the dmv building to the quart yard, living in Vegas I assumed I wasn't the only one wanting to donate blood. Today was windy, a little cold, and people were oh so quiet, all I kept thinking about is  how long I have been standing outside, the wind blowing my hair all over the place, am I gonna be late for my appointment, and it just went on from there.

Anyways once I got inside, they had workers of the DMV give away clip boards to fill out registration or other info for identification and licenses. I for one was already beginning to feel stupid because I already felt the vibe I wasted an entire hour outside waiting for nothing. When one of the workers approached me asked about registration, then it spiraled from there. I told her I was here for blood, and boom I already knew it was going to be embarrassing when I spoke about it, but I did it anyway because I spent time and frustration outside, then I was told I could've just go into the truck the entire time, THERE WAS NO LINE.

Once I started walking to the truck/bus sized vehicle I went ahead and thought of the benefits of giving blood aren't so bad and it wont be a problem to actually make the appointments and the waits wont be so bad, especially in the mornings. I went in there and I had a friendly welcome by the lady and the worker that takes your blood. I was good to go on health and had good veins, but when the screening process took play (this is where they ask a lot of questions), I already felt like I was going to get denied, most of the questions I gave this guy he had his perfect volunteer, until he asked me that I have been in jail before. I said yes, and I wasn't sure how long i was in there, but it was 3-4 days, next thing I felt doubt from him, you have to be under 72 hours in jail to still donate blood. I wasn't assure, and I knew he wanted to be on the safe side, with that being said, I was denied. I was devastated. Instead of going for what I intended for was to help people out wherever they are and help contribute developing security for hospitals that are in desperate need of blood. Yet I was denied, and I felt terrible, because I felt worthless, and I can't do anything right.

I know I am good at things I am extremely passionate about, but these past 2 screw ups have done nothing but reflect and care so much about what people think, and even the situations that go on in movies.

I am so lost, but today was a day, I was thinking of drinking again, but I know I need to stop, because I drink irresponsibly. I haven't been in a car accident, and the 2nd one I wasn't even driving, I just had the keys in the ignition, listening to the radio. I am trying to do things to help others, but I constantly keep finding ways to torment myself.

I just want to show women I can be responsible, that I can look on the bright side of life, and not dwell on the negatives. I have been nothing but grouchy and very negative to everything that doesn't equal to my standards of living. Even though my standards of living were never that high, because I constantly fork over 1000's of dollars to attorneys, reinstatements, fines, impound fees, etc.

I know I am not a bad person, but being denied of blood today made me feel terrible, not to mention I would have to wait an entire year to donate because of my poor choice and time spent in jail.

I am so lost and clues, but before I go to sleep tonight, I am going to read more of the secret.

Anyways, I thank all for reading..

[Andrew Wilkie]

Shay,

Welcome and congratulations. What you are writing about is very honest and at least part of you has had enough and wants to change. From me you'll not get a "poor you". You created this situation, even though you may want to blame other people and places. You're always there in the middle of them all.

You're coming to know this information because you are ready to receive it and be open to change your behaviour on some level. 22 years old and 22 days sober - Happy Days.

Drinking and driving is a choice.  You now have to live with the consequences of your decision.

Don't be angry at the library or it will take longer for your books to arrive.

You focused on being denied and having a bad experience and that is what you got. If you normally think like that, that is what you'll get.

The DMV etc. are just protecting themselves.  Not everybody is like you and wants to change.  You have to win their trust and respect back.  The only one who can change them and their attitudes is you.

YOUR NOT WORTHLESS. No matter if it feels like that. If you were later on, able to give blood. Do you know how many people you could inspire and help with your story and 'how to'?

I've been to Vegas and I know it's big. Yet, why not give your keys to a friend or relative or put them in a block of ice in the freezer. Then you can't get near or in your car. There is always a taxi, friend or legs.

You listed a whole heap of stuff about how you can demonstrate value and worth to other people and organisations. What about to and for you?

If you start taking small steps to change yourself, just imagine how many fewer or no more dollars to attorneys etc.

So, where to from here?

You have read some books, a great 1st step. Now, what steps are you taking to impliment what you have read and learnt?

1. Have you written your ideal day down?
2. Have you started creating your vision board?
3. Do you know anybody who has been in your situation and can mentor or coach you out of it?
4. Have you told your 'friends' I'm not drinking anymore or drink less and responsibly.  That doesn't mean you cannot still enjoy yourself.
5. What are you goals, desires and wants?
6. Have you created space for new things to happen? i.e. Removed alcohol from your house, got rid of bad friends,people and places.
7. Is there anybody you need to ask forgiveness from? - It would be best to go and see the person in person, yet you could always just a letter.
8. Tell people you are wanting and changing, but you'll need their help and support. There is no weakness in this. The fact that you're open and honest shows great strength.

You're on the road to better things and change if you want it. Not to just pay lip service to it. If you really want to change YOU can.  If friends and family try and keep you donw or hold you back....dump them or move.


You might want to check this out too - http://www.eftmagic.com/blog/articles/eft-for-alcohol-abuse-and-alcoholics/

Let us know what you do. How soon can you get your vision board up and running? Oh tomorrow is Saturday, so by Sunday then. Great

I Shay, commit to............

Your doing great!