friendly advice to give to a friend

[hopeful1234]

Hi Guys,
so i need some guidance and where better to ask then on here!!

My best friend is going through a rough time at the moment, she met a guy who lives in New Zealand whilst he was visting London which is where she lives. Anyway hes absolutly besotted with her which i think is so sweet. They've kept in touch and 6 months later he asked her to move to New Zealand. I have one major issue with this - i do not know the guy and feel really uncomfortable with the move if she decieded with it, but i kept that to myself. However she said no to him because she doesnt want to leave her family behind.
He's now turned around and called her insensitive and negative. When she told me i was very angry with him because shes far from these qualities. Anyway shes a bit down in the dumps about this, as to her he's a great guy but a relationship cant be formed with one person living on the other side of the world!!

how can the law of attraction help in the situation? i want to make her feel postive about this situation?

[Berylac]

Hi,

:: First Phase ::

How do you want the Law of Attraction to help to make her feel positive when the other party is vibrating a very strong and indecisive; negativity vibrations?

"Kept in touch for 6 months.", "Asked her to move to his country" & "He's now turned around and called her insensitive & negative."

Inferential: In my own opinion, this person who wants her to move to his country, isn't interested on her. They have been kept in touch for six months, after then asked her to move to his country. In the end, when she rejected his request, he turned around and commented some negativities' comments. In such a trivial matter and he was so angry, I would suggest her to find another one because the guy isn't interested or care her feelings & issues. Isn't this weird? When I have re-read your post and that particular paragraph for about 40 times, I can feel desperation energy behind it. He is desperate for her and not sincerely acknowledge her. I am just being straight-forward and this is only my own form of opinion.

Best Advice: Let go of him. Find another new fish in the pond. He is using an advantage of her.


:: Second Phase ::

This maybe only a perception. Which means not accurately true or fact. Have more routes in your mind. Maybe that person who likes her has been waited for her for six months. And he didn't date anyone in his region except talking to her because he likes her. And when he feels rejected by the other party by not following his idea, his first reaction would be angry and tiresome.

Inferential: Maybe he got too angry to accept the fact. This is probably alright. Sometimes we humans always response to our first reaction with what we feel predominately. Ask her to speak to him privately and have a couple conversation.

Differential Between Reactions & Responses:

There's a great different between response and react. Response is a process where it's moderated by both minds and the answers are usually very understanding. React is a process where he didn't really think about, just blurted out whatever his emotions are.

In terms of Neuro-Linguistic Programming's, when two persons quarrel or angry with one another, the rapport(known as relationship bridge) are not yet broken. It just temporary shut down. Sometimes, time would heal and amend the bridge. This would create a sub conscious mind, called Mastermind between both of them like before and soon they will be talking again. Encourage her to talk to him again so that they can be together and to settle with each and another's needs.

In terms of Napoleon Hill's Theory,

"Time is a Master Worker that heals the wounds of temporary defeat, and equalizes the inequalities and rights the wrongs of the world. There is nothing 'Impossible' with time."

Give her time to heal the wounds. Give him time to change himself and to have some ideas that would treat her better or give her an equalities rights from the wrongs. There is nothing impossible with time. It just works amazing and you will soon see her chatting with him soon.

Best Advice: Ask her to talk to him in a kind way. Forgive what he did and create a new relationship with more understandings and personal needs' with him again.


Hope this helps,

Regards,
Berylac