Author Topic: Getting Started in LOA? (Read 2189 times)

loz · « **on:** May 25, 2011, 10:40:11 PM »

Hi there,

I've been looking around this site for a couple of days now, very interested in applying LOA to my life and also happy to see how kind people seem to be to each other. I'm trying to get into the way of thinking that I keep reading about, but I'm struggling a bit with quite how and where to begin. For instance the 'letting go' part seems a bit vague. I'm trying to move on from losing someone very close to me so I'm particularly keen on this part. Plus two close family members of mine have died this year but, and sorry if this sounds unpleasant, the pain wasn't anywhere near this bad. I'm trying to avoid the thoughts of calling her up, and the bouts of unbelievable sadness which are preventing me sleeping, but I just seem to be scrambling my thoughts rather than changing or letting them go. It's not peaceful or soothing, more like sticking my fingers in my ears and shouting 'la la la!'

I feel in a bit af a rut in my life where I keep making the same mistakes and falling into the same traps over and over. It's not that I want unbelievable wealth or even necessarily my girlfriend back. Although that in particular would be nice. I'm just looking for a way of improving myself really - getting away from drugs, alcohol and cigarettes and feelings of low self worth, and just being a bit happier in my own skin. In fact just a decent nights sleep would be nice at the moment.

Could someone give me a few pointers of a good place to start and things that would help? I've been reading about a visual board. Would trying to construct one be a good place to start?

Thanks,

Loz

Detached&Allowing · « **Reply #1 on:** May 26, 2011, 12:29:50 AM »

Welcome to our community Loz. We are all here to help. To clarify the workings of LOA, I would like to emphasize LOA is subconsciously in motion 24/7. (like the law of gravity) I like to use the phrase "consciously manifest". Think back to the past, how many that you really "didn't want" to happen, happened? How many times have you said "I never" only to experience whatever it was you said you would never do/accept/ be etc?

The Universe doesn't hear the words "no" or "don't". It hears the passion behind whatever it is you do or don't want. If you have seen the movie The Secret, it uses driving to work as an analogy. If you keep saying "I don't want to be late" or you have a fear of being late, the Universe will align those red lights so you hit every one. Now if you focus on being on time and how grateful you are for a having a reliable car and a job to go to, the Universe will make that happen too.

Basic principal is "like" attracts "like". Happiness attracts more to be happy for. Sadness attracts more to be sad about. Our attitude is what makes the difference. People with addictions have a tendency to put the blame of their circumstances on everyone else. To successfully consciously manifest for the better, you may want to consider taking responsibility for all that has happened in your life. You attracted your visit here. While many events had to happen to take you to where you "didn't" want to go, the energy you emitted has taken you through life. Forgiveness is a big deal too. When people do us wrong we have a tendency to hold onto our anger towards that person. We may have been abused, taken for granted etc and with the inability to forgive those people in our heart we attracted more of the same. Does that make sense. If you haven't already, you may want to consider forgiving those folks who you feel have wronged you. All you have to do is say to yourself "I forgive {person's name} for {whatever they did wrong}" Forgiveness is freedom.

I always like to suggest that new members start with a gratitude list. Write down ten things you are grateful for. At the end of that list add to it the things you desire to have as though you already have it. For instance, "I am grateful for the peace and happiness in my life""I am grateful for my sober and disciplined life"" I am grateful to have the ability to recognize the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference"

Read this list aloud each and every night, then put it away. You can also incorporate "Ho'oponopono" You basically surrendering to your higher power, recognizing you may need help along the way.

I am sorry
Please forgive me
Thank you
I love you

Sorry this is so long and hope it helps.

Lots of love!!

loz · « **Reply #2 on:** May 26, 2011, 12:53:48 AM »

Thank you so much for your reply schenderson22, it's helped me understand things better. And please don't apologise for the length. Much appreciated!

I'm beginning to see how training one's mind to think positively is a big part of what most people on here are trying to acheive, and much of the basics of LOA. I recognise what you are saying about the 'like attracts like' principal. I have often found myself practicing a negative self fufilling prophecy in various aspects of my life, but have felt almost powerless to stop it. In my last relationship, it was mainly my paranoia of her losing interest and having doubts that caused her to lose interest and have doubts.

Thanks again for your words. I'll be writing out a gratitude list right now

Detached&Allowing · « **Reply #3 on:** May 26, 2011, 02:51:00 AM »

It's good that you can recognize what you did to attract what happened to you. That is a great start. I have only been practicing Ho'oponopono for about three weeks and my life is full of peace. It is definitely a valuable tool. I have been coaching several people on this site for about a year. If there is anything else I can do to help please feel free to send me a message by clicking on my name. It will take you to my profile. Near the bottom there is a link to send a personal message.

Lots of love!!

57angel · « **Reply #4 on:** May 26, 2011, 07:50:28 AM »

Quote from: loz on May 26, 2011, 12:53:48 AM

I'm beginning to see how training one's mind to think positively is a big part of what most people on here are trying to achieve, and much of the basics of LOA. I recognise what you are saying about the 'like attracts like' principal. I have often found myself practicing a negative self fufilling prophecy in various aspects of my life, but have felt almost powerless to stop it. In my last relationship, it was mainly my paranoia of her losing interest and having doubts that caused her to lose interest and have doubts.

Acknowledging and taking responsibility of all your actions, feelings and the vibrations that you will emit is one big leap already for you Loz, am happy for you, you are definitely close to getting whatever your heart so desires. Keep loving yourself, Schenderson offered you very good advise. I also suggest you use Sedona method in letting go of the negative feelings keep there in your subconscious mind. Keep coming here, lots of love and blessings to you - you deserve to have all the best

loz · « **Reply #5 on:** May 26, 2011, 05:28:51 PM »

Thanks schenderson22 for your kind offer to contact you. I do have quite a few questions and thoughts, that would be great if I could get in touch in the next few days when I have a bit more time.

Thanks also 57angel, for this response and also your one on the earlier thread. I'll be looking into the Sedona method.

I did make a gratitude list last night. It took a fair bit of time but I read it a few times before bed and did feel much better as I turned out the light. I managed to get a decent nights sleep and feel pretty good today, I have to say. When I think of my ex, rather than think about what I've lost I have been thinking about holding her and how nice that feels. I keep saying to myself how thankful I am that I don't need alcohol or cigarettes, which stopping is something I'm finding easy. I saw some friends last night and will be again tonight, and am feeling quite optomistic about life in general.

I do have a slight problem in that I need to send my ex some stuff I told her I'd send down the last time we spoke. Which was when we broke up. I would like to say something - just a short note with the stuff - but am struggling to find the right tone. I want to say that while I miss her and feel I have lost my best friend and soulmate, I realise that it couldn't go on as it was and do now feel almost better, knowing how things are rather than worrying about how they might be. I also don't want her to think she can never contact me again and, while I know anytime soon would be a bad idea, it would be nice to hear how she's doing at some point in the future. My gut tells me this would be a mistake however and I'm not sure quite how to go about it. I can't not put any message in but at the same time don't want to sound needy and desperate.

How would you go about it?

Vicki Christina · « **Reply #6 on:** May 26, 2011, 06:13:10 PM »

Hello, When your gut tells you the time is right, send that note! It has a loving tone.... In the mean time, keep working on loving yourself! VC

Era · « **Reply #7 on:** May 27, 2011, 12:15:56 AM »

Hi there Sweetie, I can see where you’re coming from, learn to let go. Whatever happens in your life, let it go. Worrying and making a fuss over it doesn’t make it better – it only makes things worse. Remember that the Law of Attraction states that you have or become what you think about – most of the time. You may also want to try the help of meditation and Affirmation.

http://attractingabundancehq.com/attracting-abundance-the-power-of-meditation-and-affirmations/

loz · « **Reply #8 on:** May 28, 2011, 03:28:53 PM »

Thanks Era and VC.

I did send the note. May not have been the beat idea, but I needed to send the parcel at some point and wanted to get it over with so I could let go properly. I won't be contacting her again though now.

Thanks for the link, Era. I've been trying to understand meditation a bit better these last few days, and think I am getting somewhere. It's not like some great epiphany or anything but I think I'm gradually learning to clear my mind a bit better.

Keep reading and keep trying I reckon.

Thanks again,

Loz

missorlando · « **Reply #9 on:** May 28, 2011, 05:41:52 PM »

Well i think you should be proud of yourself.
You are seeking a higher state of being, you are not blaming and you are not wollowing. This is all proof you are starting to work with the LOA. Its all about taking responsibility for your life as it is now and thinking...ok...maybe I would like to change this.
I am actually really impressed, I went through a break up last year (we are back together) and I totally fell apart, my story was on this site, in all its self pitying glory.
I can see you are strong and believe me, you can achieve anything.

YOU CAN ACHIEVE ANYTHING.

Well done, you migh not feel brave and strong but you are. We are all here for you too which helps
xxxx

loz · « **Reply #10 on:** May 31, 2011, 12:22:50 AM »

Thanks for the encouraging words missorlando, your support counts for a lot. Very happy to hear you got back with your ex.

I can't lie, today has been a bit.... difficult, and I can't quite work out why. I felt great Friday night, did a lot of reading up on various aspects of LOA and fell soundly asleep. Saturday spent the day doing stuff around the house then went out in the evening for the football. It felt like I was beginning to attract a bit, as before I went out was thinking how nice it would be to see some friends for the evening, but could never have expected just how many old friends would be out when I got there. I got to catch up with people I'd not seen for years and had such a good time. The only downside was I ended up pretty drunk and smoking when I told myself I wasn't going to, but I haven't fallen back into it so I'm not too bothered. Yesterday was ok too, even though I didn't do that much. Watched the motor racing at a friends then came home and did a bit more reading.

I've spent today creating a visual board of sorts (no printer so it's just a file with pictures in it on my computer at the minute) and reading up on meditation, which I gave a go earlier. I've also been trying to keep busy to distract myself (house has never been so clean), but can't shake this uneasy feeling about my ex. I've been doing quite well so far with re-directing my train of thought if anything unpleasant comes up but today it seems to have been getting the better of me. The thought of her with someone else for example keeps coming into my head, and I struggle to not let the thought snowball. I have a feeling that it might be just because I've been on my own all day, and when I get back to work tomorrow things should improve. I just can't help but fret that I'm never going to see her again, which I know is the opposite of what I should be doing but I don't know quite how to turn things around. For the last 7 months we spoke nearly every day for at least a couple of hours. It was so intense and romantic, with plans to start a life together. Then all that disappeared in the space of a 20 minute phone call and I don't quite know how to fill the space.

Sorry for going on (again). I know I need to let go to have any hope of moving on but don't know how to go about it. Has anyone who's gone through a similar situation any advice?

Thanks for all your kind words of advice so far.

Detached&Allowing · « **Reply #11 on:** June 01, 2011, 02:16:55 AM »

I am sorry you had a rough day. Tomorrow is a new day.

It's okay to have thoughts and feelings about her that may not be so positive at times. The key is avoid dwelling on it. I like to watch movies when I am feeling that way. It is a complete distraction.

To "assume" you two won't be together in the future is silly. You two needed to break up so you could find this community and work on your areas in need of improvement. Doesn't mean that one month or six months from now that won't change. In addition, when woman loves a man, she doesn't just jump out there and start dating again once he is gone. Trust me, I know.

You are letting your imagination run wild. Find a way to keep your mind engaged in something happy and different. This will pass.

Lots of love!!

57angel · « **Reply #12 on:** June 07, 2011, 08:45:20 AM »

Sheri is right, you need to have a break for you to find this forum, you can make yourself a better and happier you, for an improved relationship with her. Now is your chance to love yourself more, to put yourself in your pedestal and to work inwards while doing the things you love. She will be back in no time with an improved relationship, she needs to learn her lessons as well

Letting go of negative feelings will get you to where your heart so desires, so commit to it. You can use Sedona Method and H'oponopono, these work wonders to everyone who constantly use them.

loz · « **Reply #13 on:** June 07, 2011, 08:52:41 PM »

Thanks guys,

Things were going pretty ok until recently when I had a bit of bad luck. I've broken my ankle pretty badly - they've had to insert various plates and screws in there - and had a stay in hospital. Then foolishly sent her an email straight after getting out, telling her how much I love her and how there must be a way, and basically coming across as pretty desperate and pathetic - not something I would normally do. I was fairly low at the point of sending and regretted it pretty much straight away, and the response wasn't great. Think I freaked her out a bit and she's now understandably a bit wary. I apologised for the out-pouring, trying to say how bad a time it was and how been in hospital had highlighted missing her and everything, but don't think I'll be hearing from her again. Not for some time at least anyway.

Although I have to say there is an element of relief to the whole situation now. I think being told straight has allowed me to begin moving on and I feel quite liberated from the whole thing, which is rather nice. I'm sad but not upset or angry, and am just looking forward to eventually getting off the sofa and doing stuff again. To be honest, whenever I tell people about how our relationship was, they seem to act surprised at the things I put up with, and I'm starting to take my blinkers off a bit and wonder why I did too. There was nothing particularly bad, but she went out a lot at weekends and such in her city, and when we'd speak afterwards there was always someone hitting on her or trying it on. I trusted her completely, but could never understand why she felt the need to tell me every single time. I've never been a jealous person, but when you are 200 miles away listening to your girlfriend tell you how much attention she's getting at these clubs she's always at, I think it drove me a bit mad by the end. Then any hint of displeasure from me would result in her getting angry, and I'd end up being the one apologising just for an easy life.

But anyway, I don't really care that much anymore. schenderson has given me some good advice and I have a good few weeks ahead of me of reading, relaxing and not worrying about very much at all other than getting my leg and attitude sorted.

Thanks again for the advice,

Love Loz

manifestwfh · « **Reply #14 on:** June 09, 2011, 01:48:56 AM »

Oh wow! I'm sorry to hear about your ankle! Just focus on it being strong and well. I know how antsy you can get sitting on a couch, though, so take the time to really work on yourself. It really could be a blessing and just what you needed!

I've been working with the LOA for a while and recently I found a program that you might like since you're laid up. Bob Proctor was one of my favorite parts of The Secret and I found a program that he has created that delves deeper into the laws. I feel like it was the next step for me and I've had some really great experiences and manifestations since doing this work. We just have to keep digging deeper to understand the power we all possess! It's really remarkable what we're each capable of. Anyway, here's the info for his program called The 11 Forgotten Laws. Hopefully it is just what you needed!

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Rest up and try to be grateful for the universe slowing you down and making you focus on you!