Doubts.. Fears.. Limiting Beliefs... How to remove them???

[LoaCoachNZ]

Hi People!

Doubts... Fears... Limiting Beliefs... How can we help others remove these "blocks" to allowing and receiving!?  Noticeably as we all move around this forum, we find people who can identify what it is that they DO want, and get excited about their desires but then doubt creeps in for them and their limiting beliefs surface and they go from a state of positive expectancy to that of confusion, desperation and an overall state of "will my desires ever show up!!!"

You are all such amazing people here and I woke up this morning with a question after a dream I had.  How can we help others remove the blocks, and give them the freedom to allow all of which they desire?  Whether that is attracting their ex back into their lives, attracting more money, more abundance, more freedom, more happiness, a better job... ANYTHING!!

Can we share our experiences, our knowledge and reach out and touch the lives of people today?
There may be one piece of information in here that you could share that would change the course of someone’s life forever!
Please share your wisdom!

[schenderson22]

Removing all the doubts, fears and limiting beliefs can be challenging.  They all have been years in the making.  I have found using EFT has been useful, especially for immediate relief.  You can find videos on youtube or you can purchase "The Tapping Solution" from www.thetappingsolution.com  I started researching EFT but didn't quite understand it through the youtube videos.  After purchasing The Tapping Solution, I got a true insight on why, how to and the benefits of doing it.  It absolutely does help.  Keeping my emotions under control also helps.  In most cases as humans we are reactive to others behavior and the events that take place around us.  Positive self talk has helped me as well.  I will often say to myself how grateful I am for the opposite of what I may be feeling at the time.  The limiting beliefs are tough b/c you have to get to the root of the cause.  I found positive affirmation videos and exercises in "Ask and It Is Given" written by Esther and Jerry Hicks to be quite helpful.

Would anyone else like to share?

[LoaCoachNZ]

schenderson22,

Thank you for sharing! I am always grateful when reading your ideas, thoughts and inspirations.  EFT Is incredibly powerful and most certainly a great addition to allowing with the Law of Attraction. 

Michael Losier, author of The Law of Attraction included in his book a section on allowing. It has really helped me remove some of the block that I have experienced during my journey with LOA! I would recommend this to anyone wanting to removed some of the doubts surrounding their desires!

[Jerome Faraday]

Hello and blessings,

Meditation is what helps me get over my limiting thoughts. I typically use a recording of myself to get into a deep trance and then guide myself through my affirmations and various visuals. I also like Wayne Dyer's recommendation for meditating to the sound of "ahh" in the morning and visualizing our creations and "om" in the evening as we reflect in gratitude.

Dyer argues "ahh" is the universal sound of God. It's an interesting theory when you look at the names for God in many religions: God, Yahweh, Shiva, Brahma, Allah, etc.

I find that I'm more mentally powerful after meditation and weaker if I miss it for several days.

JF

[LoaCoachNZ]

JF!

Thank you for your post!   I will most certainly have a look at your recommendation to
Wayne Dyer's work. 

Thank you for sharing and giving of yourself today.

[LoaCoachNZ]

Hey People!

I was listening to an interview with Michael Losier last night around the topic of allowing and he mentioned a few things of which I wanted to share with you all!

Allowing, for all of those that are new to LOA, is just the absences of doubt!  You can help increase your level of vibration and remove doubt by asking yourself "better questions"  One question mentioned to help remove some of the doubt around attracting your desire is to ask yourself... " Is there anyone is the world right now that has what it is that I want?"

E.g.  My desire is to attract my ex partner back in to my life:
Question:  " Is there anyone in the world right now that has attracted their ex back in to their life” The answer.... OF COURSE!  This opens you up to the possibility and increases your level of positive expectancy!  You can literally have ANYTHING you want... You just have to ask, believe and allow

Peace and Love people 

Coach

[judasentinel]

What happens if your intention and desire conflicts with the agenda of another person in such a way that if your desire comes true, then the other's desire does not, and vice versa?

[LoaCoachNZ]

Hey Judasentinel!

Great question!!  My suggestion would be to include the "specific persons" Desire in your current vibration if that is what you want.  If you feel that it may conflict with their desire, then sure enough if that is where the focus and enegry is, that is what will show up.

Also if the intentions and desires of two people do not match vibrationally they will not match up.
Could you share an example with us Judasentinel?  I think this is a terrific question and we can all learn something from you here

[judasentinel]

Hey Judasentinel!

Great question!!  My suggestion would be to include the "specific persons" Desire in your current vibration if that is what you want.  If you feel that it may conflict with their desire, then sure enough if that is where the focus and enegry is, that is what will show up.

Also if the intentions and desires of two people do not match vibrationally they will not match up.
Could you share an example with us Judasentinel?  I think this is a terrific question and we can all learn something from you here

Simple case in point: One person wants to win back the love of his life and she doesn't want to go back. She wants nothing to do with him. What happens then?

[LoaCoachNZ]

Fantastic example and quite a common one too!

If an ex has no intention of returning to a previous relationship we have no control over changing that, we have influence at best.  If an ex wants nothing to do with you, my suggestion would be to engage in self reflection, look inside yourself and work on developing your self confidence, self esteem and other aspects of your life including your health and mental wellbeing.

It is amazing the people you can attract back in to your life when you become a more attractive person from the inside out.  Why do I say this?  I attracted an ex back in to my life after I was told there was no way she would ever speak to me again!  I went inside, I used the comments that were thrown at me from her as a platform to step up and become a more attractive, self confident and loving person then I’d ever been before....  Long story short, I learnt a lot about myself and the pieces of the puzzle missing in our relationship prior... I became more loving, more understanding, more compassionate person...  (Perfect vibrational match).  Through visualisations, affirmations, faith and patients I was able to attract exactly what I wanted

Judasentinel, can you share you wisdom around your question?  What would you suggest to others?

Thanks for your post

[judasentinel]

Aint no wisdom here, man. Just life experience.

What I want to stress is that we all need to stop seeing LoA as a magic pill that we need to take and our lovers will come crawling back, begging us to take them back. Doesn't work that way.

LoA does NOT violate the free will of another without the consent of that person. It doesn't even influence it. Even in your own example, you never influenced your ex. What truly happened was that YOU changed as a result of a renewed understanding, self-reflection. YOU became the person who was attractive to your ex. The LoA did not change your ex in any profound way. YOU improved, as you admitted. That is my point. I think a lot of us are misunderstanding the LoA and what it means to be a vibrational match.

I will tell you my situation in 3 paragraphs. I am in love with a girl who I was with for 7 months, until in August I decided to leave her because she started being interested in her ex. She says we never had a relationship and we were just roommates. She is a great gal, but all her goodness was always showered on others, except me. So I know how amazing she CAN be. I left her, but I want to be with her again. However, the way she was when I left, she is not good for me. Sick, huh? Why I still want her is simply because when she was good to me, she was the most amazing person. And I miss that. I have invested 2 years of my life in serving, protecting, and caring for her. All the promises that she made to me.......well........forget it. I dont want to badmouth her, because she is essentially a great girl.

Now I regret leaving her, and feel that she did what she did because I was too much for her to handle, too loving, too caring, and never stood up to her. The reason why I never did it was because she was always abused and hurt by men, starting from her own dad. 31 years of abuse and then one guy comes in her life who loves her and cares for her......promises to show her that a man can be loving. But it wasnt good enough for her. She went running back to others. Now she doesnt want me, doesnt even talk to me, and I miss her like hell. If her will is not be with me and mine is to be with her, HOW can it align?

I doubt that much can be done to bring her back, and have her change herself to a healthier person. And by the time she does get healthy, she will simply slip into the comfort of whoever else is in her life at that time. Why would she come back to me? All I wanted was to be with her through her journey of self improvement, but I left. I regret that.

Thats all. Think you can help me?

[judasentinel]

I think I got something. Will share it in the relationships section, but I still need your guidance to harness the true power of the LoA.

[LoaCoachNZ]

Judasentinel,

You are a wealth of knowledge!! I mean that straight from my heart.  I feel your pain through you words and I love how you said "no wisdom here, just experience"  I believe we should welcome all experiences and let them teach us.

I feel through your words you hold a lot of doubt around the possibility that you and your ex will get back together.  Have you tried EFT?  I have used it and I swear by its effectiveness to help with the process of allowing.  I know despite of everything that has happened, that there is hope and that there is the possibility of your ex coming back in to your life.... Read through your last paragraph you wrote... read it back to yourself... does that create a positive vibration or a negative one for you?... self talk is HUGE!  LOA isn’t very smart, but it is obedient, so if you have doubt like you said in your last paragraph, if you live with regret... LOA will match that vibration that you are sending out and bring you more of the same... It's law...

I've seen this time and time again my friend... We are good at identifying what we want and hey we can excited about the potential too... its doubts, fears and worries we have to deal with!

Keep your focus purely on what you WANT... always... giving attention to the unwanted will bring you more of the same.  So... What do you really really want?  How much attention, energy and foucs are you giving towards your desire everyday?  Are you allowing, letting go of the "how" and keeping a strong faith around the possibility of that of which you want coming to you?

Do you have any successes you could share around attracting you ex back?  Any small manifestations that have been in alignment to your desires?

[Elconscious]

...we all need to stop seeing LoA as a magic pill that we need to take and our lovers will come crawling back, begging us to take them back. Doesn't work that way.

And have you figured out why so?

Maybe true for the LOA alone, but there is more than just that one law for manifesting our experiences.

If her will is not be with me and mine is to be with her, HOW can it align?

Her will should not be the intial issue here. Worry not about her will, it is all about YOU remember?

I doubt that much can be done to bring her back, and have her change herself to a healthier person. And by the time she does get healthy, she will simply slip into the comfort of whoever else is in her life at that time. Why would she come back to me? All I wanted was to be with her through her journey of self improvement, but I left. I regret that.

As is mentioned, perhaps you want to work on your doubts and regrets first. Also find reasons why she actually would want to come back to you. Working on that doubt of ever getting her back is hard if not impossible when you experience life as such.

Even though others may have free will, like you do, would you be able to think of the idea that only YOU are responsible for your life experiences, including those with other people?

Do you know what that means, to me?

You can get that girl back, no matter what her free will is in relation to you.

Free will may be a gift to all of us, but whatever we manifest in our lifes is done by ourselfs, thus also other people. All you need to do and you need to do it according to the Universal Laws, is make sure that YOU will experience her back into your life.

You should not want anything for anyone else. By that I mean, instead of going: "I want this person to do such and such". You are better off going more like: "I want to experience (feel, see, hear etc.) that this person does such and such"

They may seem the same, but they are certainly not.

Please note that this is may not be true to you. It is true to me and I care to share with all of you.

Therefore, I believe that if you are not able to get her back, do not ever point to her. It is you who 'failed' to work accordingly to experience her back into your life. This is what I believe guys, please do not feel offended.

Peace and Love

[LoaCoachNZ]

Thank you for sharing Elconscious,
 
I think it very noble of you to share your view here.  It really helps us to broaden our perspective around the subject of the LOA.  There is so much useful information here in this community and I give much thanks to you for taking the time to be here!
 
Make it a great day