For those of you who gave up on getting their love back

[beautifulmesss12sc]

I guess i am jusrt wondering why u gave up on him/her... i am not at the point to give up ... jsut let go...

Did you give up because u just decided he was not the one for you afterall ... or because you were not getting results that you wanted
what if you were right there at the brink of him/her coming back and u gave up??

I know it gets hard.. and tiresome somtimes...but i cant imagine giving up on him... i love him unconditionally .. even though he didnt always do the right thing and i sometimes get mad at him... i still even.. if i was not the one he chose(but i will be) i would wish him happiness...not saying you all wouldnt

i guess really the question is what made you give up the idea of being with that person you originally came here for and how long did it take to get to that point

[beautifuldreamer]

I gave up on a guy I loved because I lost all hope of him coming back and one day I just decided that I deserved better. He came back 4days later.

[def]

I remember the first time me and my love broke up I had given up and I was just living my life working on myself I heard nothing from him. I gave up and he came to me with a ring and proposed. I was so amazed and in ore. Well I am in the process of attracting him into my life again but I did let him go freely. I kissed him on the lips looked him in the eyes and told him to be happy with or without me. I spoke to his niece a few days ago just in a message. She spoke of his new gf and she doesn't like her at all. That I am better. My response was for her to give her a chance you want your uncle to be happy right. I am all about everyone being happy. I am happy. I would be happier with him but I am happy even if I don't. So you can attract them back in your life just once they are back in your life cherish every moment. I am doing that more so everyday cherishing every moment.

[CityOfDavid]

I spent a year and a half trying to reconcile with my whatever you want to call her, I moved on as she continually showed me that she had moved on, I would say "I love you" to her which would fall on deaf ears, she never said it back and she doesn't even know or remember my birthday

....sooooo  I decided that I deserve much better and though I am not perfect and make mistakes which I truly try to learn from, I don't deserve to be treated like dog poop....sometimes we have to learn that love doesn't love anyone and that it is your responsibility to love yourself and not look for someone else to love you for happiness, that is the lesson I learned along with learning that it is okay to be by yourself....

[57angel]

My ex made me feel I was stomped and crushed as a person, I then felt so sick, so unhappy! Then I told myself I already hated the feeling of so sad, so unhappy, and then wished to become a happy, if not, happier me! Then the movie The Secret came into my life, I started practicing LOA, the rest was history. I must admit, I came into this forum to attract my ex back, but then as I started loving myself more, I then know what I deserve And I am so sure now that I deserve someone better. Yes, he has the qualities I know will not make me happy and I fully believe that he will change eventually if I will ask for it. But then, with so many times of asking myself, with so many nights of reflection, I then decided to let him go for good. He has many issues in his life which I find will be difficult for me in the long run mmmmm and I didn't love him that much as well, in the same way that he didn't love me that deep to just give up on me that easy. Looking back, I can now smile and even laugh at me on how I acted just to get him back, and I am more than grateful now that he chose not to give me another chance I now take him as my Personal Emotional Trainer, and is grateful that he came along that open the door towards a better and happier me Indeed, no matter how negative the situation is, it always brings blessings and lessons, a way for us to become better and happier

[JustForToday]

My ex made me feel I was stomped and crushed as a person, I then felt so sick, so unhappy! Then I told myself I already hated the feeling of so sad, so unhappy, and then wished to become a happy, if not, happier me! Then the movie The Secret came into my life, I started practicing LOA, the rest was history. I must admit, I came into this forum to attract my ex back, but then as I started loving myself more, I then know what I deserve And I am so sure now that I deserve someone better. Yes, he has the qualities I know will not make me happy and I fully believe that he will change eventually if I will ask for it. But then, with so many times of asking myself, with so many nights of reflection, I then decided to let him go for good. He has many issues in his life which I find will be difficult for me in the long run mmmmm and I didn't love him that much as well, in the same way that he didn't love me that deep to just give up on me that easy. Looking back, I can now smile and even laugh at me on how I acted just to get him back, and I am more than grateful now that he chose not to give me another chance I now take him as my Personal Emotional Trainer, and is grateful that he came along that open the door towards a better and happier me Indeed, no matter how negative the situation is, it always brings blessings and lessons, a way for us to become better and happier

haha, you took the word right out of my mouth---- but EXACTLY

i too decided to let go of all the hurtings and that i deserve much better treatment and dont need to take this pain anymore.....

great decision. i also found it out when i (re) found loa ......
the old desperate melanie died and here is the new one who takes only the best for her

we can just celebrate, cant we?
 

[ava]

I gave up on him.he is my love/my heart/my soul/my soulmate..i can't imagine my life without him,but it has been a long time that we are not together....so i had to gave up....i am moving on.i am with another guy.i don't love him,but he loves me....my heart belongs to another one....i personally after 2 years and 6 months that i tried to get back with him,i gave up on him...not because he is not the one.it is because i can't make him to be with me.he is a mature person.if he decides that i am not the one for him,he has the free will and i can't make him to be with me.......

[beautifulmesss12sc]

I think it is great that u have let go and decided to have the one meant for you by the universe and IF it is your ex the universe will bring the BETTER version of him back to you

and after i made this post .. i decided that i wld ask the universe to do just that and if IT was not meant for he and I to be together than bring me a better version of him with all HIS GOOD qualities...I made a list...It describes the man i met 2 yrs ago .. not what he changed into although maybe i had a hand in that and maybe i changed too for the worst ... and leave the bad qualities at the door


BUT theni think does it matter if he and i were MEANT to be together .. i mean with LOA cant you change everything if u focus hard enuf...or desire it bad enuf...

I too want the right one for  me i just believe it is him ... i knw how wonderful he can be
so i know deep down in my heart it is HIM who i want ... but my desire is that the universe brings him back without all the baggage.. so when i think its taking too long i just say ...they are working on it .. making him the man i know he can be .. he never mistreated me ... we just grew apart

[beautifulmesss12sc]

Ava im sorry ... i wonder sometimes if i am just hoping for something that not going to happen...and i dont want to settle for someone i dont love just to have someone .

[ava]

Don't blame me please.i have been single for 2years and 6 months!!! Are you telling me to be single and not initiate a new relationship with someone else?i am moving on with my life and I think I am doing right!!! I am doing this cause I want to feel that I am alive and my happiness doesn't depend on a person! I don't say I hate this new guy.i like him,but I don't love him! He is the first guy I am with after my break up with my love(2 years and 6 months ago)!!

[animor]

I had a boyfriend once, we decided to break up due to many reasons, he had to travel a lot for his job, I had to stay at one place for my studies, we had an age gap, too. But I believed he was my soulmate, and I still believe he is one of my soulmates, I don't think we have just one in this world!
After the break up, I wanted to have a second chance with him. Nothing happened so I gave up. I asked then to find my soulmate and stopped focus on him. One day he just appeared and proposed me. Anyway, we didn't get married, we remained some kind of friends. Now, at my recent break up, I asked to have my ex back, and instead of my recent one, that previous ex came back, many years after our relationship had ended, without knowing that I am single again and he told me that he feels that I am the one for him.

Now, my recent ex, I haven't given up, it's been a few months we are apart. I don't care that he doesn't show anything that indicates he wants to come back with me. I believe we are together. He may not be my soulmate, the man I'll spend the rest of my life with, but he is the one I want and I asked for and know it is given. But I'm not obsessed, I want him to be happy, I want myself to be happy, I just know that we can be happy together.

However, as it is always suggested, I asked for a relationship with him or a better one.

[beautifulmesss12sc]

NO AVA ... of course not i am not suggesting you shld not move on with your life .. if you feel that is right for you.we all have to decide at some point . I was talking about me i have tried dating as well ... mostly as a distraction i guess... but i know in my heart what i want .. i guess after 2.5 yrs i wld hopefully have moved on as well ... So sorry i didnt mean to imply what u r doing is wrong ... only referring to myself ... its just lately i have read so many posts of ppl give up on the guy they wanted so badly at one time...

and it made me question the whole LOA thing

I have seen alot of success stories and it keeps me hopeful ...and i know not everyone will get what they want wether its because we dont fully let go(my case) or maybe just realize He is really not the one they want

But i see the ones who say they deserve better ... and i agree we all deserve to be treatd with love and respect and not to be strung along ... but i guess what i am asking is that LOA says we can ask for them .. the way we want them to be... so i just get confused and doubting which i dont want .. so i was just asking what made u decide that u didnt want to persue what u set out to do

No dear AVA ... maybe the universe sent your new guy to you and in time your love will grow .. i just know for me i am not at that point ..and IF we can have anything we desire .. the way we desire it .. then why are so many giving up.. makes me sad .. but i do understand i have been at that point in wondering if i sholuld too ... but i know LOA will NOT let me give up or let me down

[LovePoisoned]

I gave up on a guy I loved because I lost all hope of him coming back and one day I just decided that I deserved better. He came back 4days later.

OH MY GOSH!!!
That is just TERRIFIC!!!
Congratulations!
Maybe you "accidentally" sent some vibes to him, that helped him realize what he lost.
That happens often. What you had done is basically letting go, I think.

@ beautifulmesss12sc - I think I have, about 50%, already LET GO (but NOT given up!). Actually, I don't think we can ever really completely give up on TRUE love. Maybe we let go, but we simply let nature take its course... I still believe and KNOW (and visualize) that Andon will come back to me. However, I'm not stuck, static, whatsoever. If I found a new good relationship, I'd commit to it.

[JustForToday]

i just want to add a quote, i just found on FB and it really fits on here-

MAYBE ITS NOT ALWAYS ABOUT TRYING TO FIX SOMETHING BROKEN-
MAYBE ITS ABOUT STARTING OVER AND CREATE SOMETHING BETTER

i chose to create something better, that doesnt mean though i didnt feel true love for him. i did and i was sure he is my soulmate.

but we couldnt fix something which got broken many times, its just like trying to repair a glass which fell down many many times, it will never look and be the same.

and i am just talking about painful relationships here. there is really a point to ask yourself- do i need to take it?
my therapist years ago told me, that they are always two sides---- one who is giving "the pain" and the can decide if they want to take it. taking the pain is a sign for me to be desperate and needy and not confident at all. that was me, but i am glad that i know better now!

[def]

Yes there is a lot of wisdom in those words crazysoul, it is about starting a fresh new relationship with ourselves, with love ones and of a romantic nature. Think about this we are life and death everyday we shed the old and create new whether it be blood, skin and so on. My point is this that old relationship you had with an ex is just that. Embrace the death of that relationship and if you want a romantic new relationship with a person from your past then embrace that too. Create the love you want now for all we have is now. Have faith, remember when the time is right.